What nobody tells you about losing weight
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I’m thinking about making a chair pad form fitted to my keister. Because this is beginning to happen to me also.
The last few days. I know exactly where those ‘ol hip bones are all day, every day.
If it's any consolation it does get better - you "harden up" over time. You adjust your position a little, learn how to nest you legs when on your side and just get used to it. Remember the first time you tried to do a sit up how much it hurt your back? And now it's probably fine - you've hardened up.
When I was an anorexic teen I also did gymnastics. And the stuff I could do directly onto concrete (diving forward rolls etc) even though my spine looked like a xylophone would make you wince. But I just did it.
Basically, if you want to get a special cushion, go for it. But, you will develop a certain tolerance and adjust your behaviours anyway. And if you change shape the cushion might not have the same effect anymore.
I actually did a wheelchair cushion study back in the day with quad and paraplegics. If you sit in the same position you have a risk of pressure sores, so they have higher risk cushions with air bubbles and such like that make it more difficult to always be in exactly the same position (which type of cushion you get depends on a load of factors). I can't help feeling that our fat bottoms had the same effect, so we didn't have to move ourselves, the fat did it for us. And when you lose that AND you still don't move yourself enough you get the warning from your body that you're going to damage yourself unless you shift.8 -
jcocjcoc17 wrote: »I’m thinking about making a chair pad form fitted to my keister. Because this is beginning to happen to me also.
The last few days. I know exactly where those ‘ol hip bones are all day, every day.
If it's any consolation it does get better - you "harden up" over time. You adjust your position a little, learn how to nest you legs when on your side and just get used to it. Remember the first time you tried to do a sit up how much it hurt your back? And now it's probably fine - you've hardened up.
When I was an anorexic teen I also did gymnastics. And the stuff I could do directly onto concrete (diving forward rolls etc) even though my spine looked like a xylophone would make you wince. But I just did it.
Basically, if you want to get a special cushion, go for it. But, you will develop a certain tolerance and adjust your behaviours anyway. And if you change shape the cushion might not have the same effect anymore.
I actually did a wheelchair cushion study back in the day with quad and paraplegics. If you sit in the same position you have a risk of pressure sores, so they have higher risk cushions with air bubbles and such like that make it more difficult to always be in exactly the same position (which type of cushion you get depends on a load of factors). I can't help feeling that our fat bottoms had the same effect, so we didn't have to move ourselves, the fat did it for us. And when you lose that AND you still don't move yourself enough you get the warning from your body that you're going to damage yourself unless you shift.
LOL coincidentally I am disabled, and I use mobility devices. I walk. But not a whole heckuva lot.
I might pack some old bubble wrap mailing envelopes into my homemade cushion. 😉
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I am cold.
I am so so cold.
It's 52. we're barely into fall. I usually like this time of year. I used to be fine in these temps. I AM SO COLD.18 -
Just an update Male 64years old ..Mod-Keto
8/27 229
9/7 215
Roughly 1500cals....Protein 75g Fat 115 Carb 20-40g These are rough numbers off the top of my head... Walk 2mi briskly 40 min...Mon-Fri3 -
earthstream57 wrote: »Just an update Male 64years old ..Mod-Keto
8/27 229
9/7 215
Roughly 1500cals....Protein 75g Fat 115 Carb 20-40g These are rough numbers off the top of my head... Walk 2mi briskly 40 min...Mon-Fri
Well, you're probably gonna lose weight real fast given that I'm a 5'5" tall woman and lose weight on 1500 calories a day and maintain at 2000. I'm fairly active but those numbers alarm me a little. Be careful, OK??12 -
flossyposse wrote: »For me, it's more about things people didn't tell me about gaining weight. I am at my highest weight and I never thought it would be difficult as a heavier person to paint my own toenails, wipe my own butt (it's not that I can't do it obviously, but I have to twist & bend my back more because I got bigger), or be hot and sweaty after trying on clothes in a store. Some everyday, simple tasks are more challenging and it is an inspiration to get back to the old me because these things really suck.
