Who else is trying to resist to buy all the clothes that finally look great on you?

sakurablossoms82
sakurablossoms82 Posts: 62 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I almost lost 30KG at this point and I can finally buy the cute clothes I always liked but never bought because they looked bad on me while being overweight. I have been wanting to wear dresses above the knee or shorts but when I was obese I felt so ugly in them every time I tried and for a change did have the big size I needed. But now I really have to resist buying most of the cute shorts, dresses etc I see because otherwise I buy way to many. And what's even better people tell me I look great in them which gives my confidence a boost as well :)

Who else has the issue that you want to buy way to many clothes because you can finally wear them after loosing the weight you lost?
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  • yweight2020
    yweight2020 Posts: 591 Member
    I completely understand I've lost 33 lbs so far and it makes a big difference in my clothing, have fun just don't break the bank shopping unless you don't mind.

    Congratulations on your loss and new found shopping love.
  • Bluetail6
    Bluetail6 Posts: 2,984 Member
    "Resistance Is Futile..." I completely get it. I've lost around 50 lbs. I'm toning up & can fit into amazing curve hugging small sizes. I've saved up for my indulgences, and I am enjoying every. single. one of them.🤣🤣🧡
  • scarlett_k
    scarlett_k Posts: 812 Member
    I find it annoying honestly. I hate clothes shopping but I need clothes that fit. I've lost 50 kg over the past four years and I'm almost but not quite at my initial goal weight. Seems pointless buying anything that I'll just donate by next year but I have to unless I want my trousers falling down!
  • Lietchi
    Lietchi Posts: 6,809 Member
    scarlett_k wrote: »
    I find it annoying honestly. I hate clothes shopping but I need clothes that fit. I've lost 50 kg over the past four years and I'm almost but not quite at my initial goal weight. Seems pointless buying anything that I'll just donate by next year but I have to unless I want my trousers falling down!

    That's probably the only thing holding me back right now, knowing I'm not quite at my goal weight (heck, I'm not even sure what my goal weight is at the moment 🤪 ).

    I'm trying to stick to a small set of cheap but nice looking clothes to tide me over, but it's hard to resist, despite the fact that I barely need clothes at the moment (working from home full-time for over a year now).

    I was never a 'fashion' kind of girl, but I honestly can't wait till I get to maintenance and I can invest in some nicer clothes to fill my empty wardrobe!
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    I'm at a good weight now but still find I wear the same types of clothes. :/ I have little desire to shop for new stuff because I don't like spending the money, never find anything I like or feel comfortable in, haven't got good taste(can't dress myself I guess :)), and the biggie is we have no good local place to shop for clothing here. JCPenny's is closing this month, we've lost all our other stores in the past such as Fashion Bug and Maurices. Kohl's is an hour away. For some reason I never can find anything at TJ Maxx. :( I'm skeptical of trying new online places even though I see really cute clothes offered. I put a couple cute shirts in a cart for Airy(a link that popped up on this site actually) and then hit order and the shipping was 8 bucks. I'm too cheap I guess. :(

    So yeh, while my closet isn't empty, it looks the same it always has, just size mediums now instead of large or xl.
  • penguinmama87
    penguinmama87 Posts: 1,155 Member
    @ReenieHJ I plan on wearing the same type of clothes I always have! I'm just excited for them to fit better and for me to look better in them!

    I too don't get very excited by clothes shopping itself, just because I'm old fashioned and prefer the kind of clothes that really don't show up on the racks much. I also tend to think these are more flattering for more sizes and shapes of bodies. My main strategy is, when I luck out and find an outfit that I like, I basically turn it into a uniform by buying it in three or four different colors. If anyone remembers "capsule wardrobing" when it trended a few years ago, that's basically been me since forever. I like finding pieces that are versatile and I can dress up, or down, or layer or not depending on the weather. Fewer items in my closet, but I like them all and can take care of them well.

    I also learned some mending skills which helps items last longer. You do have to dig to find clothes that will last because I swear many things are made to fall apart after a year.

    I decided a couple of years ago, still overweight, that I wasn't going to punish myself by wearing frumpy clothing I hated. So I do actually like my clothes for the most part even now. I've been a bit sad to say goodbye to a few things. But hopefully someone else who's where I was can enjoy them and not feel doomed to frumpiness either.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,175 Member
    scarlett_k wrote: »
    I find it annoying honestly. I hate clothes shopping but I need clothes that fit. I've lost 50 kg over the past four years and I'm almost but not quite at my initial goal weight. Seems pointless buying anything that I'll just donate by next year but I have to unless I want my trousers falling down!

