When did you stop feeling fat?

fteale
fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
edited October 2 in Health and Weight Loss
I hope this doesn't come across as an insensitive question. I just still find myself despairing over my reflection in the mirror, even though I know according to the numbers I am ok. I spend half my life still feeling fat, and the other half thinking I look great, then catching my reflection and thinking I look like a heifer.

So when did you get used to your new body?
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  • ksmarathon2010
    ksmarathon2010 Posts: 70
    I haven't yet and I am 5'8" and weigh 137. I have lost a total of 80 pounds and still see myself as that weight. I have been around 137 for 6 months now.
  • janet_pratt
    janet_pratt Posts: 747 Member
    I'll let you know when it happens.
  • Jconner30
    Jconner30 Posts: 311
    When my 42" jeans were too big - I felt happy I was loosing weight

    When my 38" jeans were too big - I felt excited and PUMPED

    When my 36" jeans were loose - People at work were calling me "The incredibally shrinking man"

    When I put on 34"s AND THEY FIT!!! (This is where I am now) - I feel like I am not fat now :smile:
  • bjshooter
    bjshooter Posts: 1,174 Member
    Nope, I still feel fat, maybe even fatter :s You would think after 53lb I would feel loads better, but I don't, feel like I still have miles and miles to go. Hope I get the wow, I lost weight feeling one day.
  • LaSweetMini
    LaSweetMini Posts: 157 Member
    idk. I have the same problem. The more weight I lose, the fatter I feel. Whats up with that? :huh:
  • arw060310
    arw060310 Posts: 256 Member
    Good question! I still feel fat. It seems like the more weight I lose, the fatter I feel. You would think it would be the opposite!
  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    I never feel "un-fat"...there are days I feel much better than others, because I am 5'5 and used to be at 160, and am now at 131. :/
  • BeckyReba
    BeckyReba Posts: 43 Member
    still working on that :P
  • lausa22
    lausa22 Posts: 467 Member
    I'll let you know! It's lost 21lbs since starting and I still feel exactly the same.
    Hopefully it'll be when I start to fit in my UK size 12's again, because that's what I'm aiming for at least.
  • McKayMachina
    McKayMachina Posts: 2,670 Member
    Makes sense. Before, if you were anything like me, you were in denial about your body. That meant you were blocking it out. Now you're aware.

    I have more "fat days" now than I did 60 lbs. ago. I think "maybe when I lose the next 40 and reach my initial goal, that will all change." But I have friends who have lost over 100 lbs., are well within healthy limits for their height and STILL feel huge.

    It may never happen. Just focus on feeling healthy. "Skinny" doesn't feel much different day-to-day.

    But good work so far and stick with it. You can totally do this. Just don't expect a wildly different reality. :)
  • barleespringers
    barleespringers Posts: 61
    I would think, it's when you start loving yourself for who you are.
  • smketchum
    smketchum Posts: 94 Member
    I think a lot of it is mental. I am at my goal weight now, but I look in the mirror and I don't know that I would say I feel fat anymore but I see so many imperfections. My thighs are still not the size I want, I have a pooch in my tummy....and I think that just continuing to workout and tone my body will make me feel better and better. I know I am so much stronger now and will continue to get stronger and feel better and better the longer I stay committed to exercise and health. I think the trap is feeling like you are not perfect and never will be, so why bother. You bother because your health matters to you and your family and every mile you walk and weight you lift and donut you decline, you are one step closer to the you that you want to become.
  • bjshooter
    bjshooter Posts: 1,174 Member
    Makes sense. Before, if you were anything like me, you were in denial about your body. That meant you were blocking it out. Now you're aware.

    I have more "fat days" now than I did 60 lbs. ago. I think "maybe when I lose the next 40 and reach my initial goal, that will all change." But I have friends who have lost over 100 lbs., are well within healthy limits for their height and STILL feel huge.

    It may never happen. Just focus on feeling healthy. "Skinny" doesn't feel much different day-to-day.

    But good work so far and stick with it. You can totally do this. Just don't expect a wildly different reality. :)


    I reckon that is spot on, I never ever cared, only lost weight for something to do and now I am a body obsessed freak :D
  • shesblossoming
    shesblossoming Posts: 426
    I'm still fat, but I don't feel that way. I stopped feeling fat when I stopped acting fat.

    I hope that doesn't come out the wrong way. My old habits were literally weighing me down... and my whole life now is completely different. My attitude toward everything has changed, and it just feels good.
  • fionat29
    fionat29 Posts: 717 Member
    Never! When I lost 77lbs with ww a few years ago, I was the lowest weight I'd been and I was still taken by surprise when I saw my reflection in a shop window. This time round I am an even lower weight and I still feel fat. I think there is probably a body
    dysmorphia thing going on. Husband tells me how slim I look and I just laugh at him.
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
    I've battled various eating disorders over the years, and one thing they mentioned in the treatment center is that the thinner people got, the bigger they felt, the more obsessedthey were with their body, and the more attention they had on what they ate.
    Obviously this won't apply to EVERYONE, but considering that most of us (in America at least) have an unhealthy relationship with food and body image, it applies to far more than just the ones with official eating disorders.
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
    I've battled various eating disorders over the years, and one thing they mentioned in the treatment center is that the thinner people got, the bigger they felt, the more obsessedthey were with their body, and the more attention they had on what they ate.

