Back at it again...

Body shaming from a Mom simply HURTS WICKED BAD no doubt!! My Mom passed away when I was 32, but she was both loving and LOL critical! I think Moms of daughters are naturally at times,, cruel without or at times MEANING TO BE!! I do not get that of course. I have a very precious GD who's now 27 and I NEVER EVER said any cruel words to hurt her, she's so sweet and endearing to me. But as I helped to raise her, I could hear the MANY THINGS My Mom said that DID HURT so much. Though not body shaming (I was very thin ,, at that time!) words are weapons in some people hands.

The best advice I learned was to NOT TELL ANYONE I was losing weight!! That way if I had a burger out or something else I'd NOT hear "YOU CAN'T EAT THAT!" I hate that type of thing. At 288 lbs I was, and am now at 175. I move around freely (Well except for breathing, but that can be optional? LOLOL)

I joined the 2022 Spring 5% Challenge. Having support, learning healthy habits makes such a difference to us. Would you like support? Work on healthy habits (not a demand, PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION!) while exercising at your own level (Again NO demand of doing to much, actually NEVER over shoot what you can do it only causes injuries) while supporting your team, and them you?

Here's the link (ANYONE reading this can join us please)

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/142698-2022-spring-5-challenge-community

Oh and please don't feel awful about yourself, it's so counterproductive. I grew up feeling that way, would lose 50#, felt great, gain it all back, felt awful, lose weight again.......It took me about 35-40 years to lose the weight I wanted to with all those ups and downs. If I'd've just stuck to a slow weight loss plan way back then, I could've spent all those years.........well you get the picture.

If you feel you need more support/friends/whatever, send me FR. And remember, you're much more than pounds on a scale. You're a person who can love, be a friend, give your time and heart to others, learn a craft, do a great job at whatever you choose to do in life.

My mom is a very critical person (but also caring most times) as well. She thinks she "tells it like it is". I went on crash diets when I was younger based on what she or a classmate said. If I could go back in time I would give myself a hug and not to listen to all that noise. That's what you should try to do. If you want to lose weight, do it for yourself. Treat your body with kindness and don't starve yourself.

I lost some weight and my mom said something nice about it. Her words weren't even that satisfying to be honest.

@snowflake954 , I too wondered why NONE Of my many friends took me aside to express their concern about my rapid weight gain. I still wonder, but though I've lost over 100 lbs, it still hurts me so I've not asked. But I do wonder.

I've invited @Sabrinab2022 to join us on a team that has what you all asking for ,,, Support and motivation to the 2022 Spring 5% Challenge. I promise you this is really such a team. We work on during 8 weeks (When the 8 weeks are over, many of us stay on our teams within the 2022 Spring 5% Challenge are 8 smaller teams as we sign up for the next 5% Challenge) developing, NOT to be Perfect none of us can be perfect, but rather PROGRESS instead ,, healthy habits. Such as drinking water, tracking our foods,, we earn points for 1 of the 8 teams we are on,,, when we able to do those. If we struggle with a LTGL (Living The Good Life,, AKA healthy habits) all we have to do is ask for hints, and YO the hints come in so well! We can ask for understanding and this is such a huge support and love I've gotten on that,, they EMBRACED ME!! I am now a leader on this challenge, passing on what I've received. Our exercise does count too, BUT!! We never ever want ANYONE exercising beyond their level! Never please. We do NOT want you hurt!! If you struggle with exercise, so did/do many of us (I do now due to an illness) we have alternative exercise you may wish to try, we'll work WITH you, and at your current ability. The team I am on, we a 70 year old person who has very bad knees, we get that. She was trying to walk, we urged her to instead, work on knee exercises, and arm exercises, more so arm, and core. She was for the first few challenges able to do 10 mins of exercise (The minimum one can report ,,the max is 120) maybe 3 times a week. Believe me,, we ALL Stood behind her cheering her on!! BUT also reminding her to NOT PRESS IT!! She's picked up recently to more, but it's because she's a smart cookie and did not press it. As above some do the max, but they slowly worked their up to that, SLOWLY please.

Sound like we are a supportive and motivating team? Please come and join us. ANY OF YOU!! And please invite your friends too!

Here's the link (I started off in a power chair 97% of the time. Three years ago I GAVE IT AWAY! I no longer needed it!)

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/142698-2022-spring-5-challenge-community

cstuartdc wrote: »

My parents have told me I've needed to do something about my weight. No dung, sherlock. IT's also amusing when a doctor tells you.

It's like. . .yeah, we get it. We know. Wow, what a great clinician you are. But dare ask a mom or a doctor HOW and you are left with the Deer in the Headlights look along with drool.

IF it helps you I read a headline (didn't get to the actual article) that losing weight is actually scientifically more complex than rocket science. That's right. . .it's easier for a group of us to get some books, maybe contract a few machinists and such and build a rocket to the moon than it is to lick obesity, either individually or a public health level.

IT's a complex of physiological, cultural, behavorial and genetic issues.

So, moms. . .bite me. And yes, this "nattering" seems to be a "mom" issue vs. a "dad" issue. Dad learned to NOT go there with your mom, like, years ago. Mom hasn't learned the converse.

Yep, it's obvious you're a male, and not a Mom.

I'm starting over too. Just going to do one day at a time. One meal at a time. I'm tired of feeling bad about myself.