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Stick to your goals and you should lose it in know time. Good luck.

Apples,all-fruit fruit leathers bought in supermarkets, small boxes of raisins,fresh pineapple etc is what a friend of mine uses

I'm with you on the hypoglycemia - I've had it all my life, though it was worse when I was a kid. I eat every four hours and it has been a lifesaver - literally! Breakfast is usually at 7, Lunch at 11:30, Snack at 3:30, Dinner around 7. If I'm feeling particularly weak prior to my a.m. workout, I'll have a banana or some kind of quick absorbing fruit. Ever think of juicing? Juicing allows your body to absorb the nutrients and sugars much faster than eating. Below are my favorite snacks and remember, you can always trade in peanut butter for almond butter or cashew butter even for different flavors:

graham crackers with peanut butter four-square section sandwich
ants on a log (peanut butter in the hallow of celery with raisins)
grapes with a tablespoon of sunflower seeds
pear with nonfat yogurt (Browncow yogurt is awesome!)
hummus and any veggie - carrots, peppers, cucumber, grape tomatoes, etc
spicy pumpkin seeds - bake pumpkin seeds with a sprinkle of cyan pepper and cumin
apple and almond butter
turkey and cheddar cheese roll - put a slice of reduced fat cheddar between two slices of turkey roll it up and enjoy!

Keep in mind that fruits, vegetables and whole grains take up more room in the stomach than meats, so you will likely feel more full. If you get into big trouble with the hypoglycemia - you're usually warned right away with the cold sweats - grab some O.J. and work your way toward an apple to get the simple sugars flowing again. Hope this helps! I fight the after-effect fatigue with a single cup of coffee as it can give your workout a boost too. I wouldn't load up on the stuff, though, prior to a workout. No need to dehydrate yourself! That's the other key (I feel, anyway) - I make sure to put as much effort in staying hydrated as I do in keeping the sugars in check. That way, when I get the shakes, my body is primarily intereted in the sugar and not the water - the sugar will travel much faster. I noticed a difference there too. Take care and stay healthy - listen to your body!

Glad to help! I agree with you on the bigger meals. They can have a tendency to make you feel groggy and/or just not as good when you're finished eating. Part of that is because your body wants to adjust to the small frequent meals.
I had a family reunion last weekend. My family is all from the South so there was a ton of tasty fried things and heavy creamy food to be had. I loaded up on some light dishes like a Greek Couscous salad I brought, some capris salad from my 2nd cousin and a grilled smoked porkchop from another 2nd cousin. I felt much better. You can still participate in the big meals, but you can also make good choices. One thing you could do, and you don't have to be a big time chef to do it, is contriubute to the table. Find recipies that are light, healthy and dynamic in color. You may find that your contribution can turn your family onto other foods. Perhaps the table setting will even change a little over time, especially as you exemplify the choice of a healthier lifestyle and the success begins to be visual. Heck, you could even offer to make dinner once a week, if they enjoy your contributions!
When having a big meal with my family I will usually do a half serving of what is offered or a tasting portion of the main dish if it's particularly unhealthy. I do tend to have more veggies at a sitting dinner and respectively taste all the other sides. I'm not a big dessert person, so they usually don't expect me to have dessert. If I can't pass it up, I'll again go to the tasting method and have a thin slice, small scoop or whatever the case may be.