eHarmony had made things worse!

I tried the online dating through some of the more popular sites. When I did meet up with two guys on two dates, they were basically after a booty call. It really turned me off of the whole thing. I ended up looking at MySpace and doing a search for people in my own area and age group. I read through some profiles and messaged some guys that seemed nice. I met my husband that way!

Shannon

I love OK!Cupid. I find it highly entertaining. I've had some very failed dates (one guy met me and e-mailed me some porn that he had written after meeting me), no luck dating on line. OK!C pissed me off on Monday, though, it was my birthday and it sent me an e-mail, "Happy Birthday! Still Single?" aaaaaaaaaaand I laughed hysterically and told my best friend who made fun of them with me.

Haha, My birthday was in July and I got email from them saying the exact thing. I was like WTH..what a nice way to tell someone Happy Birthday

And if you plan to respond with 'im glad I don't have to date anymore' please PM me your address so I can send you some cat poop in the mail.

I love you.

freaking hilarious post!

A friend of mine did eharmony and didn't meet anyone worth mentioning. After that, she tried speed dating and met a few guys. She liked that she got to see them right away (instead of being fooled by a great picture that looked nothing like them). Maybe you can find out if there's any of those events in your area.

I met my husband at Discount Tire...of all places! Keep your eyes open....there are still good men out there! Plus, pay attention when you're out and about, you're probably getting checked out a lot more than you realize!!

EDIT..for the record, I didn't get married till 39, and HATED people using the "oh, I'm SO glad I'm not OUT THERE" line when I was single too...its the most condescending thing ever. Plus, almost every friend who used that line on me is now divorced...(is it terrible that I find that hilarious?)

I would never online date again. I think it's a good transition for those who are recently broken up with, dating for the first time in a long time, or looking to get laid. Online dating sites are absolutely not for me (even if I were to fall into any of the above categories). I hated every single thing about it.

I've tried POF and Okcupid and also match.com for a bit and had no luck. Met a few guys but they were either losers or just wanted a booty call...so lame.

Ok ok i guess I did find one good man on there but he's working out of state and though we still talk to each other I don't know if the possibility of dating is there or not due to his work and my work as well( we actually do the same work but there's no gurantee of being on the same job site or even state for that matter...sigh)

So for now i've given up on dating sites and I figure i shall take this time to focus on myself and getting my life on track and then i'll worry about finding a man or maybe i'll get lucky and one will just fall into my lap haha.

I tried Match. I got plently of emails such as "Hey, wanna f***?"--usually misspelled and from guys in photos wearing no shirts or dirty looking shirts--so sexy, such a turn on. I usually responded with "Sure, just not with you. Ever.". I am sure there are some great people on the free sites but to me they had too many guys that were just looking for a booty call without the cost of drinks at a bar. Online was best for me because I had recently moved back to New Orleans and didn't have any friends (and it was immediately post-Katrina so what few friends I did have were scattered) and the bar scene just wasn't appealing to me.

Eventually I met my sweetie on Chemistry.com after I had totally given up on online dating (for about the 4th time). He was from a town an hour away and his profile was pretty generic, so I ignored him (because why would I want to meet anyone from somewhere as sucky as Baton Rouge and no way am I ever going to drive there......). He sent me a nudge as a reminder and I thought "what the hell, I'm going to delete this profile anyway, might as well meet one damn person for money/time". And two years later that is the best $60 I ever spent. I didn't think they made men like him any more. I thought they broke the mold when they made my dad. I don't know that it works for everyone, but I know that there is no way in hell that I would have met him any other way. And yes, Baton Rouge still sucks, but I'd live in worse places for him.

I DO need new tires!
I met so many more men when I lived in San Diego. Everyone is always outside or just out and about. I always try and look decent when I go to the grocery store or even when I am in the airport (I travel frequently for work). But I just dont seem to be one of those people that gets approached a lot. It might be because I look *****y. Gotta work on that!

And for the record - I would like to thank everyone for being so cool and laughing with me about this. I just didnt expect to be single again at this point in my life!

Edited because *****y was bit**y...not slutty. Slutty would probably increase my chances.

For real though, you look amazing! Not crappy at all. And I really think that it depends on where you are for that kind of social interaction. Strangers just don't talk to one another very much in certain places. Or it takes a strong instigator and a lot of people just don't have that in them.

I DO need new tires!
I met so many more men when I lived in San Diego. Everyone is always outside or just out and about. I always try and look decent when I go to the grocery store or even when I am in the airport (I travel frequently for work). But I just dont seem to be one of those people that gets approached a lot. It might be because I look *****y. Gotta work on that!

And for the record - I would like to thank everyone for being so cool and laughing with me about this. I just didnt expect to be single again at this point in my life!

Edited because *****y was bit**y...not slutty. Slutty would probably increase my chances.

I think I always put that vibe out there too...in fact, my now-husband talked to me for like 20 minutes in the Discount Tire waiting room before it dawned on me that he was probably going to ask me out. He wasn't the kind of guy who usually talked to me at all, so it threw me for a loop. I honestly didn't think we had anything in common, but went out with him for 2 reasons...1) he could carry on a conversation, which seems rare these days, and 2) he looks a little like Val Kilmer (from back when he was still cute - not the bloated Val Kilmer we see now)

I'm so glad I didn't rule him out and he turned out to be an amazing boyfriend and husband.

I actually found my current boyfriend on POF and my friend found hers on POF they were the best guys we have ever had and continue to be to this day. It just took alot of patience and awkward dates to find the right man. Keep trying! I hope you find a site that works for you!

Haha. I am laughing because I loved your whole post!!!!

It seems (or least here in Boston) men want the "perfect" package and I'm not physically perfect. Even worse, in a city of smarties, being smart isn't even "enough".

So I perfectly id with your rant!

(and will help you with the poop packages to those who reply "I'm so glad i don't have to date anymore")

N

Haha so true. Have you noticed the one that are seeking the "perfect" package. Doesn't even have the "perfect" package themselves?

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Haha so true. Have you noticed the one that are seeking the "perfect" package. Doesn't even have the "perfect" package themselves?
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Totally! After all the drama in the forums, I am scared to bring up how they usually had other package deficiencies! :laugh:

I too will PM u later for my cat-poop envelope.... Your post had me literally LOL!!!! If I were 1) a man, 2) in your area and 3) single, I would date u!!!!! Your baby will grow up soon, hang in there my sistah...

I found my fiance on plenty of fish,...but trust me I went through some duds first. He was a single, full time daddy of a 5 year old when I met him. we've been together for 4 years. hang in there, if anything POF lets you check out hot men all day.