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If you don't have a lot of money then fine. Not everyone does. Make up for it with creativity. Cook for her instead. Take her on a picnic. Do something else rather than the typical dinner date. Just don't use a coupon...
THIS...creativity goes a long way!0 -
How so? If you brought her to a great restaurant with great food and atmosphere had a great time and good conversation, yet paid less from the actual cost, are you saying that it was comparable to McDonald's? I think your analogy is wrong here.If I asked a lady out to dinner,picked her up and then drove to the golden arches because it was cheaper then a restaurant meal would that be okay?
If anyone wonders,never in a million years would I but same idea.0 -
If you don't have a lot of money then fine. Not everyone does. Make up for it with creativity. Cook for her instead. Take her on a picnic. Do something else rather than the typical dinner date. Just don't use a coupon...
THIS...creativity goes a long way!
I'd rather see the creativity... a cheaper date... Catch a scooop of ice cream and go for a walk. I'd save the coupon for a futuredate, not a first date. But that's just me.0 -
@ Skittybang...that rocking head thing never fails to freak me out when I scroll down. It always sneaks up on me! I don't know why but I find it disturbing. About the time I forget about it...there it is again. Weird...just weird :laugh:0
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Okay first i have never seen a 5 star resturant offer a coupon so its not like it would be embarrassing to any normal couple so why would it have to be embarrassing to a first date. Saving money reguardless of 1st date or 10000000 date who cares it is just smart to do it. When you say that a coupon is a bad thing it is almost like saying you have to spend a certain amount to be with me. What does that sound like to you?
If you are someone that would laugh good on you if you are someone that would not call them back because of it. Then he or she is the lucky one then.
Nice guy but would not pay full price kick him to the curb...
Bad guy but he did pay a lot for dinner lets call him again.. WOW now we know why the divorce rate is so high.0 -
I wouldn't have a problem, and frankly, I don't understand the mentality that would... I honestly don't pay attention to how they pay. I offer every time, and if denied, I don't even look at how he's paying. I don't care if he uses a credit card, cash, or coupon. Presumably he's saving a few dollars so we can go out again!
I don't think it's cheap or tacky at all. And, if he can joke about it, even better! I don't want a guy who just throws his money away in the long run, so if he has a coupon to use, more power to him! Also, I don't care if you take me to McDonald's, so long as we have a decent conversation and a connection! I'm just a laid back girl who can roll with it. And again, joking about it helps!!
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I love coupons. I would think i had found my soul mate.
But really i would think great if he has coupons then we will be going out way more since he saves money.0 -
im not one to take a girl for dinner on a first date. ive done this many times and i tend to get bored before she does. i like to do something fun, a baseball game, actually playing a sport with her. maybe even just going o the gym and cooking for her after!!
but for all you girls who said this is tacky or cheap you should all be ashamed of youselfs. shut up and say "thanks for dinner." theres no difference between a $5 bill and a $5 coupon, they are worth the same. i personally have never used a coupon on a date, but if a girl ever judged me the way all you girls just talked about this situation, she can have her free meal and go dig into some other guys wallet. like me, not my money.0 -
Cheap ditch 'em0
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im not one to take a girl for dinner on a first date. ive done this many times and i tend to get bored before she does. i like to do something fun, a baseball game, actually playing a sport with her. maybe even just going o the gym and cooking for her after!!
but for all you girls who said this is tacky or cheap you should all be ashamed of youselfs. shut up and say "thanks for dinner." theres no difference between a $5 bill and a $5 coupon, they are worth the same. i personally have never used a coupon on a date, but if a girl ever judged me the way all you girls just talked about this situation, she can have her free meal and go dig into some other guys wallet. like me, not my money.
I think you need to re-read this thread because quite a few of us said it wouldn't bother us.0 -
hmmm... in today's day and age, women want equal pay for equal work and all the same rights and opportunities as men, but when the check comes, they still want us to pay the bill?? and you have the audacity to judge us on HOW we pay?0
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My last "first date" was in 1990. I didn't pull out a coupon, but I did prepare a dinner for two at my home. Does that make me a cheapskate? I believe we saw "Green Card" at a matinee to save money as well. I hope she isn't harboring some kind of resentment that she is going to spring on me at our next wedding anniversary.0
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It's not wrong to use a coupon; it's just not proper to use a coupon in front of your date. The last thing you want to do is make her feel guilty or uncomfortable about where YOU chose to take her for dinner. Make arrangements for the coupon ahead of time, or excuse yourself near the end of the meal, go find your waiter, and take care of it before the check comes to the table.
