People need to watch what they say!

kristineh86
kristineh86 Posts: 134
edited September 19 in Health and Weight Loss
Today, my boss told me that I am looking awfully skinny and asked me if i'm okay. Honestly, I know he meant well but comments like that can hurt people! I worked really hard to lose all my weight and calling someone "skinny" isn't nice! Bahhh
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  • kristineh86
    kristineh86 Posts: 134
    Today, my boss told me that I am looking awfully skinny and asked me if i'm okay. Honestly, I know he meant well but comments like that can hurt people! I worked really hard to lose all my weight and calling someone "skinny" isn't nice! Bahhh
  • robsonaraujo
    robsonaraujo Posts: 47 Member
    I dont mean to disrespect your feelings but if somebody call me skiny i will love it... but this is just me... sorry about your boss comments...
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,183 Member
    Today, my boss told me that I am looking awfully skinny and asked me if i'm okay. Honestly, I know he meant well but comments like that can hurt people! I worked really hard to lose all my weight and calling someone "skinny" isn't nice! Bahhh


    It's amazing how many people out there say hurtful things to you when you've been successful with weight loss.:mad: That's one of the great things about MFP:bigsmile:
    we support each other and celebrate our success and the success of others.:bigsmile:

    A friend of mine lost a lot of weight and someone asked her if she was trying to get a promotion.
  • kristineh86
    kristineh86 Posts: 134
    haha, yea i know what you mean, if you were to call me skinny 2 years ago i would have loved it too. I guess my point is that the wording people use and they way they say certain things can be hurtful. It was just the WAY he said it. It's kind of like saying "you are really pale, are you sick?" You know what I mean? I dunno...maybe its just me.

    And skinny isn't necessarily a good thing either....I think that being too skinny isn't attractive and I feel like that is what he meant! I'd rather be a little heavier than SKINNY!
  • johnblake
    johnblake Posts: 661
    I hear ya sister
    because I don't have pot belly like most 40 year old fat out of shape lazy good for nothing stuffing there face with fat and beer.
    there's something worng with me?
    give the fat baster hell
  • Teria
    Teria Posts: 36
    OMG I CAN SO UNDERSTAND!!!! Last year I was losing weight and everyone kept asking me if I was eating, or if I was "okay", and that I was "disappearing". It was really insulting! I had to constantly explain what I was doing and how I was doing it. blah.
  • sassiebritches
    sassiebritches Posts: 1,861 Member
    Personally I wouldn't be terribly upset.....but thats me...........better then having your waitress ask when the baby is due.....................and your not pregnant....has happened a couple times to me, I just started saying 3 months :explode:

    I can't wait for someone to call me skinny.......But I am sorry that your feelings were hurt. :flowerforyou:
  • omid990
    omid990 Posts: 785 Member
    being told you're too skinny can be just as insulting as too fat.
    i know it can be hurtful but look at it this way: you clearly did something right if people are noticing.
    :heart: aisha
  • last10sue
    last10sue Posts: 3
    My mom always asks if I'm sick.Her way of saying I'm losing too much weight.I'm still 138 pounds.Come on.Don't listen or explain.It's sometimes not even worth the effort.Surround yourself with postive people.
  • LisaZaugg1976
    LisaZaugg1976 Posts: 1,144 Member
    I understand how you feel I have had those comments before too I chalk that one to jealousy :bigsmile:
  • Kimono
    Kimono Posts: 367
    I understand, it has happened too me. My sister did it this summer. She said "OMG you so freaking skinny, eat a sandwich" But she is overweight sooo. Still it was hurtful and I said "Hey stop talking about my body like that, would like me to start talking about yours??" She shut up real fast. It would have been better for her to say. "you look so fit, lean, toned, muscular, healthy..." then it is a complement.
  • BEFORE
    BEFORE Posts: 1,291 Member
    I hear ya sister
    because I don't have pot belly like most 40 year old fat out of shape lazy good for nothing stuffing there face with fat and beer.
    there's something worng with me?
    give the fat baster hell

    HEY!!!!
    :mad:

    I don't drink beer.
    :wink: :laugh:
  • wilted6orchid
    wilted6orchid Posts: 423 Member
    I also recently had a neighbor comment on my weight loss and ask if I was eating. Honestly, I chuckled it off. I mean, I know some people may try to starve themselves to lose weight, but as a mother of 3 and all by myself right now...how irresponsible would that be?!

    I would take it this way...People care about you. Everything is in how you take it. Try not to have a chip on your shoulder. It's nice that someone notices and cares.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • SHBoss1673
    SHBoss1673 Posts: 7,161 Member
    You really want to teach them a lesson?

    If someone comments about your weight (either way)

    give them your whole freakin plan. Top to bottom, go through all your food, why you are doing it, all your exercise routines, everything. Make it take like 5 minutes, let em squirm a little. I know I know, a little childish, but hey, they started it. :tongue:

    This will serve two purposes, it'll shut them up cuz you're doing it right, and it'll make em feel stupid for mentioning anything. Hehe, double whammy. I'm so evil some times. :devil:
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    LOL Banks that is so funny.

    I do this to people who haven't asked :blushing:

    I can't shutup about it:laugh:
  • healthyone41
    healthyone41 Posts: 16
    I believe that when someone makes an "ignorant" comment like that..... then they need to be "schooled" Tell them all about your weight loss success and let them know how great you feel and how much more energy you have now!!






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  • allaboutme
    allaboutme Posts: 391 Member
    LOL Banks that is so funny.

