Starting again at 50!
crispaholicshaz
Posts: 79 Member
Hi, I am starting over, and could do with few more friends, (around my age of 50)
My younger friends are fabulous, and so grateful to have their support & continued encouragement, but they are not yet experiencing the joys of being perimenopausal, or menopausal, which does bring added complications, when trying to battle the middle age spread, It feels almost like I am making up the issues I have encountered in last few years... Lack of energy, feeling emotional, for no good reason. Anxiety, & Depression has got worse. Having no drive or interest in anything, & over eating. Aches and pains, in joints. etc..
I seem to have aged so fast, and suddenly.. Only 2 years ago Pre-COVID, When we had the odd occasion, to dress up and go out for the evening, I still felt and looked like me.... Now I look in the mirror & there's my Grandma looking back at me! My make up style, no longer looks how it did, no matter how long I stand there trying to get it right. Never was my strong point. I am not into all the girly things but i used to feel, I looked ok.
My long straight hair is more course, unless i dye it. Then it's soft for few days.. I've changed the colour to golden brown recently, to blend in my grays, but rest is dark- Medium brown.. (Tried caramel, honey hi & low lights, but the up keep was too much for me & the cost put me off too..) Most people seem to think i should cut it short, but i have hidden behind it for 40 odd years, only ever had it less than shoulder length once in my whole life, when i was 13 years old and i hated it.. ( it's currently 3inches above my waist band.. ) My nails are brittle, which i did put down to biting them for nearly 30years. varnishes & gels won't stay on it peels off, been told its due to oils from my nail bed? .
Sorry for the ramble but once I started typing, I didn't think I was gonna stop.. til i saw the time.. (00:15.. ) Best go bed.. Thanks for taking the time to read this.. Good Night..
My younger friends are fabulous, and so grateful to have their support & continued encouragement, but they are not yet experiencing the joys of being perimenopausal, or menopausal, which does bring added complications, when trying to battle the middle age spread, It feels almost like I am making up the issues I have encountered in last few years... Lack of energy, feeling emotional, for no good reason. Anxiety, & Depression has got worse. Having no drive or interest in anything, & over eating. Aches and pains, in joints. etc..
I seem to have aged so fast, and suddenly.. Only 2 years ago Pre-COVID, When we had the odd occasion, to dress up and go out for the evening, I still felt and looked like me.... Now I look in the mirror & there's my Grandma looking back at me! My make up style, no longer looks how it did, no matter how long I stand there trying to get it right. Never was my strong point. I am not into all the girly things but i used to feel, I looked ok.
My long straight hair is more course, unless i dye it. Then it's soft for few days.. I've changed the colour to golden brown recently, to blend in my grays, but rest is dark- Medium brown.. (Tried caramel, honey hi & low lights, but the up keep was too much for me & the cost put me off too..) Most people seem to think i should cut it short, but i have hidden behind it for 40 odd years, only ever had it less than shoulder length once in my whole life, when i was 13 years old and i hated it.. ( it's currently 3inches above my waist band.. ) My nails are brittle, which i did put down to biting them for nearly 30years. varnishes & gels won't stay on it peels off, been told its due to oils from my nail bed? .
Sorry for the ramble but once I started typing, I didn't think I was gonna stop.. til i saw the time.. (00:15.. ) Best go bed.. Thanks for taking the time to read this.. Good Night..
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Hi, there! Sounds great that you’re back and working towards your weight loss goals. May I suggest setting up an appointment with your doctor, if you haven’t had one on a year or so? It sounds like you’re struggling with a number of physical and emotional concerns (both real in perimenopause). Just a thought. I wish you well.1
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Thank you MaggieGirl135, just realized it's been 4 years since my last check up.. Getting in to see the Gp is a battle of it's own, even b4 Covid, but since it's all talking to triage, sending pics, phone calls and video chats.. Not great for those whom prefer to be face to face, can't hear well.. but will try...1
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I started at 56, and lost 40% of my body weight in two years. I saw all the chatter about it being hard as an older women, postmenopausal, etc.
In all honesty, it’s been easy. If I’d listened to all the “woe is me”, I’d have quit.
As I lost weight, the lack of energy, aches, joint pain, GERD, blues dissipated. I’m full of energy now, and my attitude has turned around. I’m fricking Suzie Sunshine now . In my case, it was all weight related, right down to the dislike I felt for myself for the weight.
It all boils down to simple CICO “calories in/calories out”. No cabbage diet, no apple cider vinegar, didn’t need odd foods or timed meals. I just needed less of everything.
The hardest part is getting started.
It’s hard to make that mental hurdle to eating less, weighing, logging.
There’s going to be days where your weight is up for “no” apparent reason (actually, there’s a hundred reasons) and you get mad and want to quit. Days when you ate it all and think “well I guess I just ruined things.”
No you didn’t. You just keep carrying on til you develop new habits, and learn to love (and I mean love!!!) new foods and new cooking techniques to replace the cookies, candy, fried foods.
You’ll find myriad tips, useful information, and motivational posts (see the Success Stories threads) here in the boards. I attribute much of my weight loss to checking in regularly, and being willing to absorb the wisdom of those who went before me.6 -
And PS. I just got a “micro pixie”. What freedom! Wash, run my fingers through it, and go.
