Accountability Partner Desperately NEEDED!!!

nivea369
nivea369 Posts: 7 Member
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I need help. Really bad. I’ve tried and tried. The bottom line is I give up whenever I feel outdone or thrown off center. I don’t know how to keep pushing in my weight loss journey when change of any kind happens. So. Please help me. I can’t do this by myself. I tried doing it that way over 1000x. I’ve tried Weight Watchers, powders, pills, juices, shakes, everything. I don’t want surgery-because I hate hospitals. I just want to give it a REAL old fashioned try, and work with someone who is really willing to help me.

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  • kimredzone1
    kimredzone1 Posts: 1 Member
    Hi Nivea! You are not alone. I'm starting again for the 100th time! You can do this. I have to say that everytime I stop and come back I have to remind myself that there isn't a magic cure to a healthy fitness journey. I have to remind myself to follow the formula everyday Mon-Fri at a minimum I burn 600 calories a day and aim to consume 1500 calories. I'm in my late 40's so I have hormones working against me... BUT you can't go wrong with this formula. As for giving up when the wind changes direction... I'm happy to help you stay accountable!
  • AyasLife
    AyasLife Posts: 37 Member
    hey you two - i am in exactly the same boat. as soon as there are changes thrown at me or I am seriously stressed in some kind of way I fall off balance and drop it.
    In the late 40s myself and really struggling but hoping that this time its the one that works. Doing the same again and again sounds crazy but I finally manged to quit beeing a heavy smoker after the "i cant count it" try so why not here too. Send you two a friends request - anyone else who can relate to that post feel free to add me.
  • nivea369
    nivea369 Posts: 7 Member
    kimredzone1 wrote: »
    Hi Nivea! You are not alone. I'm starting again for the 100th time! You can do this. I have to say that everytime I stop and come back I have to remind myself that there isn't a magic cure to a healthy fitness journey. I have to remind myself to follow the formula everyday Mon-Fri at a minimum I burn 600 calories a day and aim to consume 1500 calories. I'm in my late 40's so I have hormones working against me... BUT you can't go wrong with this formula. As for giving up when the wind changes direction... I'm happy to help you stay accountable!
    kimredzone1 wrote: »
    Hi Nivea! You are not alone. I'm starting again for the 100th time! You can do this. I have to say that everytime I stop and come back I have to remind myself that there isn't a magic cure to a healthy fitness journey. I have to remind myself to follow the formula everyday Mon-Fri at a minimum I burn 600 calories a day and aim to consume 1500 calories. I'm in my late 40's so I have hormones working against me... BUT you can't go wrong with this formula. As for giving up when the wind changes direction... I'm happy to help you stay accountable!
    kimredzone1 wrote: »
    Hi Nivea! You are not alone. I'm starting again for the 100th time! You can do this. I have to say that everytime I stop and come back I have to remind myself that there isn't a magic cure to a healthy fitness journey. I have to remind myself to follow the formula everyday Mon-Fri at a minimum I burn 600 calories a day and aim to consume 1500 calories. I'm in my late 40's so I have hormones working against me... BUT you can't go wrong with this formula. As for giving up when the wind changes direction... I'm happy to help you stay accountable!

  • nivea369
    nivea369 Posts: 7 Member
    Thank you both so very much! I have say I’m scared because I think I’m going to fail again; but I’m willing to try 🙂
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,575 Member
    edited November 2022
    So . . . you've tried a lot of things. They didn't work. Those aren't you failing, it's not having found the right method for you yet - blame those methods, not yourself. If you keep trying things, you can find things that work. Do something different this time?

    One thing I see a lot here is people who try to "lose weight fast" by adopting tricksy named diets with lots of rules and restrictions, and/or punitively intense exercise routines that feel miserable to them. That's just not sustainable . . . especially when other parts of life get challenging or complicated.

    To me, that seems like buying into a myth that fat is sin, and we need to suffer to expiate it. That's 100% not true.

    Therefore, something I'd suggest is to think in terms of making weight loss and improved fitness relatively easy, rather than super fast. What positive changes would it be possible to turn into routine, relatively happy habits?

    Personally, I can't sustain willpower or motivation more than briefly. For me, it makes sense to use those times to figure out some positive and sustainable changes I can make in activity/eating habits, practice those to groove them in as regular habits, then go on with life. The reasonably-happy habits are easier to continue - almost on autopilot - until the next burst of willpower/motivation, when I can make more changes. Chip away at it, and small changes lead to big results.

    I'm not a great accountability partner - for one, I'm not very active on the "MFP friend" side of things; for two, I'm at a different stage (in year 7 of maintaining a healthy weight, after about 3 previous decades of overweight/obesity).

    But I'm cheering for you to succeed!
  • nivea369
    nivea369 Posts: 7 Member
    Thank you so much for that information! 🙂

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