    I do this to people who haven't asked :blushing:

    I can't shutup about it:laugh:

    me too, til I see their eyes start to glaze over :happy:
  • kristineh86
    kristineh86 Posts: 134
    I love that idea too! HAHA!
  • GrnEyz
    GrnEyz Posts: 360
    Today, my boss told me that I am looking awfully skinny and asked me if i'm okay. Honestly, I know he meant well but comments like that can hurt people! I worked really hard to lose all my weight and calling someone "skinny" isn't nice! Bahhh

    I don't want to downplay your feelings, so I hope this doesn't upset you....

    I grew up with two older brothers, so I learned the hard way that they just won't word things right. Even if their heart is in the right place, when the words come out, all you can do is stand there with your mouth agape! I think that is GREAT that you are "skinny", but I think he was just showing concern...which for a boss to even care like that is really nice. He could have totally worded it differently, but men don't think about stuff like that.
  • stillkristi
    stillkristi Posts: 1,135 Member
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I agree with Banks and Lucky, then, when he glances at his watch and pretends he has a meeting he "forgot" you grab his sleeve and earnestly say, "I've noticed you're getting just a little pudgy. I can help you! You would be amazed at how much better you'll feel! Really, and what could be more important than your health!? I know you have a meeting, but it can wait, and your expanding tummy won't. Lets get busy on this right now. I'm there for you! :laugh:
  • wildkat318
    wildkat318 Posts: 326 Member
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I agree with Banks and Lucky, then, when he glances at his watch and pretends he has a meeting he "forgot" you grab his sleeve and earnestly say, "I've noticed you're getting just a little pudgy. I can help you! You would be amazed at how much better you'll feel! Really, and what could be more important than your health!? I know you have a meeting, but it can wait, and your expanding tummy won't. Lets get busy on this right now. I'm there for you! :laugh:

    I LOVE that!

    My boss would NEVER comment on my body either way. As it should be! :bigsmile:
  • stillkristi
    stillkristi Posts: 1,135 Member
    Wildkat, good point. Depending on how the comment was made, it may be really inappropriate.
  • kerrilucko
    kerrilucko Posts: 3,852 Member
    I know what you mean. I'm starting to get those "you look great... but don't lose anymore weight" comments. It's like a compliment wrapped in concern, like people are worried that I won't know when to stop on my own. Don't take it too personally... But I understand why it would be upsetting. :flowerforyou:
  • Michelle325
    Michelle325 Posts: 5
    Hey there...don't be discouraged. Many times people say things they only wish others would say to them. I have lost 14 lbs since Jan 06, 2009 and was told yesterday by a co-worker that I was "wasting away". Well I am not wasting away as I weigh 141lbs. But I do hit the gym 4 times/week and have toned and tightened up. Keep up the good work and enjoy your new found freedom. I have more energy, my clothes feel great and I can't wait to reach my goal!! Take Care!

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  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    I was a 'skinny' kid. Do you KNOW how many times someones mom brought me extra cookies???:noway:
    Or say, Does your mom FEED you?:embarassed:

    At least you came here to burn off the steam instead of blowing up at your boss!!:drinker:
  • Binxy2004
    Binxy2004 Posts: 65
    Personally I wouldn't be terribly upset.....but thats me...........better then having your waitress ask when the baby is due.....................and your not pregnant....has happened a couple times to me, I just started saying 3 months :explode:

    I can't wait for someone to call me skinny.......But I am sorry that your feelings were hurt. :flowerforyou:

    Oh to true, went to the doctors they asked when i was due, i must have turned like 4 diffrent shades of red cus they all turned the same color too... my repsonce "sorry not pregnant, i do have cats tho" then they all started talkin about thier cats too... helped the moment but mannnnnnnnn thats a turning point
  • Falcon
    Falcon Posts: 853 Member
    I don't have that problem at work, they know I need to lose weight and they're pretty considerate about it. They offer suggestions on more stuff I can do and they don't ask as it should be.

    Certain family members on the other hand :grumble:

    My sister is being supportive :)
  • wisefool333
    wisefool333 Posts: 16
    OMG I CAN SO UNDERSTAND!!!! Last year I was losing weight and everyone kept asking me if I was eating, or if I was "okay", and that I was "disappearing". It was really insulting! I had to constantly explain what I was doing and how I was doing it. blah.


    I have to say I have never experienced someone calling me "skinny". I remeber when I lost a bunch of weight for the first time....everyone asking me....what arre you doing to lose so much weight, that kinda made me feel good.

    Not really sure how I would take it if someone said I was getting "skinny"
  • Kimono
    Kimono Posts: 367
    I know what you mean. I'm starting to get those "you look great... but don't lose anymore weight" comments. It's like a compliment wrapped in concern, like people are worried that I won't know when to stop on my own. Don't take it too personally... But I understand why it would be upsetting. :flowerforyou:

    You know what it is for some people. They don't mind if you lose weight, but when you start looking better than them, they start with the comments. Especially if they have always been the smaller one and you were the "fat chick". Just a thought.
  • kerrilucko
    kerrilucko Posts: 3,852 Member
    I know what you mean. I'm starting to get those "you look great... but don't lose anymore weight" comments. It's like a compliment wrapped in concern, like people are worried that I won't know when to stop on my own. Don't take it too personally... But I understand why it would be upsetting. :flowerforyou:

    You know what it is for some people. They don't mind if you lose weight, but when you start looking better than them, they start with the comments. Especially if they have always been the smaller one and you were the "fat chick". Just a thought.
    lol so true. But I seem to be getting it mostly from older women, like my mom ALL the time. And a bunch of the women that work with my fiance. It's funny, I don't take offense, but I can totally understand why someone would. I still weigh 148lbs, it's not like I'm wasting away :laugh:
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