Glad you're getting on track and realize these things for yourself. Keep up the good work 🤗❤
Interesting how people can disagree with someone else's experiences.🤫🙃🙄8 -
yweight2020 wrote: »
Interesting how people can disagree with someone else's experiences.🤫🙃🙄
I think there's an issue with the "disagree" button being touched accidentally, especially when people are using the app.10 -
Sand_TIger wrote: »yweight2020 wrote: »
Interesting how people can disagree with someone else's experiences.🤫🙃🙄
I think there's an issue with the "disagree" button being touched accidentally, especially when people are using the app.
I wish there wasn't a disagree button but I'd love a "laughing" button!19 -
LiveOnceBeHappy wrote: »Sand_TIger wrote: »yweight2020 wrote: »
Interesting how people can disagree with someone else's experiences.🤫🙃🙄
I think there's an issue with the "disagree" button being touched accidentally, especially when people are using the app.
I wish there wasn't a disagree button but I'd love a "laughing" button!
SparkPeople just had the like button.
Either you liked something, or you left it alone. Or said something.
I dunno. I’m getting used to the random weird dislikes here. The ones where I just describe my own personal opinion or experience and I get two or three dislikes mystify me. Sometimes I mention it.
People are weird. 🤷🏼♀️
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Nobody told me I wouldn't be able to fit my smartphone in my jeans front pockets anymore
I've been frustrated at smartphones getting bigger and bigger for a while now (I have small hands) but my jeans pockets have gotten smaller along with my jeans size and now I am super frustrated!
(and annoyed at the sexism, smartphones not being designed with smaller female hands in mind and women's clothing having smaller pockets than men's!)
/rant over
@Lietchi - sorry for the delayed response to this. Radian jeans are a good choice here. My teenage daughter has wanted jeans with deep pockets for years, and I found these for her. She loves them! You can find them online.4 -
Hips don't lie!! But then, sometimes they tell the truth so loudly!! Frequently even, did the song say anything about that?MargaretYakoda wrote: »I know exactly where those ‘ol hip bones are all day, every day.
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justanotherloser007 wrote: »
Hips don't lie!! But then, sometimes they tell the truth so loudly!! Frequently even, did the song say anything about that?MargaretYakoda wrote: »I know exactly where those ‘ol hip bones are all day, every day.
In yoga I constantly hear,”you carry your emotions and stress in your hips”.
Maybe that’s why mine were so big. I had to have big ole saddlebags to carry all that.10 -
whaaaaaaaaaaaat?! i guess that explains my badunkadunk!springlering62 wrote: »justanotherloser007 wrote: »
Hips don't lie!! But then, sometimes they tell the truth so loudly!! Frequently even, did the song say anything about that?MargaretYakoda wrote: »I know exactly where those ‘ol hip bones are all day, every day.
In yoga I constantly hear,”you carry your emotions and stress in your hips”.
Maybe that’s why mine were so big. I had to have big ole saddlebags to carry all that.
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Nobody told me I'd change how I moved in general. Of course I sit differently as I lose my built-in seat cushion, but when I reach for things or lift things my body mechanics are different as my weight goes down and redistributes.14
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- How it links to directly psychology... and requires a shift from the mindset of 'all or nothing' and 'deprivation' to the 'in moderation' and 'self-disciplin'e when motivation is lacking.
- How hard it seems when one is post-menopause. It seemed so much easier when I was younger
- How great I feel after a loss of a couple of inches or pounds...even if no one else notices. Celebrate the small successes!20 -
- How it links to directly psychology... and requires a shift from the mindset of 'all or nothing' and 'deprivation' to the 'in moderation' and 'self-disciplin'e when motivation is lacking.
- How hard it seems when one is post-menopause. It seemed so much easier when I was younger
- How great I feel after a loss of a couple of inches or pounds...even if no one else notices. Celebrate the small successes!
This was my only (sadly) real attempt at weight loss and I was postmenopausal when I started. I didn’t “know” it was deemed to be harder. TBH I found the whole process much easier than I ever expected and am still kicking myself for not having started thirty years ago. 😢
Don’t let the postmenopausal thing mess with your mind. If you tell yourself it’s hard, well , naturally it’ll be hard.25 -
Absolute hostility from one family member complete with insults......
