Some phrases that should not be said on MFP !

skinnywithin
skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
edited October 2 in Motivation and Support
I just noticed someones before and after pics and had to refrain from using the phrase " HOLY COW" I mean this would have been used in a good way but after consideration , I didnt think she would have liked it..What are some of the phrases you have said and later thought OOPS maybe I should have chosen different words !

You know the ones like..WOW LOOKS LIKE YOU LOST A TON OF WEIGHT or DANG, I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU !!!

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  • Chastityx
    Chastityx Posts: 192 Member
    I don't know but I ambeginning to like football better, is that the cowboys?
  • TMcBooty
    TMcBooty Posts: 780 Member
    I don't know but I ambeginning to like football better, is that the cowboys?

    yep!
  • TMcBooty
    TMcBooty Posts: 780 Member
    "why are you losing weight?"
  • skinnywithin
    skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
    I don't know but I ambeginning to like football better, is that the cowboys?

    WHY YES IT IS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH HOW I LOVE THEM !
  • skinnywithin
    skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
    Lets not forget this one ....WOW your so pretty now !
  • MochaMixAZ
    MochaMixAZ Posts: 844 Member
    Some of the oops I've made (and that I've heard):

    - WOW! I didn't know you were that pretty!
    - You must feel so much better now. I can't believe you lived like that!
    - OMG! You have a waist!
    - Did you have a thyroid problem?
    - Have you had weight loss surgery?
    - Your family must really be proud of you now!
  • poustotah
    poustotah Posts: 1,121 Member
    How about this one, "wow, you're huge!"
  • rmsrws
    rmsrws Posts: 639 Member
    "You look so good now" never relized I looked that repulsive before!
  • skinnywithin
    skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
    CRACKING UP AT ..YOUR FAMILY MUST BE SO PROUD...Why yes becasue when I was heavier I was a total LOSER!
  • rmsrws
    rmsrws Posts: 639 Member
    This one has been said to me by mom. I am sure she didn't mean anything negative by it, but it still sorta lingers in the back of my mind.

    " You look so good now, I am so proud of you" So was she ashamed of me a 119 lbs ago????
  • EnuffaMyButt
    EnuffaMyButt Posts: 111 Member
    I just noticed someones before and after pics and had to refrain from using the phrase " HOLY COW" I mean this would have been used in a good way but after consideration , I didnt think she would have liked it..What are some of the phrases you have said and later thought OOPS maybe I should have chosen different words !

    You know the ones like..WOW LOOKS LIKE YOU LOST A TON OF WEIGHT or DANG, I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU !!!

    Hey SkinnyWithin ~ I think it's simply an honest, instant reaction. I certainly wouldn't take offense to it AND I'd likely be one of the first to respond in the same way. That's just my opinion though. I can understand, to the same extent how you would think it could be offensive. If I were face to face with someone and said the same, they'd totally see the sincerity in my face and not take offense. I think sometimes it hard to express the same, in words (without seeing the persons face) online. Does that make sense?
  • jenscot25
    jenscot25 Posts: 124 Member
    I hear "when's your baby due?" or "Are you expecting again?" :huh: NEVER under any circumstances should pregnancy be assumed!!! My youngest is 13 months and I still look about 4 months pregnant since I carry all of my weight in my stomach.
  • skinnywithin
    skinnywithin Posts: 1,392 Member
    I just noticed someones before and after pics and had to refrain from using the phrase " HOLY COW" I mean this would have been used in a good way but after consideration , I didnt think she would have liked it..What are some of the phrases you have said and later thought OOPS maybe I should have chosen different words !

    You know the ones like..WOW LOOKS LIKE YOU LOST A TON OF WEIGHT or DANG, I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU !!!

    Hey SkinnyWithin ~ I think it's simply an honest, instant reaction. I certainly wouldn't take offense to it AND I'd likely be one of the first to respond in the same way. That's just my opinion though. I can understand, to the same extent how you would think it could be offensive. If I were face to face with someone and said the same, they'd totally see the sincerity in my face and not take offense. I think sometimes it hard to express the same, in words (without seeing the persons face) online. Does that make sense?

    YES AND THANKS but to be honest I deleted my post right adfter I typed it . I didnt want to hurt her feeling s!
  • 1Prettypain
    1Prettypain Posts: 122
    are you sick, wow youve gotten skinny.....
  • cat3nv
    cat3nv Posts: 389 Member
    I have heard

    "I had to look at that pic twice, it does not look like you"

    "You look great now" Leave off the now and it is a great compliment.

    "you lost how much weight!!!!!" I have seen this......
  • MochaMixAZ
    MochaMixAZ Posts: 844 Member
    CRACKING UP AT ..YOUR FAMILY MUST BE SO PROUD...Why yes becasue when I was heavier I was a total LOSER!

    LOL Exactly. I do try to weigh (ha!) their intention and respond accordingly. Usually, it's a complete lack of awareness that what they are saying could be interpreted negatively. Heart-felt, well-intentioned compliments are always appreciated, I think.

    So even if you had said that (much like EnuffaMyButt said), it likely would have been interpreted as something nice.
  • PeachyKeene
    PeachyKeene Posts: 1,645 Member
    I stick my foot in my mouth often!
  • spicypepper
    spicypepper Posts: 1,016 Member
    Some of the oops I've made (and that I've heard):

    - WOW! I didn't know you were that pretty!
    - You must feel so much better now. I can't believe you lived like that!
    - OMG! You have a waist!
    - Did you have a thyroid problem?
    - Have you had weight loss surgery?
    - Your family must really be proud of you now!

    My mother actually said "WOW, you have a waist!" I was sooooo not happy...
  • kristinascott
    kristinascott Posts: 36
    This one has been said to me by mom. I am sure she didn't mean anything negative by it, but it still sorta lingers in the back of my mind.

    " You look so good now, I am so proud of you" So was she ashamed of me a 119 lbs ago????

    LOL i have gotten that same thing from soooo many in my family... & i am sure they dont mean it like they werent proud before but i get what you mean when you hear its like - huh? ....
  • mfiggs
    mfiggs Posts: 155 Member
    I have heard numerous times..."Wow you have a waist" it is really noticeable now. I always had a waist it was just bigger!
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