Lover or Fighter?

Iamfit4life
Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
edited October 2 in Chit-Chat
I supposed I'd be a lover....


I've honestly never been in a physical confrontion with anybody!


What about you?
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  • candb
    candb Posts: 238
    I don't know about lover or fighter, but you know how they say you either have a fight or flight instinct? Well, I know mine's fight. I got mugged once and even though I'm a woman and he was a strong man, I stood my ground and didn't run away screaming. He still ultimately got my money (I only had $5 on me and it wasn't worth me risking my life), but I wanted to go after him and beat the snot out of him so badly (and I'm not a violent person).
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    I am both, as the occasion calls for.

    Lover with a woman, fighter when I need to be.
  • p0pr0cksnc0ke
    p0pr0cksnc0ke Posts: 1,283 Member
    I have been in a confrontation many times.

    Back in the day, I would fight, anyone over anything.

    Now, it would take a lot for me to throw a punch, but you better believe i will if it comes to my husband or my kids. Hands down.
  • chefchazz
    chefchazz Posts: 427 Member
    im a lover but i will def be a fighter when need be!
  • JediMaster_intraining
    JediMaster_intraining Posts: 903 Member
    I'm a lover. I've never fought anyone and avoid confrontation as much as possible. Why can't we just all smoke a j and love each other? (jk) But yes, I rather hug you than hit you.


    :)
  • JDRBT
    JDRBT Posts: 264 Member
    I'm a fighter, though I haven't been in a physical altercation since childhood.

    When it comes to fighting - the trick isn't to avoid it, but to make sure it's something worth fighting over. Avoiding necessary confrontations leads to a lot of swallowed feelings, which often grow into resentment. I used to find myself getting so worked up inside over what I thought would be a huge confrontation that I avoided it, when really it wasn't so big, bad, and unresolvable. It's ALWAYS fight - just pick something worth fighting for. As Odysseus says "To be angry is easy, but at the right time and for the right reason...." I pick my battles carefully and have learned to push through the fear of confrontation and know that I'll be okay.

    I discovered that the two aren't mutually exclusive.

    In fact, if you do it in the right way and fight fair, you'll feel validated and you won't have to raise your voice or resort to any sort of violence. Argue in a healthy, fair, and loving manner and you might just find that you'll come out on top - or closer to whomever you were having trouble with. My rule for fighting with My Sailor: "Remember, it's usually the situation you're mad at, not the actual PERSON. Treat them with love, but it's okay to be angry w/ the situation." Now, if you're angry with the person, there are loving ways to tell people to go to h-e-double-hockey-sticks that will leave them happy to go there! :)
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    angry sex = AWESOMESEXPERIENCE
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    I'm a lover through and through. :smooched:
  • bookworm03
    bookworm03 Posts: 88 Member
    Fighter I guess. I went through a fun house and the host thought it would be funny to jump out at me. My natural reaction was to punch him. Before I realized what happened I already hit him. I wasn't expecting it since its not like it was a haunted house or something.
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    angry sex = AWESOMESEXPERIENCE

    that's a different thing
    and yes, yes it is
  • witchyboots
    witchyboots Posts: 154 Member
    Lover, definitely. I've never been in a proper fist fight - I HATE confrontation like that. makes me think of Fight Club though - ''How much can you know about yourself if you've never been in a fight? I don't wanna die without any scars..'' :laugh:
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    I'm a lover....
  • bethanyweathers
    bethanyweathers Posts: 296 Member
    I'm not at all confrontational. I'm super passive aggressive. I will go out of my way to avoid someone rather than fight with them.
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    Neither. Both are totally based on emotion, and I'm a mostly logical person . I love when I feel it. I fight after I've weighed the risks.
  • juleseybaby
    juleseybaby Posts: 712 Member
    Lover...

    But don't mess with my kids - brings out mama bear.
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    Both. I've never been in a fist fight with anyone I wasn't related too, but that's just because the opportunity never presented itself. I'm more of a lover, but I wouldn't shy away from a fight either.
  • Jetjedi
    Jetjedi Posts: 24 Member
    Fighter, I get in the ring every week and spar. I love the adrenalin kick.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Fight just to do it?...No thanks.

    To protect someones life?...sure and whatever it took to win and walk away.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    Both. I am passionate about what I stand for but I also love at all times.
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,809 Member
    It depends. I fight when I need to and I love when I need to. The challenge is determining which is appropriate.
  • audigal2008
    audigal2008 Posts: 1,129 Member
    BOTH Im a lover and a fighter when I need to be! ***** back away from my husband and get the F**K outta my house! The odd bar brawl back in the day too oops my bad!
  • shiggyshane
    shiggyshane Posts: 215
    both..
  • elliecolorado
    elliecolorado Posts: 1,040
    "I'm a lover not a fighter, but I'll fight for what I love"
  • efokken
    efokken Posts: 138 Member
    I'm a lover.... anyone want to do some lov'en with me??!!:love:
  • RocketsGirl75
    RocketsGirl75 Posts: 648
    Depends on the situation....you **** with me or mine and I will put my hands on you. That being said I would prefer lover! Lol!
  • Mad_Dog_Muscle
    Mad_Dog_Muscle Posts: 1,251 Member
    I'm a lover.... anyone want to do some lov'en with me??!!:love:
    Yes please! :devil:
  • kunibob
    kunibob Posts: 608 Member
    I'm not sure, actually. I don't shy from confrontation and I've had many people tell me that I'm assertive or, in some cases, intimidating...but I also have a reputation for diplomacy and for helping resolve tense situations. I've also been known to absolutely shred people if they push on one of my hot button topics. Maybe I'm a fighter in a lover's clothing! :smile:
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    i suppose i'm a little bit of both
  • Shanna_Inc86
    Shanna_Inc86 Posts: 781 Member
    Both I suppose....I am a very protective mother, friend, sister, daughter, etc...which can bring out the fighter...

    I'll take the high road when I can but if you mess with ppl I care about I don't know how to hold back. I've been in fights before and I know that if I say I'm gonna beat your *kitten*, I better be ready to back it up. I don't care about getting hit and I have a high pain tolerance. :devil:
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    I enjoy debate and playfully heated discussions but thats about as extreme as I want to go. I reeeeally enjoy the making up part afterwards. So, I guess that makes me a lover??
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