Even strangers are surly...A woman who looked to be in her 20s walked up to me in a crowded store (I was wearing shorts) and she stopped in front of me and slowly and deliberately looked me up and down with disdain (I'm 68). I looked her in the eye and turned and went around her. Hope she had a great day!
I have no "padding" in the back so some chairs are very uncomfortable.
Can't sit still...Hubby comments on my fidgeting to help my energy overflow when I have to sit
Realizing that you can't outrun your fork...what you eat is vitally important. You have to walk 35 miles to walk off a pound.
The way weight loss improves EVERYTHING about your body! Quitting smoking 25 years ago did the same. My husband apparently doesn't believe that I can be so much better and feel so good. I dance around all the time.
Good and Bad things happen when we lose weight, but in my opinion the good far outweighs the bad.
I have lost 69 and still have 30-35 to go and don't know about the loose skin yet, but I believe that for me it will be preferable to the gobs of fat that I have yo-yoed from 180 to 227 and all around since 1994.25 -
I've now lost about forty pounds and am dealing with very weird self-perception issues. Half the time I feel really skinny, the other half I feel impossibly fat and like I've made no progress at all. Photos and the raw data of measurements help, and I know cognitively that it isn't *real* when I feel like I'm still just as heavy as I was when I started. But I was not expecting this weird mind stuff.24
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Chubbynomore10 wrote: »Absolute hostility from one family member complete with insults......
Even strangers are surly...A woman who looked to be in her 20s walked up to me in a crowded store (I was wearing shorts) and she stopped in front of me and slowly and deliberately looked me up and down with disdain (I'm 68). I looked her in the eye and turned and went around her. Hope she had a great day!
I have no "padding" in the back so some chairs are very uncomfortable.
Can't sit still...Hubby comments on my fidgeting to help my energy overflow when I have to sit
Realizing that you can't outrun your fork...what you eat is vitally important. You have to walk 35 miles to walk off a pound.
The way weight loss improves EVERYTHING about your body! Quitting smoking 25 years ago did the same. My husband apparently doesn't believe that I can be so much better and feel so good. I dance around all the time.
Good and Bad things happen when we lose weight, but in my opinion the good far outweighs the bad.
I have lost 69 and still have 30-35 to go and don't know about the loose skin yet, but I believe that for me it will be preferable to the gobs of fat that I have yo-yoed from 180 to 227 and all around since 1994.
While 35 miles sounds like a lot, that’s only five miles a day for a week, which is well within reason. Many many ordinary runners run 35 miles or more a week, which gets you even more calories than walking. I hear “you can’t outrun your fork” a lot. But becoming an active person, if you were previously a sedentary person, makes an enormous difference. In fact, the database which follows large losers who have maintained for a year or more found that regular exercise was the primary commonality among them. It’s much harder to fit a satisfying diet into a calorie budget without regular exercise.10 -
rheddmobile wrote: »Chubbynomore10 wrote: »Absolute hostility from one family member complete with insults......
Even strangers are surly...A woman who looked to be in her 20s walked up to me in a crowded store (I was wearing shorts) and she stopped in front of me and slowly and deliberately looked me up and down with disdain (I'm 68). I looked her in the eye and turned and went around her. Hope she had a great day!
I have no "padding" in the back so some chairs are very uncomfortable.
Can't sit still...Hubby comments on my fidgeting to help my energy overflow when I have to sit
Realizing that you can't outrun your fork...what you eat is vitally important. You have to walk 35 miles to walk off a pound.
The way weight loss improves EVERYTHING about your body! Quitting smoking 25 years ago did the same. My husband apparently doesn't believe that I can be so much better and feel so good. I dance around all the time.
Good and Bad things happen when we lose weight, but in my opinion the good far outweighs the bad.
I have lost 69 and still have 30-35 to go and don't know about the loose skin yet, but I believe that for me it will be preferable to the gobs of fat that I have yo-yoed from 180 to 227 and all around since 1994.
