discouraged and nervous to see my momster....

My solution to your scale? Have yourself a cheat day. Just one. It's okay.
My solution to your mom? Therapy and a back bone. People can only make you feel the way you allow them to make you feel. As soon as you set boundaries and respect yourself, they no longer have impact.

I'm sorry but personally I would cancel on mom. I'm sure you love her and want to see her, but do you really have to see her next week? You have made amazing progress, 23 lbs is nothing to sneeze at and shows a lot of hard work and dedication. Subjecting yourself to possible negetive imput may well mess up your progress, in fact, the fact that you didn't lose any weight this week could be because you are stressing so much about your meeting with your mother to begin with. One thing I have learned over the years is so many things play a part in our weight gains and not just because we eat the wrong foods and don't exercise. Stress and lack of sleep can play a part as well and it sounds like you are really stressing here.

Not sure if you have tried counseling, but it may help you. Sounds like you have a lot of anger issues with your mother, granted they may be justified, but you are now a grown woman and responsible for your own actions. If you are only trying to lose weight to make your mother happy, you will never reach your goal. YOU HAVE TO WANT IT FOR YOU! No parent is perfect and perhaps your mother thought she was helping you and didn't realize the damage she was causing. I don't know, but it's time to let it go or it will always be in your way.

Please don't think I'm trying to be mean, I'm really trying to offer what I hope is good advice. I've been on the diet/weight loss roller coaster for many years myself. I've seen others that have held on to anger and hurt from past experiences destroy a lot of hard work because they couldn't let go. It's time to put the past away and if that means not seeing your mother until you are better able to deal with her and the issues you have with each other than I would find a good excuse to cancel. I bet if you did and the stress was gone you would see a nice weight loss on the scales next week.

Good luck in what ever you decide.

AH! If you are my friend on here, today you may have noticed my status that said I was discouraged because I weighed in, but didn't lose anything and am feeling SO discouraged.

Here's the thing, I'm not getting ready to start my period so it's not that, and I work out 6 days a week and I really am SO smart and careful about what I eat. I haven't had a "cheat day" or anything like that. The reason I was so discouraged is because I was actually excited to step on the scale this morning expecting a loss based on how hard I've been working! :-( SO sad....

But more so than that is my fear of seeing my mom....

*WARNING- PERSONAL REVEALING DETAILS BELOW*

My mom is the reason I am bigger in the first place because you see, when I was 15years old, I was 5'6" and weighed 130 pounds. but she insisted I needed to lose a few vanity pounds and thus sent me into an out of control spiral of failed weight loss attempts resulting in a severe gain over the years. As I gained, she got meaner and meaner with her comments which resulted in me gaining more and more weight. I got it under control when I moved out of the house at 18 and was no longer under her watchful eye.

I only see her a couple times a year, and every time I see her, I'm regressed right back to my high school days where she has the ability to make me feel 2 inches tall.

I've done so well, and I see her one week from today. I so badly want her to notice and think I look good. I feel so good about myself and I ONE time want to feel good about myself around her too. I was really hoping to shed just a few more lbs before I see her!

Sorry for the vent, rough morning....

I don't like being critical, but as a person, I know how hurt you must have felt. As a mother too, she should've helped you feel loved, not the opposite. I think that you should worry about what you think of yourself. Your mother has no control over you anymore. You've lost a great amount of weight. You are dedicated in what you are doing, because you want to live a healthier lifestyle. Love yourself first. Put yourself first in everything - this isn't selfish - and then address this issue with your mother. Sometimes, all it takes to fix a problem is to talk.

If it doesn't work, be proud that you tried to mend things with your mother. But remember, don't feel bad. You are beautiful and no one can belittle you, unless you allow them. Be positive when you see her. Look in the mirror and congratulate yourself for what you've accomplished in your life. Smile and the world will smile with you! Best of luck in everything that you do!