eHarmony had made things worse!

Let me suggest AdultFriendFinder.com There are lots of nice men on there....HAHA

I met my boyfriend on plentyoffish! I had to weed thru a lot of guys who weren't worth a second of my time & were just out to play games, but eventually I did find a great guy! Be extremely picky if you use this site!! However, some of my best guy friends are actually guys I met on there!

Warning: meeting men online gives them extra opportunity to be super pick about appearances. There are so many women online that they think they can always find somebody hotter, regardless of how great they think your personality is.

Warning: meeting men online gives them extra opportunity to be super pick about appearances. There are so many women online that they think they can always find somebody hotter, regardless of how great they think your personality is.

I have to admit - this isn't just men. I think I look at the pictures a little more than I should. I almost feel like everyone on an online dating service messages people who are 1-2 notches above them on the attractiveness level.

Can I also say how sick I am of 50 year old guys messaging me. I'm 30 and not interested.

Haha I"m guilty at looking at the pictures more then I should. And yes those 50-60 yr old men that email. Creepy!

I met my husband on a "dating" site. I say dating losely.

I was seperated from my ex, but had 2 young kids that made it impossible to go out and meet people.
I went to FriendFinder, mostly to chat and stuff. I wasn't really looking to meet someone or date someone there. But the idea of flirting and people hitting on me was appealing :P (self esteem had bottomed pretty low because of the seperation and all).

One night he came into one of the chat rooms just looking to "cause trouble" We talked for awhile on their site. Then took it to one of the usual messengers. And then things just kept progressing.

I think the best way to use dating sites is as "exposure". I have my doubt that a computer is going to find my match. I know for a fact that had I used any sites match making, they would have never found him. I am not sure if I had described what I was looking for I would have found him.

I think it was just fate. Just like meeting someone in an elevator.

I wish you luck!

Hi, I would talk to admin about how the choices are coming through and that they really aren't lining up with what you wanted. . . My brother met his wife there. . .

Beautiful really sweet girl. . their birthdays are only a day apart. . lol. . They have been married a long time now. . Hope this is encouraging. Good luck in your quest. . . my advice pray about it. . there is someone perfect for you out there and it will happen.

I was single for about 6 months. I messaged a guy that I played WoW with that I was interested in getting to know him better, and it kinda scared him, I think.

I was just about to try and date an 'ok' guy from Canada or something crazy when the original guy finally sent me a message back a month or two later. He was just so surprised that any lady would want to date a gamer dude who sat around eating pizza between work days.

We have a month left, then we'll have been dating for 4 years.

I tried those websites, they matched me with horrifying looking men, or men with wildly different views (different like if I say I like kids, their profiles say 'and if you mention a child I will run to the hills and lock myself in a pit!' different.) I had just about given up on dating sites and meeting folks and was going to settle for mr.OK that I mentioned earlier but it ended up much better for me.

Maybe just taking a month or two away from the dating sites will land you into the arms of a great guy by chance, like it did me? Keep trying, you are a lovely looking woman, and your sense of humor is outstanding.

I tried datingdirect.co.uk, which is basically match.com under another name. Had a few dates from the site, but found that the guys on there can't converse very well. They say the same, "hello, how are you," and nothing really original. Then when you meet them they aren't really as perfect as they seemed.

My dates:

Number 1)Wanted to change me into someone I'm not. He also liked to spent a lot of time in tea rooms. Also talked on and on and on about historical facts.

Number 2)expected me to pay for the cinema, told me he had no money left. Got very very moody with me and gave me the silent treatment.

Number 3)another one who talked and talked and talked. But this time didn't let me contribute to the conversation. When I spoke, his eyes glazed over. He also held his hand out waiting for my money for my drink when we were at the bar and didn't give me my change.

Number 4)seemed perfect. Ver adventurous, loved the outdoors. Unfortunately he stunk of sweat on our first date and things just went down hill from there. He started planning my life, told me I was to attend a wedding with him and told me what to wear.

Number 5)thankfully number 4 was the last one....

Single = hassle free life

Lol... Men are nightmares!!!

Apparently my excessive video game reference and love of cheese products does not lead to matching with attractive men!

Firstly: It is awesome that you are a gamer, I love mmo's and have met some awesome people online gaming :bigsmile:
Second: I met my BF on eHarmony, nearly a year ago. We started with emails and then phone calls, our first call lasted 3 hours :noway: It blew me away how easy he was to talk to and the calls kept coming, we have talked about our likes/dislikes, even had a "warts and all" conversation. I joined the site because my sister (who doesn't have a computer) asked me to check it out for her :laugh: Ooops sorry sis this guy is mine

I have laughed a lot looking at the 'potential' matches, one guy said that he wanted his 'match' to understand that he was always going to be the smartest in the relationship :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

I wish you all the best with the dating issue it is scary to get back out there especially as a single parent or as a 'mature' aged person I'm in my 40's. Take your time, you are worth it :flowerforyou:

A friend and I tried Eharmony at the same time. We kept joking that everyone they sent us looked like Lumberjacks.