While 35 miles sounds like a lot, that’s only five miles a day for a week, which is well within reason. Many many ordinary runners run 35 miles or more a week, which gets you even more calories than walking. I hear “you can’t outrun your fork” a lot. But becoming an active person, if you were previously a sedentary person, makes an enormous difference. In fact, the database which follows large losers who have maintained for a year or more found that regular exercise was the primary commonality among them. It’s much harder to fit a satisfying diet into a calorie budget without regular exercise.
Personally? I don’t find it that hard to fit a satisfying diet into my daily calorie budget.
And yes. I exercise.
But since I am otherwise extremely sedentary I think I’m within reason to comment this. From my personal experience, anyhow.6 -
penguinmama87 wrote: »I've now lost about forty pounds and am dealing with very weird self-perception issues. Half the time I feel really skinny, the other half I feel impossibly fat and like I've made no progress at all. Photos and the raw data of measurements help, and I know cognitively that it isn't *real* when I feel like I'm still just as heavy as I was when I started. But I was not expecting this weird mind stuff.
It's a pain.
I now wear a size 6 jeans, small or medium tops and dresses. My SHOE size and ring size have both dropped. My bra size is 4" shorter and down 2 cup sizes.
That's 60lbs on me.
I. Still. Flip. Between 'too skinny' and 'have lost no weight at all, really fat'.11 -
MargaretYakoda wrote: »rheddmobile wrote: »Chubbynomore10 wrote: »Absolute hostility from one family member complete with insults......
Even strangers are surly...A woman who looked to be in her 20s walked up to me in a crowded store (I was wearing shorts) and she stopped in front of me and slowly and deliberately looked me up and down with disdain (I'm 68). I looked her in the eye and turned and went around her. Hope she had a great day!
I have no "padding" in the back so some chairs are very uncomfortable.
Can't sit still...Hubby comments on my fidgeting to help my energy overflow when I have to sit
Realizing that you can't outrun your fork...what you eat is vitally important. You have to walk 35 miles to walk off a pound.
The way weight loss improves EVERYTHING about your body! Quitting smoking 25 years ago did the same. My husband apparently doesn't believe that I can be so much better and feel so good. I dance around all the time.
Good and Bad things happen when we lose weight, but in my opinion the good far outweighs the bad.
I have lost 69 and still have 30-35 to go and don't know about the loose skin yet, but I believe that for me it will be preferable to the gobs of fat that I have yo-yoed from 180 to 227 and all around since 1994.
While 35 miles sounds like a lot, that’s only five miles a day for a week, which is well within reason. Many many ordinary runners run 35 miles or more a week, which gets you even more calories than walking. I hear “you can’t outrun your fork” a lot. But becoming an active person, if you were previously a sedentary person, makes an enormous difference. In fact, the database which follows large losers who have maintained for a year or more found that regular exercise was the primary commonality among them. It’s much harder to fit a satisfying diet into a calorie budget without regular exercise.
Personally? I don’t find it that hard to fit a satisfying diet into my daily calorie budget.
And yes. I exercise.
But since I am otherwise extremely sedentary I think I’m within reason to comment this. From my personal experience, anyhow.
Honestly I could/would have said this before I got more active, but because I am now more active my eating habits are for about 300 calories higher than sedentary. So when I spent July being really sedentary because of injury it was honestly miserable.
And I thinkt hat's honestly part of it. When your activity level stays static and you get used to the deficit/habits to maintain a weight nbd. You exercise, get used to more food, your eating habits form around that then you have to change it? Not a good time.9 -
wunderkindking wrote: »MargaretYakoda wrote: »rheddmobile wrote: »Chubbynomore10 wrote: »Absolute hostility from one family member complete with insults......
Even strangers are surly...A woman who looked to be in her 20s walked up to me in a crowded store (I was wearing shorts) and she stopped in front of me and slowly and deliberately looked me up and down with disdain (I'm 68). I looked her in the eye and turned and went around her. Hope she had a great day!
I have no "padding" in the back so some chairs are very uncomfortable.
