My world is falling apart
And I don't know what to do. I graduated with a BA in May. I can't find a job and I get $25 a week for groceries from mom, which is just never quite enough for me to make healthy meals.
I can't find a job. I can't. I keep looking and applying over and over day after day and I don't even get emails telling me no 50% of the time. In four months I've had three interviews. Yesterday I went on campus to meet my boyfriend for coffee (we've been together for one year now!) and I decided to show him the office I had a really good chance of working in: The Asian and Arabic Languages Office.
They needed a receptionist with experience. I have the experience and I have been to all the regions that that office entails: Japan, China, Middle East. I was perfect. I even met with the director to discuss it because the process was going too slow and I was wondering what was going on.
As we walked over to the glass door, there in the office is the new receptionist. I am 22. She looked younger. Yesterday, on an incredibly happy one year anniversary day, I felt like I was in a movie seeing someone else take my place. I cried in the atrium for an hour, my poor boyfriend trying to comfort me. I was so sure that was the job I was going to get.
If I don't have a job in the next ten days, my parents are coming to move me home. They keep telling me that it's not the end of the world--but I would love nothing less than to get very far away from home. I hate home. I hate my parents trying to force me back into childhood. I will have no autonomy under their roof. None.
I'm sorry for the pitiful, pathetic rant. I just feel like everything is slipping through my fingers. I don't know what to do. I've run out of hope.
I can't find a job. I can't. I keep looking and applying over and over day after day and I don't even get emails telling me no 50% of the time. In four months I've had three interviews. Yesterday I went on campus to meet my boyfriend for coffee (we've been together for one year now!) and I decided to show him the office I had a really good chance of working in: The Asian and Arabic Languages Office.
They needed a receptionist with experience. I have the experience and I have been to all the regions that that office entails: Japan, China, Middle East. I was perfect. I even met with the director to discuss it because the process was going too slow and I was wondering what was going on.
As we walked over to the glass door, there in the office is the new receptionist. I am 22. She looked younger. Yesterday, on an incredibly happy one year anniversary day, I felt like I was in a movie seeing someone else take my place. I cried in the atrium for an hour, my poor boyfriend trying to comfort me. I was so sure that was the job I was going to get.
If I don't have a job in the next ten days, my parents are coming to move me home. They keep telling me that it's not the end of the world--but I would love nothing less than to get very far away from home. I hate home. I hate my parents trying to force me back into childhood. I will have no autonomy under their roof. None.
I'm sorry for the pitiful, pathetic rant. I just feel like everything is slipping through my fingers. I don't know what to do. I've run out of hope.
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But did you stay under your calories today. :flowerforyou:0
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It's hard to find a job right now, even with a degree. All you can do is keep trying.
I have two friends with their bachelor's and one is unemployed and the other is working at best buy/petsmart.....0 -
But did you stay under your calories today. :flowerforyou:
barely. first time in a few days. all I want right now is cookies.0 -
Maybe you can apply at a temp agency to tide you over until a permanent job comes?0
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Things will get better! Hang in there
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I am a substitute teacher because I also can't find a job....it's a tough time...and as hard as it might be...you may need to go down to fast food places and at least say you're working and getting an income...that was my next step before I started subbing0
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I was unemployed for over a year. Went to school to become and dental assistant, and well, that didn't pan out. I just started working again, not at my ideal job, but it is a job. Have you tried applying for things that are not necessarily in your job field? Maybe try a customer service job, or maybe a temp agency? I wish you the best of luck hun!0
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Moving back in with your parents may not be the most ideal situation but it doesn't sound like you have much choice. It's nearly impossible for anyone to get a good job right now and at least you have the option of moving home. There are plenty of older adults who don't have that fallback. You're young. Just be patient, stay positive and you'll eventually get the job that's right for you.0
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I know moving home isn't even close to what you WANT, but consider yourself lucky you have family who accept you back into their home! Living on the street isn't fun! Does your school have some type of job placement center? Have you considered while living at home interning somewhere just to get experience so it will be easier to get a job? Think of this as a new opportunity, stay positive and focused and I bet you will be surprised how things turn around!0
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You're world is not falling apart I PROMISE. The job market sucks.
My significant other has been job hunting for a YEAR and has an MBA. There are TONS of people with degrees who aren't with job right now.