Better yet, take your date someplace where you don't feel compelled to use a coupon. If you can afford to pay full price, do it, and use the coupon when you're not on a date. If you can't afford to pay full price, go somewhere else.0 -
So I guess there aren't many 'Dine and Ditch' fans here... party poopers.0
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I had no choice but to pay the bill on my first date with my husband because he forgot his wallet. We celebrated our 21st anniversary this year, so I guess I didn't let it bother me too much. I'm sure he was way more uncomfortable with the whole situation than I was. I like to find the humor in awkward situations, and for me, the funny part was that they wouldn't serve him alcohol. It was when we first sat down and ordered drinks that he discovered he'd left his wallet in his car, which he parked at my apartment before we took my car to the restaurant. Once that was out of the way, we had a very nice dinner and enjoyed ourselves. I especially enjoyed my glass of wine. :laugh:hmmm... in today's day and age, women want equal pay for equal work and all the same rights and opportunities as men, but when the check comes, they still want us to pay the bill?? and you have the audacity to judge us on HOW we pay?0 -
Sometimes, people don't always have a lot of money. If you really like him and you had a good time with him, you wouldn't care how he paid for your meal. Think of it this way, at least he paid for the two of you. It would be considered messed-up if he made you pay for yourself. I think people are way too concerned nowadays with things that shouldn't matter. All that matters is that you had a good time with him. Who cares if he paid with a coupon?0
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but for all you girls who said this is tacky or cheap you should all be ashamed of youselfs. shut up and say "thanks for dinner."
Just because you're buying a woman dinner doesn't mean you get to behave in whatever way you want. This is what I don't understand about "dating" these days. Men used to consider it a privilege to take a woman to dinner and expected nothing in return other than a pleasant attitude and a small gesture of appreciation at the end of the night. These days, apparently you're supposed to be willing to suffer through whatever rude and insulting behavior a man decides to throw at you and THEN have sex with him because, hey, he's paying for your dinner.
Money is not the issue for me. I don't care at all what a coupon says or doesn't say about a man's financial situation. I care about his behavior. And whipping out a coupon in front of your date is inconsiderate.hmmm... in today's day and age, women want equal pay for equal work and all the same rights and opportunities as men, but when the check comes, they still want us to pay the bill?? and you have the audacity to judge us on HOW we pay?
I hope you aren't suggesting that women SHOULDN'T expect equal pay for equal work or the same basic rights that men enjoy.
Paying for dinner on a date is a completely separate issue.0 -
Absolutely ridiculous that people would write someone off for saving money, especially in this economy!
A guy isn't going to "woo" me by paying full price for a dinner nor is he going to turn me off for using a coupon.
I don't use coupons but i admire those that do, it's the rest of us morons paying full price for already overpriced crap that should be laughed at.
No wonder the dating world is such a wreck, people need to get over themselves.0 -
Haha id yell at him for not telling me,cuz then I coulda got a more exspencive meal
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Yep another material person here.Cheap ditch 'em0 -
I think that a lot of this is kind of bullsh*t. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. It doesn't mean someone is a cold-hearted materialistic person if they find it odd, uncomfortable, cheap, etc. It is NOT common practice to whip out a coupon on a first date for a reason. It can make your date feel very uncomfortable... that perhaps you were put in a position you can't afford. Everyone is making assumptions about what "class" of restaurant this is, whether or not the parties went dutch and one person used a coupon towards their half or the whole bill, that this only applies to men paying for the meal and not women paying for the meal.
Again, this is a FIRST date. I would feel absolutely uncomfortable if my date wanted to use a coupon and it's my right to feel that way. I'd rather go on a free date to a park. It has NOTHING to do with the money. And once dating and past the first few meetings, USE COUPONS! But on a first date? It's uncomfortable for a vast number of people whether or not their willing to admit it here.
Calling everyone materialistic, shallow, etc. simply isn't any better.0 -
im not one to take a girl for dinner on a first date. ive done this many times and i tend to get bored before she does. i like to do something fun, a baseball game, actually playing a sport with her. maybe even just going o the gym and cooking for her after!!
but for all you girls who said this is tacky or cheap you should all be ashamed of youselfs. shut up and say "thanks for dinner." theres no difference between a $5 bill and a $5 coupon, they are worth the same. i personally have never used a coupon on a date, but if a girl ever judged me the way all you girls just talked about this situation, she can have her free meal and go dig into some other guys wallet. like me, not my money.