Can't sit still...Hubby comments on my fidgeting to help my energy overflow when I have to sit
Realizing that you can't outrun your fork...what you eat is vitally important. You have to walk 35 miles to walk off a pound.
The way weight loss improves EVERYTHING about your body! Quitting smoking 25 years ago did the same. My husband apparently doesn't believe that I can be so much better and feel so good. I dance around all the time.
Good and Bad things happen when we lose weight, but in my opinion the good far outweighs the bad.
I have lost 69 and still have 30-35 to go and don't know about the loose skin yet, but I believe that for me it will be preferable to the gobs of fat that I have yo-yoed from 180 to 227 and all around since 1994.
While 35 miles sounds like a lot, that’s only five miles a day for a week, which is well within reason. Many many ordinary runners run 35 miles or more a week, which gets you even more calories than walking. I hear “you can’t outrun your fork” a lot. But becoming an active person, if you were previously a sedentary person, makes an enormous difference. In fact, the database which follows large losers who have maintained for a year or more found that regular exercise was the primary commonality among them. It’s much harder to fit a satisfying diet into a calorie budget without regular exercise.
Personally? I don’t find it that hard to fit a satisfying diet into my daily calorie budget.
And yes. I exercise.
But since I am otherwise extremely sedentary I think I’m within reason to comment this. From my personal experience, anyhow.
Honestly I could/would have said this before I got more active, but because I am now more active my eating habits are for about 300 calories higher than sedentary. So when I spent July being really sedentary because of injury it was honestly miserable.
And I thinkt hat's honestly part of it. When your activity level stays static and you get used to the deficit/habits to maintain a weight nbd. You exercise, get used to more food, your eating habits form around that then you have to change it? Not a good time.
Good point.
I’ve been extremely sedentary for years. So it’s my normal. And I’ve been cutting back calories (although not enough until February) for a very long time. So it is easy-ish for me to feel sated.
You’re right. For someone who is changing habits, it is likely an issue7 -
rheddmobile wrote: »Chubbynomore10 wrote: »Absolute hostility from one family member complete with insults......
Even strangers are surly...A woman who looked to be in her 20s walked up to me in a crowded store (I was wearing shorts) and she stopped in front of me and slowly and deliberately looked me up and down with disdain (I'm 68). I looked her in the eye and turned and went around her. Hope she had a great day!
I have no "padding" in the back so some chairs are very uncomfortable.
Can't sit still...Hubby comments on my fidgeting to help my energy overflow when I have to sit
Realizing that you can't outrun your fork...what you eat is vitally important. You have to walk 35 miles to walk off a pound.
The way weight loss improves EVERYTHING about your body! Quitting smoking 25 years ago did the same. My husband apparently doesn't believe that I can be so much better and feel so good. I dance around all the time.
Good and Bad things happen when we lose weight, but in my opinion the good far outweighs the bad.
I have lost 69 and still have 30-35 to go and don't know about the loose skin yet, but I believe that for me it will be preferable to the gobs of fat that I have yo-yoed from 180 to 227 and all around since 1994.
While 35 miles sounds like a lot, that’s only five miles a day for a week, which is well within reason. Many many ordinary runners run 35 miles or more a week, which gets you even more calories than walking. I hear “you can’t outrun your fork” a lot. But becoming an active person, if you were previously a sedentary person, makes an enormous difference. In fact, the database which follows large losers who have maintained for a year or more found that regular exercise was the primary commonality among them. It’s much harder to fit a satisfying diet into a calorie budget without regular exercise.
I agree that it makes life a lot easier having a lot of execise - it is not a requirement but it helps a lot.
Personally I find not only because of the additional calorie but but simply also having less time to eat and being busy. For me personally I found that my biggest fall was sitting down in front of the TV or computer and having nothing much to do Keeping my hands (and full body) active has been the driver to knock back the not needed snacking moments5 -
wunderkindking wrote: »penguinmama87 wrote: »I've now lost about forty pounds and am dealing with very weird self-perception issues. Half the time I feel really skinny, the other half I feel impossibly fat and like I've made no progress at all. Photos and the raw data of measurements help, and I know cognitively that it isn't *real* when I feel like I'm still just as heavy as I was when I started. But I was not expecting this weird mind stuff.
