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Share Your Thoughts & Ideas About Managing Stress

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  • Sand_TIger
    Sand_TIger Posts: 795 Member
    @Machka9

    I've had a pretty stressful like in general and honestly, never used to take the time to de-stress or know how to. Probably the single most useful technique I've ever found is box breathing, or four square breathing. It's simple, easy, and can work in just a minute or two.

    Basically you breathe in deeply, from the belly works best, and hold. Then you breathe out deeply, expelling all air, and hold. You call it four square breathing or box breathing because you are breathing and holding for roughly equal amounts of time.

    Beginners should count to three or four during all phases, and as you relax you can go longer. It helps me get to sleep at night and is a really good way to quickly relax or relieve anxiety. The body has a much harder time staying tense with this exercise. If you need more information there are plenty of good articles online about it. This is commonly taught to soldiers, medical personnel, and police as a quick way to relax.
  • samarjitsinha5
    samarjitsinha5 Posts: 1 Member
    I find it better to do some walking besides a lake to calm my mind. Or a walk in park with trees around works for me too.
  • bellacelina2
    bellacelina2 Posts: 93 Member
    I listen to heavy metal, deathcore especially, I dont know why, but listening to heavy metal just helps take the stress away. I recommend it
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 25,205 Member
    I listen to heavy metal, deathcore especially, I dont know why, but listening to heavy metal just helps take the stress away. I recommend it

    @bellacelina2: this album got me through my early teens. (I'm considerably older than you.)

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  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 25,205 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    @Machka9 Huge hugs to you! As the PP mentioned, it's amazing how resilient we can be. Would we choose it that way? Oh he!! no. But I'm a believer in 'everything happens for a reason' and 'looking for a silver lining', as dorky as that all sounds. It keeps me going through the toughness of life.
    I'm sorry your lives were altered in such a challenging way but it sounds like, in many ways, you've triumphed and trudged through onto the other side.

    <3

    Probably the roughest part is over, but the legal stuff is still going and the specialists tell me that he will likely start deteriorating soon ... like with senility/dementia. It's often how brain injuries of his severity at his age go.

    I'm spending this year (with my spare time from no uni) trying to get everything streamlined and in order so that we could move if necessary and so that I don't have to deal with as much as I suddenly had to deal with when he had the accident.


    I guess that's another way I deal with stress. I get stuff done. For me, adding things like yoga and meditation just take up time I could be doing stuff. If I have time, I would rather accomplish something. I would rather put away the laundry, tidy the kitchen, pay the bills so that I'm all caught up for the month, and things like that. When I do things, it means there are fewer things whirling around in my head. I can sleep better and I feel a little more in control.

    @Machka9: I have a neurological issue and this book gave me hope and a path forward:

    The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science

    It is available in my library system.
  • CeeBeeSlim
    CeeBeeSlim Posts: 785 Member
    Thanks for these ideas. @Machka9 - how much you’ve gone through! I hope better days are ahead.

    I wonder if there’s a different type of stress when the stressful event comes on suddenly. I hear a lot of “me” in your story - on New Years Eve, days after my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary, my mom had a massive stroke. I’ve been caring for her for the last ten years but I’ve become hypervigilant - not really sleeping - in case I have to wake up suddenly again.

    I joined MFP shortly after as my body became the only thing I could control. The exercise meme is funny - exactly my feeling!
  • HelenWater
    HelenWater Posts: 228 Member
    A really quick and effective calming technique I use is ‘the breath waltz’. Breathe in through your nose for four seconds, hold for four seconds, breathe out through your mouth for eight seconds. Do this three times and on the third exhale also tap your leg. It works in traffic, in meetings, anywhere really.
  • three_little_birds
    three_little_birds Posts: 2 Member
    I work in a very stressful job. My days are unpredictable and on a moments notice I may have to stop everything to deal with an emergency. (Trucking safety) I’ve found that by ensuring I’m fuelling my body with the healthiest foods I can and getting regular high intensity exercise I am much more likely to handle the stress and get through it without getting crushed by it.