    Pretty much this.

    I've been at goal, in the same size, for a while. For me, having to buy a whole new wardrobe (when I first lost from obese to a healthy weight) was a major, annoying downside of weight loss. Hate shopping, not very interested in fashion clothing. (But I do like jewelry, which I mostly make myself - pretty much only my ring sizes changed, though I had to adjust some bracelets smaller, and some of the necklaces hang different, but I always make them with a built-in length adjustment.)

    Other than developing an odd taste for certain kinds of lace, I dress exactly the same way I did when I was obese: Plain crew-neck t-shirts in jewel colors (red, purple, blue), simple jeans or pants in basic navy or black, simple sweaters or hoodies in season. A uniform. I have a couple of dresses for things like weddings, one for colder weather, one for warm, with simple lines.

    In the 5+ years since reaching goal, I'd let my weight creep up a little within the healthy range, by 10-15 pounds. I reversed that into a super slow loss for a year plus, when my clothes started to get a little snug, because I did *not* want to go through that shopping horror again. Now, I've stopped losing because if I don't, I'll have to go down a size. No shopping: No, no, no.
  • Speakeasy76
    Speakeasy76 Posts: 961 Member
    I'm at a point now where my shorts are too big, so I need to buy new shorts. I'm a bit hesitant to buy a smaller size though, because I'm on a special diet for food sensitivities and I lost 11 pounds, 6 of which were not intentional. I'm worried that as I start to add more and more foods in, I'll gain some weight back and not fit into that size! However, when I lost about 8 pounds last year, I DID buy a bunch of jeans in my new size (now a size smaller than that).

    I used to like shopping even when I weighed more, too, and even as a kid, teenager and young adult. However, now it's more of an incovenience because I'm a lot busier than I used to be. I like to do it online, but especially since I've lost more weight, I really feel like I need to try the clothes on first.
  • psychod787
    psychod787 Posts: 4,099 Member
    I'm a bit a cheap @$$. So, I hate buying cloths. Same old stuff is good enough for me. When it wears out, then I replace it.
  • Beautyofdreams
    Beautyofdreams Posts: 1,009 Member
    Maybe it depends on where you tend to lose your weight the fastest or your shape? I'm an apple with no hips, no butt and slim legs. I have lost 79 pounds since last March and went down 9 pant sizes, 1 shoe size, 3 bra sizes, and 4 shirt sizes. I do not think that more will come off my hips but will probably lose some more off my middle and probably 1 more band size in bras. I purchase most of my clothes from the same handful of stores and brands because they fit, I like them and can afford them. Frequent buying of pants was a necessity while I could slide by with too big tops.
    I enjoy shopping now since I can choose clothes to express my personality instead of trying to hide how big I was or worry what people would say if I wore something they didn't think appropriate for a large woman. The last is from being around my mother and her friends. They constantly make comments about what people should and should not wear.
  • Godlord1488
    Godlord1488 Posts: 37 Member
    yes yes yes!!! i sold my.last "fat clothes" 2 weeks.ago on Grailed. traded a size 10 Rick Owens slab skirt from.2015 for the small sized Vetements active shooter Justin4ever rare hoodie dress. needless to say i love the dress but sometimes after a weekend of letting my diet go a bit, my size 0s ans 2s get snug or dont look the same as they did when i bought them and the body doubt pours in. ive spent almost $6k on new professional workwear sizes It40 and smaller and im scared AF if i ever faulter....ill need my old fat clothes back:"(
  • vanmep
    vanmep Posts: 410 Member
    I never was a clothes person when I was young even though I was thin at the time - just never had a good sense of my own style, or any body confidence. In the last couple of years I have been thoroughly enjoying clothes!! As an older person who shed my post baby weight, I feel like I’m confident about my body and my style. My next challenge is that I am moving into semi retirement and really have no need for new clothes any more 😩
  • 33gail33
    33gail33 Posts: 1,155 Member