TONS of people who are and are not with jobs that are living with their parents. Todays society makes it very difficult to make it on one salary. Especially a just starting in the business world salary.
Take a deep breath, and keep looking. If you need to stay with your parents... consider this an opportunity to regroup and try to get the job you want.0 -
Have you tried staffing agencies? I was unemployed for seven months. Experience. Bachelor's degree. Didn't matter. If you can get your foot in the door through an agency, it can often lead to permanent positions. A LOT of employers are not even looking at resumes of the unemployed. They simply bypass them. Take a job. Any job. Til you can get the one you really want. It is easier to find a job when you are employed, unfortunately. That's why the agencies can be helpful.
Things could be worse. At least you have loving parents who will pick you up while you are down and help you get back on your feet.0 -
It is not abnormal for new grads to take up to 6 months to find employment. You will get there. I graduated twice and unless you have a job lined up it takes a few months.0
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Big hugs for you. It seems like you are having a very tough time. The market and economy is a tough one. Have you looked for jobs outside of your degree to get you buy until a better job comes along such as being a server, barista, bartender, retail clerk etc? I know the holiday season is around the corner and a lot of call centers and retail stores will be hiring temp help. It is better than nothing and could buy you some time for a bit. It sounds like anything would be better than going home.0
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I can understand completely. I was out of work for 2 years and had to move back home (@39). I have a degree in accounting and am working in a call center not making enough money to pay my bills.
Everyday I look for another job, but nothing. I still get up every morning and I work out...bc it gets my stress out and my mind off things for a while.
It will get better, I promise, just keep a positive attitude. YOU are young, smart and obviously driven... who would NOT want you working for them?
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Some times things are temporary your parent can't force you to move back and I'm sorry you and your parents dont get along its sad. You can go to food banks check with your human resource center they can assist you You can also go back into the place that has hired the person ask for management and let them know you are available in case their new hired doesn't work out. Best Wishes0
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Sometimes things can get really bad before they get better!!! I hope things turn around for u soon!!!0
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I understand this, all to well. My only real suggestion, and its probably not one you want to hear, but it's time to apply to restaurants/retail positions. It'll provide income and will leave time to apply/interview for other jobs, you can even work two of them at a time. I'm really sorry that *kitten* sucks for you right now.0
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You can try taking civil service tests.0
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My daughter is 20 and having the same difficulty. She recently moved back home because she can't find work. My husband has been out of work since Feb. Fortunately he can draw unemployment but times are tough. Remember, it probably isn't you. Our economy is in real trouble and people who have been working at jobs for 30 years are getting laid off. I'm sure you've heard that before but I'll be just one more person to back it up. Families all over the country are joining forces and moving in together. It's the only way for a lot of them to get by right now. Sucks but true.
Hang in there. I know how awful it is to move back in with your folks. I had to do it when i got divorced and I was packing a 5 year old along with me. Maybe it will take some of the pressure off and you can find something to work at that will get you a little money in the bank and start over.
Please don't think I'm trying to be preachy. Your situation just reminded me so much of my daughter, I had to reply.0 -
I graduated and couldn't find a job for about 5 months. I even got my K-6 teaching certificate to try and broaden my horizons and try to get into the school system as a substitute teacher. No dice. I eventually had to take a $9 an hour just to get SOMETHING. I got a 3 dollar raise within 2 months, but that's still not enough. Now, I'm back in school to become a nurse. It's a sucky time to be a grad
I also tried to get civil service jobs and took those tests... Nothing. 0 -
You are totally correct there are a lot of parents that once you are out of the house there's no comming backI know moving home isn't even close to what you WANT, but consider yourself lucky you have family who accept you back into their home! Living on the street isn't fun! Does your school have some type of job placement center? Have you considered while living at home interning somewhere just to get experience so it will be easier to get a job? Think of this as a new opportunity, stay positive and focused and I bet you will be surprised how things turn around!0 -
Military? see the world, be all you can be0
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Life can be tought at times,but it can always be worse. You just have to stick it out0
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Many would be most grateful they still have living parents let alone ones willing to help them out. Gratitude can go far in hard times, it's tough being in a difficult situation, but it most definitely sounds like you're not on the streets or in this alone. You may not want to accept your parents help and you have a choice, you don't have too. Do consider though that they don't have to offer to help, then what choices would be left.. something to think about.And I don't know what to do. I graduated with a BA in May. I can't find a job and I get $25 a week for groceries from mom, which is just never quite enough for me to make healthy meals.