LOVE IT - I have tears rolling out of my eyes from laughter!!!

So sorry your experience has been fail. And you had me cracking up btw. I personally haven't used the dating sites, but I work with a girl, she's really cute she's a pharmacist. And her sister bought her subscriptions to Match.com and eharmony for her graduation gift. She matched with a guy one Match.com and she thought it was cute, a cop, he emailed her. A few days later they matched on eharmony. They emailed for quite a while before starting to talk on the phone.

And they just bought a house together. So yes, it can happen! Have you tried anything in maybe your town like speed dating? Had a friend say it was actually really fun. Or there is a website that does meet ups for different hobbies and interest. Everything from book clubs to hiking groups, one of my friends met a guy doing that. And hey only the ones you have at least one thing in common with show up right?

HATE HATE HATE online dating sites- All those men want is to hook up for anonymous sex. ICK!
IF you want to meet nice, eligible men, take an automotive class - nowdays LOTS of guys take cooking classes. Wine tasting; church socials. And here's one u might not have thought of (kind of sneaky if you don't have kids) kids sports activities - single guys coach kids - I know one who does - they coach soccer, kids baseball & football. You'll find them at the practice field, usually their games are on Saturday afternoon (so dads won't miss the games on tv sunday)
also check out the dog park

that's a little judgemental...men are on there for the same reasons we are...sure there's dirty pervs, but there's dirty pervs everywhere. Not once did I go out with a guy because he was pimping himself out on POF...and I dated a few off there. And I found the love of my life on there. He was there because he was a single father of a 5 year old, and no one to babysit. Plus he worked his *kitten* off every day, so he didn't have a social life. I'm sorry but you seriously offended me with this ignorant statement.

HATE HATE HATE online dating sites- All those men want is to hook up for anonymous sex. ICK!
IF you want to meet nice, eligible men, take an automotive class - nowdays LOTS of guys take cooking classes. Wine tasting; church socials. And here's one u might not have thought of (kind of sneaky if you don't have kids) kids sports activities - single guys coach kids - I know one who does - they coach soccer, kids baseball & football. You'll find them at the practice field, usually their games are on Saturday afternoon (so dads won't miss the games on tv sunday)
also check out the dog park

That's not true. Although I haven't met the "right one". I have met some respectable guys on there. And it's also goes for women. There are some women just looking to hook up for sex. So that's is kinda bias. And I would like to know how two people can have anonymous sex?? Did you mean the word discreet?

HATE HATE HATE online dating sites- All those men want is to hook up for anonymous sex. ICK!

I have to disagree with this as well. The way I look at it is...if I'M a decent, normal, regular person looking for a stable long term relationship, why would there not be decent, normal, regular men looking for a stable long term relationship? The way we lead our lives today often makes it hard to meet others regardless of gender. Surely not only women feel that way.

I agree with you that if I'm a normal, decent, stable person there should be men on the dating sites like that as well......but I'll be damned if I could find just one!!!

I tried them all, lavalife, eharmony, plenty of fish. I don't know how I got so lucky, but I met my current bf on POF. I definitely had to go on some really bad dates, but it was worth it to find him. It just take a bit of perseverance. He had just as much trouble meeting people as I did. And he's amazing. So there are good guys on those sites. And the attractive thing is important, but you have to give them a chance. Sometimes they aren't the most photogenic but if you're willing to meet them, they may be more attractive in person. And their personality may make them more attractive too. If there's something about his profile that you like, maybe give him a chance in person. Can't hurt.

Oh, I have given a lot of guys chances because I liked their profiles, but men quickly dismiss you if you are overweight, Bbw, whatever you want to call it. I can't tell you how many times on eharmony, etc, I would get into great conversations with men, we would be clicking and as soon as they saw my pictures, suddenly they would be not interested, taking a "break" from dating, etc. Or suddenly on the date things weren't as connected as before (not at all because of personality connection).

When I was single the best thing I ever did was check out Toast Masters. THis is a group of people learnign about public speaking. The particular chapter was tied to a singles group. The women were attractive, smart and fun to hang out with. I met my current G/F right about the same time I started with this group but had that not happened there were several ladies that were very intersting.

As a guy I hate the online dating scene. Would rather be out doing the things I like to do and meet real people.