    Eat well, exercise, get to bed at a decent time and focus on quality sleep. The basics work!
  • maryrobinson40
    maryrobinson40 Posts: 1,109 Member
    Hi there.
    I BELIEVE a shared load is a lightened load.
    I BELIEVE that self love is the second most important love, because for me God's love is first. Then, without loving yourself first by giving yourself quality self care, you become deficit in your ability to love and care for others.
    I BELIEVE because you're the only YOU that you've got, that you owe it to yourself to do a brief inventory daily of "INPUT" in your life which will help you pin point debris that has silently sneaked its way into you, your routine, and relationships to cause damage. Finding and recognizing it gives you a chance to kick it out of your life.
    DON'T SPREAD YOURSELF TOO THIN. It's okay to say "NO". Trust me, the world will continue without you in every single event. And your body will thank you for the break.
  • lilyxxxz
    lilyxxxz Posts: 12 Member
    edited March 3
    Wow I've been thinking about this issue recently and just found this discussion.
    Different from Alex I did a lot more cooking in the past year (partly for safety concern). Although I still suffered from stress sometimes, I feel cooking was one of the things that helped reduce stress for me.
    In 2021 due to some reasons I don't have much time and chance to cook. Now I take more walks instead. Sometimes also do music, reading, etc.
    The biggest dilemma for me is always time. I usually feel the most stressed when I'm super busy, and adding anything that *might* help with stress but *definitely* consumes time doesn't sound a good solution for me…just the thought of that could somewhat add to my stress.
    So I feel some posts here are very relatable and insightful! Would love to learn more about brief but effective stress relievers. :)
  • tinkerbellang83
    tinkerbellang83 Posts: 8,933 Member
    How do you manage the stress in your life?
    • Yoga
    • Meditation
    • Walks in nature*
    • Self medicating with food - working on this though
    • Listening to music
    • Puppy cuddles from my friend's dog
    *missing this bit at the moment as live in the city suburbs and it's a bit limited whilst we're in lockdown but working with that I've got

    What would you like to learn more about for managing stress?
    • How to better deal with emotional eating - already worked through a good self-help book but I want to try and keep it up and manage it better as times of stress I still sometime turn to food.

    What other resources would you like to see?
    • It would be great if MFP could interact with Calm to log "wellbeing" time, it's often one of my non-scale goals.
  • JustaNoob
    JustaNoob Posts: 114 Member
    I get stressed out by other people stressing out. My car could blow up and I'd just think.... "Well... dang.. what do I need to do next?" But if someone next to me is losing their mind over it, then I will be stressed to the max. So at work when my boss is stressing, or when my boyfriend stresses... that is when I feel all that.

    What works for me is just to talk about it with someone. If it is something I cannot share, I just write it down somewhere... that way I just feel like it is out of my system.
  • JustaNoob
    JustaNoob Posts: 114 Member
    @Machka9 Just read your story and wow! My thoughts go out to you and your Hubs. <3
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 45,768 Member
    edited March 3
    Machka9 wrote: »
    One thing I wanted to find, during some of the busiest most stressful times over the past few years, was 5 minute stress relievers.

    As mentioned above, when I could I would try to do some strenuous exercise because that burned off some of the frustration and got the endorphins going

    Or I would try to do little things that needed to be done, over which I had some control, because that helped me feel slightly more in control of the situation.

    I searched for other de-stressing ideas and unfortunately, so much of what I read about de-stressing and trying to relax was about adding extra things to your day. Taking a yoga class, going for a 1-hour massage, travel, etc. Those things are great if your stressful situation isn't very time consuming. But when your stressful situation takes up most of your day and when you cannot get away from it, the last thing you want to do is to add more!

    So I began collecting stress relief ideas. I've got many I've collected listed in a blog on my website, but I don't think I can share that here.

    Where I'm going with this is an answer to the original post: we want to know what resonates with our community!

    What about brief stress relievers or stress relievers that can be easily incorporated into a busy day? For example, I found that getting up from my desk at 11 am and climbing several flights of stairs helped. Climbing the back stairs of a tall office building is incredibly boring but gave me time to think and sort things out.

    What about stress relievers that may help, in some way, solve the problem? For example, when my husband came home from the hospital, I started ordering groceries online and having them delivered. I've done that for almost 3 years now and it is fantastic. I've also had someone to do our lawns from time to time and have had a house cleaner come in.


    Just a few of my thoughts.
    If you want intensity and it winds you out quite quickly, then if you can get your hands on a boxing bag and some gloves and wail away some frustration or anger, at the same time improving your fitness. I've had many a client just want to box with me for 30 minutes because they've told me how much it destresses them and they aren't hurting anyone in the process.


    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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  • Mellie1864
    Mellie1864 Posts: 2 Member
    During my last doctor’s visit, I told my doctor that I was finally ready to do something about the excess weight and was considering joining another weight loss program. She recommended this app in conjunction with the other program. I did the other program for a few days, didn’t like how it tracked so I cancelled my membership. I have continued to use this app for a little more than 2 weeks and as of yesterday, have lost 9 lbs.

    I work about a mile away from home and currently it takes me about 5 minutes to drive to work. I can’t wait for the warmer weather so I can walk or ride my bike.