I can't find a job. I can't. I keep looking and applying over and over day after day and I don't even get emails telling me no 50% of the time. In four months I've had three interviews. Yesterday I went on campus to meet my boyfriend for coffee (we've been together for one year now!) and I decided to show him the office I had a really good chance of working in: The Asian and Arabic Languages Office.
They needed a receptionist with experience. I have the experience and I have been to all the regions that that office entails: Japan, China, Middle East. I was perfect. I even met with the director to discuss it because the process was going too slow and I was wondering what was going on.
As we walked over to the glass door, there in the office is the new receptionist. I am 22. She looked younger. Yesterday, on an incredibly happy one year anniversary day, I felt like I was in a movie seeing someone else take my place. I cried in the atrium for an hour, my poor boyfriend trying to comfort me. I was so sure that was the job I was going to get.
If I don't have a job in the next ten days, my parents are coming to move me home. They keep telling me that it's not the end of the world--but I would love nothing less than to get very far away from home. I hate home. I hate my parents trying to force me back into childhood. I will have no autonomy under their roof. None.
I'm sorry for the pitiful, pathetic rant. I just feel like everything is slipping through my fingers. I don't know what to do. I've run out of hope.
Perhaps try this on your own without your parents and see how far you can go, it might be the push you need to get creative to pay the bills. Or it might bring some realization that your parents are merely trying to help out in a really really tough time in your life.:flowerforyou: :ohwell:0 -
You are NOT alone! I graduated in May and I am still searching it is soooooooooooo frustrating but the economy is really awful right now. Thank God my husband's checks cover our expenses. I keep telling myself that God has a plan for me and I will just have to wait and see. I will be praying that God's helps you to find a job. All the best!
BTW you cant let yourself get too down! there is the perfect job out there for you somewhere!0 -
PM me where you live and I'll see if I can help. I've got some connections if you live close to me. If not....do NOT give up hope. Keep your head up and stay positive. You will find something eventually!
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It took my boyfriend a year to find a job after graduating, but he eventually got an amazing one.
Just hang in there, don't give up. Maybe you can find something very part time until you find something more long term, even if it means working retail or fast food or babysitting?0 -
Many people have suggested a staffing agency and 2nd, 3rd, 4th or whatever place I'm in that option. You may float around varying jobs for a while but at least you'll be working. And many lead to permanent positions. Another thing you can try is just get out there and pound the pavement...just get out there and apply everywhere you can. It will get better...*hugs* to you. :flowerforyou:0
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I've worked in human resources for over 20 years for very large employers in my area. My HR peers and I have uniformly been noting the large numbers of applicants for many entry level positions, esp. those that don't require specialized degrees or expertise. I did a recent recruitment for an entry level paraprofessional position among my own staff and the applicants included a recent law school grad, an MBA, an ABD in a social sciences discipline, etc. etc. I don't say that to be discouraging--it's just the reality.
One of my daughters has been living with us for the past two years because she was unable to afford an apartment on her pay. She's not thrilled about it but she's grateful to have a place to live. A quick google search will produce many results for stats on how many young adults are currently living with their parents or other family members. It's the new Depression and people are bunking up.
Bottom line, if you don't want to move back with your parents, then you need to find a way to be economically self-sufficient. Some options that might include lodging are personal care attendant, group home overnight attendant, live-in sitter, etc. Or rent a room in a house vs apartment, etc. As others have said, there are many people who don't have the luxury of parents and/or a home to live in. It's not ideal but it's a better outcome than being homeless. If you move home, find things to do to augment your resume--volunteer work can provide new skills and connections as well.0 -
You can substitute teach in many places with just a BA. You can also work in a private or parochial school without a teaching degree as long as you have a BA. You can tutor homebound students, or offer services as a private tutor. Check with school systems around your area. We are always in dire need of substitute teachers and tutors.
I would also check around for companies that do product testing. We have one in our mall called Concepts. You can make as little as 10.00 in a few minutes trying some lotion, or up to a couple hundred dollars for several hours worth of testing, survery taking, etc. It's always a great way to make quick money. My sister does it twice a week while her kids are at school.
Good luck to you. It's a horrible feeling when you think you have no control over your life and it is falling apart. You just need to keep trying and believe that something good will happen soon!0
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