    One downside of losing weight for me is that (if it is the same as a decade ago when I lost 37 lbs) my clothes will be way to big on me, but I don't really want to replace them. I wear a lot of dresses and bought a lot in larger sizes the last few years (I have 60+ dresses).
    I mean it's not going to stop me from trying to lose - hopefully I can get at least some of them altered.
    Then again if/when I get slim again maybe I will feel like going back to fitted jeans and T shirts - I just hate the way they look on me right now.
  • DD265
    DD265 Posts: 651 Member
    edited May 2021
    penguinmama87 wrote: »
    I too don't get very excited by clothes shopping itself, just because I'm old fashioned and prefer the kind of clothes that really don't show up on the racks much. I also tend to think these are more flattering for more sizes and shapes of bodies. My main strategy is, when I luck out and find an outfit that I like, I basically turn it into a uniform by buying it in three or four different colors. If anyone remembers "capsule wardrobing" when it trended a few years ago, that's basically been me since forever. I like finding pieces that are versatile and I can dress up, or down, or layer or not depending on the weather. Fewer items in my closet, but I like them all and can take care of them well.

    Same here. OH thinks I'm mad when I buy three/four of the same t-shirt in the same or different colours. My body shape (hourglass) might have come back into "fashion" but I don't really like fashionable high street clothing. I'm not that tall at 5'5, but find most tops too short in the body, and most pants too small on the hips. Working from home has had it's perks because I've not had to be smart-casual for work.

    I'm still on my journey so buying the bare minimum of clothing really, fitness gear aside. I keep seeing an advert for a lovely teal Montane hoody (it's right under this post now..) but I'm resisting. I have a lot of my clothes from when I was about a stone lighter, and then probably almost a stone lighter than that so I plan to see what I get back into and what I like when the time comes. Ultimate aim is a well tailored, good quality capsule wardrobe.

    What I have had to buy recently is new bras as I dropped a back size but I'm struggling to find one that fits online (am a bit of an awkward fit), and it's been difficult to go and get fitted. The same bra with the smaller back is just a little too small on the cups. I've had 3/4 delivered today so hopefully one of those will do the job.
  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,968 Member
    Lately I've been buying almost all my clothes from the same brand. Everybody loves the way their clothes fit, they're extremely comfortable, and they look good. I can buy them online because I know they'll fit exactly right.
  • wunderkindking
    wunderkindking Posts: 1,615 Member
    edited May 2021
    I went through this stage at one point. I bought a LOT of stuff because I COULD, they were cute and I was excited. At this point, I am honestly very over it. My bra and shoe size changed, even. EVERYTHING. The idea of buying yet another entire wardrobe worth of clothes makes me want to go cry.

    Also I need to do ANOTHER freaking clothes clean out to goodwill and for give away to friends or resale because I can no longer find the things that actually fit me and. I'm just tired of it. Its fun to be able to fit into the cute stuff but doing it once was enough. I've done it twice. Doing it a third time just so I'm decently covered is no longer appealing.

    Enough so that the major reason I am considering stopping where I am (which is within the health bmi range but not actually my ideal weight) is just that. It's not even expensive because I buy mostly second hand but good god.

    And, yeah, my 'style' has not changed at all. It's still mostly athleisure, jeans and basic tops, with most of the funky/fun being in either bright colors or shoes.

  • wunderkindking
    wunderkindking Posts: 1,615 Member
    Oh wait, one style thing changed.

    I will wear button up shirts now because they no longer gap around the chest due to huge boobs. That's SUPER nice. I'm also more willing to wear fitted tops instead of tents. Tents are still comfortable though.
  • hipari
    hipari Posts: 1,367 Member
    If I had just reached my goal weight and intended to stay that size, I wouldn't bother even trying to resist. If it was about stuff I expect would be too big soon, I'd do my best to only buy some key pieces, get things I can get more mileage out of, and so on. I'm currently in a different kind of resisting mode, as I need maternity clothing and would love to buy all kinds of cute stuff but know I most definitely won't be wearing it forever as baby bumps come with a due date.

    Adapting the same strategies I previously have to weight loss and what I hoped were in-between sizes, I've been buying what is needed to stay comfortable (=underwear that fits) and cheap pants and leggings that stay up. For tops I've bought a couple of dresses that should fit throughout this pregnancy, and basic tanks and t-shirts I can wear with cardigans, hoodies and other stuff I can keep unzipped/unbuttoned. I cleaned out my current "normal-size" wardrobe once, and am trying to get more mileage out of my loose tunics and shirts, stretchy dresses etc. I've previously used similar strategies for weight-loss clothing: tanks and t-shirts that fit and extra mileage out of sleeved clothing layered on top, loose shirts and dresses that are tighter at first but still look good loose, and comfy underwear.

