You don't look like you need to lose weight. Huh?

That's why I tried (and still do) to emphasize fat loss and muscle gain goals. After all, that's the real purpose. If all we needed to do was lose weight, then we could just cut off our arms and legs...

While people may say "you don't look like you need to lose weight", what I actually hear is that they don't want me to change so they don't have to be accountable for the way they look. Or, they are co-dependent and tell me what they think I want to hear. Regardless, since my doc wants me at a certain weight, that's the number I'm shooting for...

i'm 6'3", so people say i "carry my weight well." its all in my belly pouch and my thighs. i say thanks and just think that i have to go work out a little harder.

I just say thanks, and tell them that I'm trying to just eat healthier.

This.

I think many times people are telling us what they think you want to hear. Most likely because that same person would like to hear someone tell them they don't need to lose weight. I wouldn't take it too seriously. These seem to mostly be casual conversations rather than true heart to heart talks.

I get people telling me a lot that I don't need to work out as much as I do because I'm "so skinny." Yeah, well, it takes work to maintain that look, duh. And I do still have a muffin top and some belly jiggle I need to get rid of, but no one sees that when I have clothes on. I figure that when my bf starts to tell me I don't need to lose anymore I'll think about it, since he gets to see the WHOLE picture. :-P

I called someone out on this the other day. Being in a particularly bad mood given a nasty ex who is now making it nastier, I was in no mood for BS.

I am 5'2" and weight 147.5. My lowest and most beautimous (lol) was 132 of clean eating and daily exercise. (still needed 10-15 pounds at that point) OH and I am 50 years old.

So I am at work in the next size up jeans, feeling cute but knowing I have to hit the trail and get back on my healthier lifestyle, when a coworker says my jeans are cute.

"Thanks, I love them-hate they are 1 size bigger, but that is Ok.............it will change soon!!"

She gets this horrid look on her face and says " Your not thinking of losing MORE are you???"

I just LOL and walked off, because it was a flat out LIE> Tell me my hair is lovley, or my eyes are the wonderful color of the clear blue sky on a sunny day, but please don't tell me I ain't fat:laugh: :laugh:

Thanks that felt good............have a great day!:flowerforyou:

People always told me "220 pounds? well you wear it so well" Ha! Well my body really does not wear it well since I have had three back surgeries and degenerative arthritis in my L4-L5 area. Now that I am losing I do not hear that I wear it well as much as I hear that I'm the shrinking woman. 31 pounds down from 220 (21 pounds from date of surgery) and 70 something pounds to go. oh and my back is doing great since I dropped under 200 pounds. -T

The bmi scale is the biggest load of crap I have ever seen. It is not at all the same for any two people at the same height or weight. All of the men in my family are over 6 feet tall and all have large frames and yet it says that they should all be about 185. My dad got down to that once and looked deathly ill. It was discusting. My brother inlaw is right at 300 lbs depending on the time of year (football season or body building season) and he is only like 5'9 but is less than 7% body fat. Now according to the bmi, he is off the charts but you cant pinch a single piece of his body, he runs a mile in less than 7 mins and is in amazing health. So, if you are basing weather or not you are overweight by the bmi, you are being fooled big time.

In highschool I weighed between 145 and 150 at 5'5 1/2" and was a competition swimmer. I looked great. I was extremely muscular and healthy. My sister the same. She actually passed the trials and everything was was supposed to swim of the olympic team when she graduated highschool but the college she had a scholarship to gave her an ultimatum and she chose school over the olympics. We both always stayed at that weight and looked awsome and were healthy what not. We were both considered overweight by the bmi. The bmi for 18 years old, and our height was 118-132 lbs. I tried and tried to get down to that thinking I was fat because that's what it said I should weigh. When i look back at pictures now from just a few years ago, I realize how misinformed I really was. So that number really means nothing.

The best way to know if you are in a good range is the way that the military checks it. It is based off the size of your neck, your waist and your age. Or for women, its neck, waist, smallest section near bust line and your age. That is the closest thing I have found to accurate. Just looking at your weight vs your height and age says nothing.

People are also hung up on that needing to look like Camron Diaz or someone who one, has never had children, two is probably too thing but we excuse that over too fat which if you are older, it's best to be 10 lbs over weight than underweight, it will make you look younger. People like her that are naturally skinny or petite can expect to have that body if you have not stretched your body out too much. "Big" people that are prone to weight gain around the middle can expect to ALWaYS have some kind of extra weight around the mid section unless they go for surgery. Everyone thinks that they can be a size 2 one day and that isn't true. I could never ever in my wildest dreams expect to be anything smaller than a size 6. My hip bones wont allow it and even that is probably an unlikely goal. My legs for sure can go down to probably a size 3-5 but never my hips. So if you dont have the bone structure, or elasticity for it, dont expect it, period.

LOL on the Bakery comment That's awesome I get the whole "you don't need to lose weight" comment all of the time. I am flattered when I hear this... then I remember... I see myself in the shower. I see my gut when I sit down in the car and go to buckle up. I feel my lower half jiggle when I run. mmm hmmm. So... With clothes, standing still, spanks on, and sucking in, yeah I look great. Unfortunately, I can't shower with my spanks. And I have to live with MYSELF for the rest of my life. So, while it's flattering, it's your body. If you want to lose some pounds and tone up, you are the one who makes that decision. And then people won't say you look good or fine, they will say great or amazing And you will believe it

I completely agree....I don't get that comment, but I get the whole, "you don't look like you weigh THAT much" when I finally do trust someone with my real weight. LOL...thanks (I guess)...So I'm a beached whale that looks like a dolphin...still big and I still need it to go away!

And its the little that make you see how you aren't happy with your current state. That seat belt is killer! I hate the "see stomach beyond b00bs" look I have when I sit down. I don't like that I have little muffins in my shoes where only my toes fit and the rest sits up like a lil mound. I'd like to cross my legs at the knee instead of the ankle, hell, I'd like to see calves instead of "cankles".

You keep doing you and don't ever stop