My girlfriend let her fastidiously dark hair go grey and it is stunning.
Be the best you right now. I no longer care about wrinkles, or wattle or grandma face. I’ve earned them and I’m going to celebrate them by being me.5 -
Well, I am still here.. Lost 3.9 lb. so far.. On 38th day of my Adventure.. Decided 2022 is My Year, not gonna let nothing get in my way.. As well as taking control of my weight, I've started applying for jobs, after 12 yr gap raising my sons, and though rejection stings like hell, i am putting those down as practice for when the real thing happens.. Volunteering at St Luke's Hospice charity shop, for more recent experience, and references to put on my cv. We are constantly on the move, taking stock up and down stairs, Steaming or working on the till serving..
Last Wednesday, I did 9-1pm, got home And my husband tells me I had received a letter...
I open it to find its from my abusive paranoid Schizophrenic Ex, that would self medicate with Bourbon, in stead of his meds, gave me 2 of his Quetiapine tablets instead of Paracetamol, for a headache, knocked me out cold for 2 days and has affected my short term memory. While my then 2year old was in his and his 15yr old sons care.. (Thankfully His son was nothing like him, and would not let anything happen to my little boy..) Het fire to my ferret house, With 6 in there, Put clothes pegs on the cats tail to see her run in circles screeching. Constantly bullied me & my 2 sons, got me into over £9,000 debt.
8years on, He is now in prison, (Not related to anything he did to me.. Though he is full of apologies, and even said himself it's Karma for all he did to me, Wants me to write to him occasionally as his family have walked away. And he has nothing & no 1. )
That afternoon, I had an interview, So put him out of my mind and focused on being the best me I could be.. I was upbeat, confident and felt comfortable at the store, every1 was friendly and so relaxed..
Had rough night, self doubt creeping in about the ability to do the job, which i know i can do, i have done similar b4. My mind spinning out of control about the ex...
Got up tired and annoyed that he got in my head...
Wrote on the envelope, NOT AT THIS ADDRESS, RETURN TO SENDER...... Putting it in the postbox, I felt a tiny pang of guilt, cause its not in my nature to be harsh, or cruel ( but he ruined my life, and my sons for over a year, and i am not letting him back in!!)
Today is Sunday, And I don't regret posting it back, I know it was the right thing to do... Maybe not for him, as he may self harm for the attention, but for myself. I am no longer his victim, I am stronger now.
Tomorrow i will find out if i got the job.. Nervous excitement of what the future may hold for me. I am still fighting with a little self doubt, but then i remind myself they will train me anything I don't know.. Thinking positively, and its helping.. I CAN DO THIS, I CAN DO ANYTHING IF I PUT MY MIND TO IT!!!5 -
Hi, I'm 47 (48 next month) Feel free to add me! 😁0
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@crispaholicshaz good for you for hanging in!
Karma is a *kitten*. Let it sit over his shoulder while you go create some new, positive of your own. You’re worth more than that. Don’t get sucked back in.4 -
howdy I am well over 50 but they say I still look younger. took a terrible fall on my porch a month ago. the temp was neg 80 and I ran out no coat or hat or gloves and ice patch and fell so hard. late no one to call. dog phone inside. decision freeze on my porch. not best finish to an colorful life. first anger using all world I know. then I God I need some help here. suddenly I felt a warmth thru my body, enough to Crowl to my kitchen and pull up from chair .. nothing broken but pain center in ankle and back. pinched nerve in.back. I guess the weight gain did impacted the fall. in physical therapy and taking control.. fitness pall was so helpful make me accountful of food intake and exercise.3
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@akravenady907 well, you win the “why I decided to lose” challenge. Good lord!!!! That was a scary scary wake up call.0
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Hi, I'm a 50 year old Male. Married with 3 adult kids (one still at home, lol). I obviously am not going through the pre menopausal stuff. But, am dealing with all kinds of medical issues (under control with meds)...Type 2 Diabetes, high blood pressure. And huge lack of energy. But am on the same path to look at my old self in the mirror and not what I see right now. I think this website is great. I originally signed on quite a few years ago and didn't stick with it. Definitely more motivated now. Here's to sticking to it, shedding the additional pounds and liking our reflection again!
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Hi, I'm a 50 year old Male. Married with 3 adult kids (one still at home, lol). I obviously am not going through the pre menopausal stuff. But, am dealing with all kinds of medical issues (under control with meds)...Type 2 Diabetes, high blood pressure. And huge lack of energy. But am on the same path to look at my old self in the mirror and not what I see right now. I think this website is great. I originally signed on quite a few years ago and didn't stick with it. Definitely more motivated now. Here's to sticking to it, shedding the additional pounds and liking our reflection again!
My 66 year old husband started in late August. He’s already lost 25+ pounds and a clothing size. He’s same as you- diabetes and HBP.
I can already see the energy difference shedding 25 has made. He’s doing more, more likely to jump up and say “I’ll walk with you!”, and just seems to be happier.
Just stick it out for the first month or two and it does get easier.3 -
akravenady907. oh bless ya. that mush of been awful.. glad it turned out ok.. good luck with your journey.. x1
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How’s it going, @crispaholicshaz ? Settling in and making sense of it all yet?0
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Morning! I am80 and ready to begin again. NEVER TOO LATE!!!1
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