    Another consideration is lockdown restrictions: if you're still not at your goal, it doesn't make much sense to buy your dream clothes if you're stuck at home in your pj's and those dream clothes are going to be too big by the time you have a chance to wear them.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Kind of related to topic but what online sites do you all use? I see so many really cute tops on sites I've never tried but hesitate because I'm not sure of quality.
    TBH I'd like to stray from my comfort zone and pick different things, even just different T-shirt designs. :)
  • wunderkindking
    wunderkindking Posts: 1,615 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    Kind of related to topic but what online sites do you all use? I see so many really cute tops on sites I've never tried but hesitate because I'm not sure of quality.
    TBH I'd like to stray from my comfort zone and pick different things, even just different T-shirt designs. :)

    Honestly, I do a lot of thredup and sometimes poshmark and just filter by brands I know. They've got good buyer protection, thred up is vetted for condition, and it's relatively inexpensive. I just don't branch out a lot if I can't go see things in person.
  • penguinmama87
    penguinmama87 Posts: 1,155 Member
    hipari wrote: »
    If I had just reached my goal weight and intended to stay that size, I wouldn't bother even trying to resist. If it was about stuff I expect would be too big soon, I'd do my best to only buy some key pieces, get things I can get more mileage out of, and so on. I'm currently in a different kind of resisting mode, as I need maternity clothing and would love to buy all kinds of cute stuff but know I most definitely won't be wearing it forever as baby bumps come with a due date.

    Adapting the same strategies I previously have to weight loss and what I hoped were in-between sizes, I've been buying what is needed to stay comfortable (=underwear that fits) and cheap pants and leggings that stay up. For tops I've bought a couple of dresses that should fit throughout this pregnancy, and basic tanks and t-shirts I can wear with cardigans, hoodies and other stuff I can keep unzipped/unbuttoned. I cleaned out my current "normal-size" wardrobe once, and am trying to get more mileage out of my loose tunics and shirts, stretchy dresses etc. I've previously used similar strategies for weight-loss clothing: tanks and t-shirts that fit and extra mileage out of sleeved clothing layered on top, loose shirts and dresses that are tighter at first but still look good loose, and comfy underwear.

    Another consideration is lockdown restrictions: if you're still not at your goal, it doesn't make much sense to buy your dream clothes if you're stuck at home in your pj's and those dream clothes are going to be too big by the time you have a chance to wear them.

    This is very smart! I actually wear a lot of the same clothes whether I'm pregnant or not. Empire waist dresses, elastic waist skirts to go over or under the bump, tunic tops, and cardigans. This might not work with your timing but I also really like knee high or thigh high stockings/tights in the winter rather than anything that goes over the stomach. If you plan on breastfeeding, check your necklines or see what can be easily lifted from the bottom. I have a couple very cute "nursing dresses" but for the most part, I just adapt regular clothes. I've had five kids, may have a few more, and I do not have the storage space, budget, or even the mental capacity to handle three different full clothing sets. As much as possible, things work for all three states of life.
  • penguinmama87
    penguinmama87 Posts: 1,155 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    Kind of related to topic but what online sites do you all use? I see so many really cute tops on sites I've never tried but hesitate because I'm not sure of quality.
    TBH I'd like to stray from my comfort zone and pick different things, even just different T-shirt designs. :)

    I like eShakti for dresses, though they also do tops. They are on the pricier end (at least for me, where my in-person shopping is almost entirely thrift stores and clearance racks), but everything I've ever ordered from them has been very high quality and they do good coupons occasionally. Some of the designs aren't to my taste, but you can customize the designs you like and have them made to your specific measurements, change a neckline or skirt or sleeve length if you wish.
  • hipari
    hipari Posts: 1,367 Member
    penguinmama87 wrote: »
    hipari wrote: »
    If I had just reached my goal weight and intended to stay that size, I wouldn't bother even trying to resist. If it was about stuff I expect would be too big soon, I'd do my best to only buy some key pieces, get things I can get more mileage out of, and so on. I'm currently in a different kind of resisting mode, as I need maternity clothing and would love to buy all kinds of cute stuff but know I most definitely won't be wearing it forever as baby bumps come with a due date.