    I was diagnosed with tendonitis in the shoulders and arms. Once I’m feeling better and no longer have pain shooting down my arm, my goal is to get back into kickboxing. It’s a great way to relief stress and get a full body workout. As I’ve said in the past, it’s better I punch a bag than punch a person.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 19,955 Member
    I listen to heavy metal, deathcore especially, I dont know why, but listening to heavy metal just helps take the stress away. I recommend it
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    One thing I wanted to find, during some of the busiest most stressful times over the past few years, was 5 minute stress relievers.

    As mentioned above, when I could I would try to do some strenuous exercise because that burned off some of the frustration and got the endorphins going

    Or I would try to do little things that needed to be done, over which I had some control, because that helped me feel slightly more in control of the situation.

    I searched for other de-stressing ideas and unfortunately, so much of what I read about de-stressing and trying to relax was about adding extra things to your day. Taking a yoga class, going for a 1-hour massage, travel, etc. Those things are great if your stressful situation isn't very time consuming. But when your stressful situation takes up most of your day and when you cannot get away from it, the last thing you want to do is to add more!

    So I began collecting stress relief ideas. I've got many I've collected listed in a blog on my website, but I don't think I can share that here.

    Where I'm going with this is an answer to the original post: we want to know what resonates with our community!

    What about brief stress relievers or stress relievers that can be easily incorporated into a busy day? For example, I found that getting up from my desk at 11 am and climbing several flights of stairs helped. Climbing the back stairs of a tall office building is incredibly boring but gave me time to think and sort things out.

    What about stress relievers that may help, in some way, solve the problem? For example, when my husband came home from the hospital, I started ordering groceries online and having them delivered. I've done that for almost 3 years now and it is fantastic. I've also had someone to do our lawns from time to time and have had a house cleaner come in.


    Just a few of my thoughts.
    If you want intensity and it winds you out quite quickly, then if you can get your hands on a boxing bag and some gloves and wail away some frustration or anger, at the same time improving your fitness. I've had many a client just want to box with me for 30 minutes because they've told me how much it destresses them and they aren't hurting anyone in the process.

    I've been thinking about it a bit more and I think, in general, I find that calming options do not help me destress. If anything they make me feel more stressed because I keep thinking about all the other things I should be doing or could be doing.

    Whereas, listening to loud music (for me it was often Mars, the Bringer of War from The Planets by Holst), running or cycling hard ... or if I had the option of a boxing bag and gloves ... actually release the stress. I don't think so much about all the other things going on in my life because I'm in the moment and if there is exercise involved, I feel like I've accomplished something. If nothing else, I've burned some calories!

  • activeadriana
    activeadriana Posts: 65 Member
    Lately I've been trying to manage my stress by doing things that are good for me, like exercising, meditating, listening to music, focusing on each breath. Sometimes I try talking to someone, or journalling my feelings. I think doing ANYTHING positive is better than turning to food.

    Oh I also make self-care part of my routine, because that helps me feel relaxed. I shower with scented shower gels and use different scented lotions. Sometimes putting on comfy pjs, socks, slippers and a neck massager makes all the difference.
  • moogie_fit
    moogie_fit Posts: 276 Member
    Alex wrote: »
    We Want to Hear From You!
    How do you handle stress? What can we do to help?

    April is Stress Awareness Month. At MyFitnessPal we’re using this occasion to talk about how stress affects the body, and even changes how you eat. Personally I have done a lot less cooking and eaten a lot more takeout this past year.

    Our goal throughout April is to help you manage stress through nutrition & movement. We’re thinking things like yoga routines, audio meditations, calming recipes, stress-relief plans, and tips on reducing anxiety through nutrition.

    But what do you think? People experience stress and find relief in different ways—we want to know what resonates with our community!

    Reply in the thread below and tell us:
    • How do you manage the stress in your life?
    • What would you like to learn more about for managing stress?
    • What other resources would you like to see?
    Thanks in advance for your input!


    stress is not an individual problem it's a political and a social societal problem stress is caused through external structures, especially those which put un attainable expectations on persons and others that perpetuate oppression like racism. Capitalism is also a huge reason for stress.

    To reduce stress we need societal changes, not more walks or bubble baths, or other things that privileged people only can afford...
  • KaitlinLee117
    KaitlinLee117 Posts: 9 Member
    For me metal or heavy rock helps me feel like a bad *kitten* (despite the whole 5'2 female hobbit thing I got going for me lol), gaming is a huge outlet for me, and exercise seems to be the best option for me! It makes me feel accomplished to have exercised, especially when I can push harder. I work as a preschool teacher so stress is my middle name lol