    Obviously this won't apply to EVERYONE, but considering that most of us (in America at least) have an unhealthy relationship with food and body image, it applies to far more than just the ones with official eating disorders.
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
    I've battled various eating disorders over the years, and one thing they mentioned in the treatment center is that the thinner people got, the bigger they felt, the more obsessedthey were with their body, and the more attention they had on what they ate.

    Obviously this won't apply to EVERYONE, but considering that most of us (in America at least) have an unhealthy relationship with food and body image, it applies to far more than just the ones with official eating disorders.
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
    I did NOT mean to post that several times. My bad.
  • Becky1971
    Becky1971 Posts: 979 Member
    Never! Still do!
  • cindy859
    cindy859 Posts: 99 Member
    I don't know--still feel fat after losing 53 lbs. Some days are really good and others are like wow I really don't look any different
    than I did before I began losing weight.
  • joysu
    joysu Posts: 71
    good question. i have lost 60 pounds and there are some days, more than not, that i still feel fat. i have heard it takes awhile for your brain to catch up. i look at my self in the mirror more now than i used to when i was heavier and to be honest i don't like what i see. we are too hard on ourselves i think. i know we can't be perfect and i guess that is the problem.
  • littlewords
    littlewords Posts: 43
    I am only 5'1" and as soon as I got down to about 125 (from 140-145) I stopped feeling FAT.
    Now, at 120, sometimes my stomach still doesn't feel firm enough, and my thighs and butt will probably always feel too big, but I no longer feel FAT. I don't look in the mirror and feel disappointed by what I see.

    I look in the mirror and I feel GOOD.
  • lausa22
    lausa22 Posts: 467 Member
    I'm still fat, but I don't feel that way. I stopped feeling fat when I stopped acting fat.

    I hope that doesn't come out the wrong way. My old habits were literally weighing me down... and my whole life now is completely different. My attitude toward everything has changed, and it just feels good.
    I love that! 'I stopped feeling fat when I stopped acting fat'
    Best thing I've ever read.
  • bookworm03
    bookworm03 Posts: 88 Member
    Last time around I'd day it took me about a year. It did take me about 3 years to grab my correct size pants on my first trip to the dressing room. I went from a size 22 down to a size 6. Is received a lot of strange looks walking to the dressing room on my first trip.
  • JakkiCarter
    JakkiCarter Posts: 31
    In all honesty, to this day I still feel "fat", even though I only have at most 2-4 lbs to go before I am at my goal. For me, I believe it is more of a mental reflection of myself before i lost the weight. I have always struggled with this and know plenty of others who are going through the same thing. I guess it just takes time for that self realization to really set in that the weight is no longer there. Listen to the positive reinforcement around you and really try to take it to heart. That's what I'm trying to do. :)
  • ohmariposa
    ohmariposa Posts: 372 Member
    I am down 22 lbs and even though I had to go buy new clothes I still feel gross. Funny thing is that before i started living healthy I never felt gross.
  • jdoggie
    jdoggie Posts: 42
    That is funny that you say that, I have been fat and skinny so many times that I think I become what I see in the mirror on purpose.
    I decided to take the first thing I feel in the morning,when i am ready for the day, and stay away from mirrors and scales. I was a size 20. three months ago and now I am a size 12. still a great size for 5"10 but i am normally a size 8-10. and I am sure I look like a normal person but even when I go to the grocery store and buy Ice cream or chips for the boys I feel like other people are thinking mmmmm... she might want to cut back. so it is a mental block we have to get over... I wish we could see ourselves in other peoples eyes just for a week... I know you are beautiful just by your story and i don;'t even know you. so believe me when i say it is all in our heads....
  • Guinivere
    Guinivere Posts: 357 Member
    When I was 16 I was 5ft 7 and about 9 stone on a large frame which looked skeletal. Not a great look. Not that I ever saw that, I can see it in the one and only photo that exists as proof but my brain doesn't seem to accept that its me! That's EDs for you.

    Spin forward 22 years, yo yo diets one after the other.

    I am now 13stone 5lbs (187lbs) or 85kgs, and am halfway on my weight loss journey. I've lost 3 stone since January this year and have approx three more to go to get to 10 stone 7lbs (147lbs) or 67kgs (my goal). But I'm willing to stop short if I look too thin (My best friends have been primed to be brutally honest and intervene if they have to to prevent a repeat ED episode.)

    My clothes hang off me but I'm not buying any more til I'm at the goal, I am not out of breath any more but then I see a photo of me as I am now and i don't see any change. I mourn the loss of my passion for food - I see it only as fuel now. But I'm not sad - I'm happy - my logical and rational brain tells me I am more healthy, have just got into the "Overweight" category of BMI from being in the "Morbidly obese" section for several years. I chose to ignore all that malarky for so long (Can I get a denial from anyone?)

    So I still feel fat. I long to look like Kiera Knightly but you know - that's her, not me. I think I will always feel fat. But I'm okay with it. I'm actually relieved to hear so many of you saying the same thing. MFP is so good for reassuring you that you are not alone, you are not a freak and that it's okay not to be perfect.

    I just want to be healthy and stay there. Best of luck, willpower and all that is good to you all to be happy & healthy.
  • loristroud
    loristroud Posts: 138 Member
    This morning, LOL. When I stepped on the scale and it said 128.6 I thought, "Surely I can't still be fat and weigh 128 lbs". I think my biggest thing is (as weird as it sounds) I find the naked body unappealing. The female naked body anyway. My husbands naked body is very appealing!!! But if I am in a swimsuit, underwear, clothes, etc, I am happy with my appearance. The clothes come off and it all looks strange to me. I know, I know.. I'm weird!!
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