    Adapting the same strategies I previously have to weight loss and what I hoped were in-between sizes, I've been buying what is needed to stay comfortable (=underwear that fits) and cheap pants and leggings that stay up. For tops I've bought a couple of dresses that should fit throughout this pregnancy, and basic tanks and t-shirts I can wear with cardigans, hoodies and other stuff I can keep unzipped/unbuttoned. I cleaned out my current "normal-size" wardrobe once, and am trying to get more mileage out of my loose tunics and shirts, stretchy dresses etc. I've previously used similar strategies for weight-loss clothing: tanks and t-shirts that fit and extra mileage out of sleeved clothing layered on top, loose shirts and dresses that are tighter at first but still look good loose, and comfy underwear.

    Another consideration is lockdown restrictions: if you're still not at your goal, it doesn't make much sense to buy your dream clothes if you're stuck at home in your pj's and those dream clothes are going to be too big by the time you have a chance to wear them.

    This is very smart! I actually wear a lot of the same clothes whether I'm pregnant or not. Empire waist dresses, elastic waist skirts to go over or under the bump, tunic tops, and cardigans. This might not work with your timing but I also really like knee high or thigh high stockings/tights in the winter rather than anything that goes over the stomach. If you plan on breastfeeding, check your necklines or see what can be easily lifted from the bottom. I have a couple very cute "nursing dresses" but for the most part, I just adapt regular clothes. I've had five kids, may have a few more, and I do not have the storage space, budget, or even the mental capacity to handle three different full clothing sets. As much as possible, things work for all three states of life.

    Thanks for your tips! I usually hate thigh highs with a burning passion, so can't imagine liking them now. I've had some surprising issues with dresses and tunics I thought would fit, since my hips got wider. I've been frustrated enough with my pregnancy clothing issues that I haven't given much thought to nursing wardrobe, except that finding suitable bras will likely be a pain due to my unusual cup size. I figured I'll start thinking about that once I'm closer to delivery, have a better idea of what my cup size will be when breastfeeding etc.

    Overall, I think there are major similarities in weight loss and maternity clothing strategies: clothes that look as nice as possible on as large a size spectrum as possible, and lots of mileage.
  • Speakeasy76
    Speakeasy76 Posts: 961 Member
    I actually REALLY need to try on clothes since I've lost more weight and am not even sure what size I am, especially if I don't know the brand. I'm not wanting to lose more weight, so this is it.

    Went to Marshall's yesterday since I was near there anyway and need shorts that fit. Annoyed to find out that there dressing rooms are still clothes, so I just bought what I really looked and tried them on at home. Turns out I'm smaller than I thought, so will have to return/exchange some things. Ugh!
  • DeterminedDivaMN
    DeterminedDivaMN Posts: 20 Member
    When I was losing the bulk of my weight (lost 190 lbs), I would flip my closet by shopping at thrift stores. $60 and a couple of bags of clothes. I'm amazed at the selection, quality, and price of clothing at these stores. In fact, this is what I do when we are on vacation too. Instead of buying souvenirs, the hubs drops me off at a Goodwill and I buy a few things. LOL Although now that I've gained a lot back, I'll be actively replenishing as needed when I lose these extra pounds.

    Although now that I work from home, there really isn't as much need for "extra" clothes. In the winter, I wear sweats and in the summer, I wear shorts and a t-shirt. I'd love to figure out a capsule wardrobe for my non-work days, although technically I could wear the same "non-work" outfit every weekend and no one would probably even notice.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    wunderkindking wrote: »
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    Kind of related to topic but what online sites do you all use? I see so many really cute tops on sites I've never tried but hesitate because I'm not sure of quality.
    TBH I'd like to stray from my comfort zone and pick different things, even just different T-shirt designs. :)

    Honestly, I do a lot of thredup and sometimes poshmark and just filter by brands I know. They've got good buyer protection, thred up is vetted for condition, and it's relatively inexpensive. I just don't branch out a lot if I can't go see things in person.

    I'll check those out, thanks!!
    @penguinmama87 I did look that site up and they are expensive, for me too. :)

    I actually went to a "Life Is Good" store yesterday and I love their shirts!! Their upstairs was devoted to clearance items and had lots to pick from but since I couldn't decide which one I liked, I bought dh a shirt instead. Lol Now that I know the store's there, I'll go back. Life Is Good makes me happy. :)

    They have some kind of program on Amazon where you can get items, then send back what you don't like and only pay for what you keep. Can't remember the name but has anyone tried something like that?

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