It's a pain.
I now wear a size 6 jeans, small or medium tops and dresses. My SHOE size and ring size have both dropped. My bra size is 4" shorter and down 2 cup sizes.
That's 60lbs on me.
I. Still. Flip. Between 'too skinny' and 'have lost no weight at all, really fat'.
So true. After 4 years in maintenance you'd think I'd be used to the new me. Nope I too still flip as @wunderkindking calls it. Last week while on a holiday I felt really really fat. I came home looked in the mirror and noted Nah you are still the same, then tried on my skinny skirt - it still fits6 -
Lolinloggen wrote: »wunderkindking wrote: »penguinmama87 wrote: »I've now lost about forty pounds and am dealing with very weird self-perception issues. Half the time I feel really skinny, the other half I feel impossibly fat and like I've made no progress at all. Photos and the raw data of measurements help, and I know cognitively that it isn't *real* when I feel like I'm still just as heavy as I was when I started. But I was not expecting this weird mind stuff.
It's a pain.
I now wear a size 6 jeans, small or medium tops and dresses. My SHOE size and ring size have both dropped. My bra size is 4" shorter and down 2 cup sizes.
That's 60lbs on me.
I. Still. Flip. Between 'too skinny' and 'have lost no weight at all, really fat'.
So true. After 4 years in maintenance you'd think I'd be used to the new me. Nope I too still flip as @wunderkindking calls it. Last week while on a holiday I felt really really fat. I came home looked in the mirror and noted Nah you are still the same, then tried on my skinny skirt - it still fits
Oh yeah. This is SO true.4 -
justanotherloser007 wrote: »aerochic42 wrote: »less butt= longer pants
I had no idea this was a thing, until I kept having to take my skirt hems in! I wear maxi's all the time. Then I kept walking on the skirt hems, after I would maybe fix a waist. At first, I didn't understand why my skirts kept getting longer... I was like "Why is this happening??!" But when you said that, that is sooo a thing. My hubby said my skirts no longer need to cover my butt, of course it is happening in the front - the sides. The incredible elongating skirts!!
I realise that this is happening with my trouser legs too!
And blouse sleeves! As the cooler nights start, I put on a long sleeved pretty blouse last night to go out to dinner. I found myself pulling on it to keep it out of my plate - didn't occur to me this is the reason until now!4 -
SingRunTing wrote: »Serious for a second:
- Realizing that it wasn't my weight that was making me unhappy. There was something broken in my head. Once I fixed that, I was able to start losing the weight. I had to learn to love myself so that I could lose weight, instead of losing weight so that I could love myself.
I was just the opposite. It WAS the extra weight that was making me unhappy. Once I lost the weight, I had confidence, great health, and am still beaming with pride that I accomplished so much.
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Probably been said a thousand times previously....happiness and feeling content is not a number on the scale...and body image, mental health and other factors are extremely important, not just fat loss...if you don't change your attitude (mindset) to food, exercise/fitness, life in general and health (sometimes that means being less strict and more flexible, especially those who have had full blown eating disorders, which also need therapy and help aside from less food or more food, etc) you will always be yo-yo ing....4
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Suddenly my bathtub feels much bigger
I love when my sons encourage me to reach my goal weight or say, "You look great mom"
When I first noticed my thigh felt "hard" and it took me a minute to remember "Oh! That's what muscles feel like!"
Trying on a bathing suit ~~~ excited that you FINALLY have a reason to buy a new one (the old one is too big); but, seeing that you have some more toning to do and still feel subconscious enough to want to cover up a bit more.
I've got 10lbs to go to reach my goal of 110 (I'm 5' and the "normal" range for my height is between 95 and 125 lbs . . . I believe I chose a good middle (15 lbs more than I weighed before having 4 children) and people are already saying "You're getting too thin". Um, no. I'm not but, thanks
So glad I'm almost there but, the cravings are kicking into high gear this week ~~~ I'm working on it
One last thing, I may need to buy a body pillow now that I don't have a stomach to lean on while lying on my side 11
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