I think you need to re-read this thread because quite a few of us said it wouldn't bother us.
then your clearly not included in "those who say this is tacky or cheap." maybe you should re-read the first part of my post.0 -
Was it a Groupon or similar? Because I don't see a problem.0
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This.I wouldn't have a problem at all. It would show me that they understand the value of a dollar.0 -
im not one to take a girl for dinner on a first date. ive done this many times and i tend to get bored before she does. i like to do something fun, a baseball game, actually playing a sport with her. maybe even just going o the gym and cooking for her after!!
but for all you girls who said this is tacky or cheap you should all be ashamed of youselfs. shut up and say "thanks for dinner." theres no difference between a $5 bill and a $5 coupon, they are worth the same. i personally have never used a coupon on a date, but if a girl ever judged me the way all you girls just talked about this situation, she can have her free meal and go dig into some other guys wallet. like me, not my money.
I think you need to re-read this thread because quite a few of us said it wouldn't bother us.
then your clearly not included in "those who say this is tacky or cheap." maybe you should re-read the first part of my post.
But I did say it's tacky. And it is. I also said I wouldn't write him off because of it.0 -
If this happened on a date I was on, I may giggle but it wouldn't really make a difference. I'm a bit old fashioned where I do like being paid for on the first date (though I'm not against going dutch), but it doesn't make any difference to me how he pays for it.
Plus, I'd rather see someone who is good with their money and aware of where they are spending it. Frugal can be very sexy
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Again, this is a FIRST date. I would feel absolutely uncomfortable if my date wanted to use a coupon and it's my right to feel that way. I'd rather go on a free date to a park. It has NOTHING to do with the money. And once dating and past the first few meetings, USE COUPONS! But on a first date? It's uncomfortable for a vast number of people whether or not their willing to admit it here.
This is how I feel about it, too. I'm not all that concerned about how much money a man makes as long as he's doing the best he can. In fact, I don't even want to talk about salaries until way later, when it looks like your salary might have an impact on my life (i.e. we're discussing the possibility of marriage and houses and babies). Until then, how much money you make is none of my business and vice versa.
But the coupon thing on the first date is a matter of decorum. If a guy takes me to a pricey restaurant and pays with a coupon, that's no different, in my opinion, than making comments about how expensive the food is while scanning the menu. Maybe some of you would laugh that off. I wouldn't; I think it's rude. It makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable, as if he can't really afford it and I should somehow feel responsible for him incurring this expense when he's the one who asked me out and chose the restaurant.
I get that the economy is making things difficult for a lot of people. We all get it. But money is right up there with crazy ex-girlfriends on the list of things NOT to bring up on the first date. When you pay for dinner with a coupon, in front of your date, you're making it about money. If you can't afford it, plan something you can afford. I honestly don't care if we end up doing something that doesn't cost a dime. The objective is to have fun and get to know each other better, and that can be achieved with something as simple as throwing a Frisbee in the park. But it's kind of hard to have fun or be completely open with someone when you feel like he's worried about how much money you're costing him.0 -
if your date (first date!) took out a coupon when it was time to pay for dinner?
I would think "why has this cheapskate taken me to a place that accepts coupons in the first place?"
It shouldn't matter. Really it shouldn't.
But I suspect for a lot of women, in the moment, it really DOES matter especially on a first date. If you don't have a lot of money then fine. Not everyone does. Make up for it with creativity. Cook for her instead. Take her on a picnic. Do something else rather than the typical dinner date. Just don't use a coupon...
being in the UK the coupon thing isn't really that big over here, groupon is starting to find its feet but generally coupons really are for places that tend to be somewhere you wouldn't want to take a date. not counting orange wednesdays in that but its so widely known i doubt it would be an issue (although i think i'd want the better seats lol). in theory though i have no problem with coupons and wouldn't be offended if the other party produced one to pay0 -
if your date (first date!) took out a coupon when it was time to pay for dinner?
I would think "why has this cheapskate taken me to a place that accepts coupons in the first place?"
It shouldn't matter. Really it shouldn't.
But I suspect for a lot of women, in the moment, it really DOES matter especially on a first date. If you don't have a lot of money then fine. Not everyone does. Make up for it with creativity. Cook for her instead. Take her on a picnic. Do something else rather than the typical dinner date. Just don't use a coupon...
That is a great idea, but I dare say a woman that would ditch you for a coupon wouldn't be happy with a picnic either.
Oh and what would I do? really I don't know. I guess couponing or grouping has become so popular I would think I wouldn't be embarrassed because we do it now. But like someone else said I really can't relate to the mentality that would have a problem with this, but I'm also not a label hound either.
To each their own.0
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