Me: TRYING to losing weight Husband: TRYING to gaining weigh

Same thing here! Except both of us use MFP every day. I plan the meals and he simply eats twice as much as I do. He also eats a lot of protein bars. Also, it doesn't help that he's a marathoner. On long run days, he gets to eat over 4000 calories!!! (the *kitten*!!) while I have to stick to my lame 1200 lol

You could try making 3 portions of whatever you're cooking, and giving him 2 thirds of it, and keep the remaining third for yourself so that he gets more to try and gain weight, but you can stick to your calories?

I am in the EXACT same boat! My boyfriend and I live together and he is constantly trying to find ways to gain weight while I'm constantly trying to lose! I'm so envious of our skinny men! I have just cut down on portion sizes and I give him half of my food and it seems to be working for me! LOL

Same exact boat here my hubby is 125, I am 150, he can't gain a pound!! All I can say lots of weight lifting can help you gain...

You could try making 3 portions of whatever you're cooking, and giving him 2 thirds of it, and keep the remaining third for yourself so that he gets more to try and gain weight, but you can stick to your calories?

That's exactly what I do!

My husband and I are the same way, but he enjoys making the effort to lift weights and build muscle. I normally cook the same foods for both of us, so meals are always healthy and weight loss friendly, he just eats about twice as much as I do. He also has two protein shakes throughout the day to help him up his calories. He doesn't count calories, I tried to get him on MFP but he said it was too much hassle and that I should just do it for him. So he just eats a ton. He was doing really well, gaining a pound a week, until he broke his rib snowboarding. He's hoping to get a weight set now that we have a house because we're too far in the country to go to the gym (which bums me out!).

The bottom line for your husband is that if he wants to gain weight, and by that I mean muscle, he'll do the work that's required. Only he can make that decision. If he's fine being skinny, let him be skinny. And just because he has a high metabolism doesn't mean he should just eat junk or ridiculously high calorie meals. It isn't healthy for him. My husband did that for most of his life and at 31 found out he has a higher cholesterol level than her should. That was a big wake up call for him and he committed to my healthy eating habits.

As far as you're concerned, stick with the MFP program, it will work. I know it's hard to burn fat, my body loves to hold onto it. But, getting exercise and eating healthy foods will get the job done! Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like. I'm pregnant right now, so I'm not trying to lose, but I gained a ton of knowledge about nutrition and exercising and would love to help you out if you need it!

I have to tell you, you are not alone. Me and my husband were the say way. He would always want to gain, while I always want to lose. When I started my lifestyle change, I decied that I could not worry about him. I need to do this for me. So cook for you, not him. He has plenty of time, I'm sure, during the day to eat what he wants. When you are at home, he'll have to suck it up and eat what you cook. Besides, if he eats more than you, he will still be eating more calories and that what he needs. Good luck!

I fully understand what your husband is going through. Im 5'9" and when I graduated high school I only weight 120lbs. Now that I'm 28 years old, I'm at 155lbs, been up to 170 lbs during a bulk. It takes alot of food for me to gain weight, my brother who's my training and lifting partner is a lot like you. He's a bit bigger and has a hard time losing weight. He's about 192 lbs trying to shred down to 185lbs.

When we cook, we don't cook different meals cause we both want to eat as healthy as possible. But I just have to eat about 2 times as much food in order to gain, while my bro eats a smaller portioned meal to shred. During my bulk cycle I was also drinking 6 protein shakes a day with whole fat milk just to get the extra calories.