My boyfriend doesn't want me to lose any more weight.

If you have to keep it mind,that you're doing this for yourself first and no one else.

Don't let your boyfriend influence you,if he truly cares for you...he'll stand by you no matter what weight your are.

Keep going,make yourself happy!

If you want to be superskinny, that is your choice. But I understand your boyfriend. My husband is just like that. They hate these masculine bony Sarah Jessica Parker Types. Totally unattractive. Women look a lot better with curves and some butt.

Your body, not his. If he is expressing concern and wanting to talk it out, fine. If he's worried about your health, fine. If he's telling you to put on weight for purely selfish reasons then screw 'im. Tell him you would like his body better if he were really muscly and see how he reacts.

It's your body, do what you want with it. If he doesn't like it, someone else will and it will be his loss. Please don't change yourself for him. I've done that before and you will regret it. Of course I look at it as a learning experience, but not a very smart one. Do what you feel most comfortable doing.

while i understand your boyfriends opinion is important to you, you must live your life for yourself, and if he cant love you still for what makes you happy with yourself then he never loved you, i wish you luck and hopefully he wont be selfish! try explaining to him that you need this for yourself and you really hope he can understand.

I think that given that your goal weight is at a healthy BMI you should do what YOU want - not what someone else wants from you. At the end of the day you have to be happy in your skin. If your goal weight was unreasonable my advice would be different of course.

However, it is important to do some strength training - that will help you get the tone that you want and at this point is probably more important that cardio.

I think you look great in your display pic btw.

If boobs will solve the problem for you both, then work some strength training that targets your pecs (chest) into your workout. It will build up the muscle behind your boobs and they will appear bigger and be firmer.

Depending on how long you have been together you need to make the choice.

I know I like to satisfy my husband, but at the same time I never forget what I want for me.

Maybe ask a family member or a close friend how they see you. Since they would know you best... ask them if you look too thin. But you have to be open to whatever they may tell you.

If you honestly don't give a hoot what people think, as some people are like that, then press on mama!!

I disagree with the advice, how do we know the full picture the girl could have an eating disorder, we can only see one side of it! Plus the Mum is saying eat more, stay healthy Kissxxx and listen to your body

Oh my word I would LOVE to be your weight!!!! I am 5' 1" and weigh 147. I bet you look great right now!!!! I agree that it is your body and you need to be happy with yourself but don't get so small that you look sick because that is NOT sexy at all. Be healthy!!!

From a guy’s point of view I can see where your boyfriend is coming from. If he is making those comments you have to ask yourself if there is any merit to what he is saying. When you go out to a party or a restaurant do you make a big deal about what you can and cannot eat or drink? You should be able to have whatever you would like on the menu or eat what is served at a party without saying I can eat that because I want to lose weight. That is what will upset a boyfriend more than anything especially when you are already very thin.
Guys also look at a girl that is very thin and think she is very fragile. We do not want to worry about breaking her in half from giving her a hug. I think it is important to ask yourself if you were to lose more weight would you be any healthier? The objective should be to be healthy and not meet a certain weight. If you healthy weight is 120 then you should try to stay there, if it is less then by all means do what it takes so you are the healthiest you can be.

So my bf thinks I am getting "bony" I am only 5'2" and 117 lbs. It is around 21-22ish BMI, perfectly healthy but I would like to get down to 110. He said to stop it and gain more weight. He said I am too crazy that I even count olive oil in my diary. He said I am on the road to an eating disorder. He said he loved my body more when I was technically overweight in the 140s cuz then I had breasts and a bigger butt. If I had breasts and I was 100 lbs he probably wouldn't care.. I want to satisfy his wishes, he's against implants but he loves them on other women, figures. ugh men. -_-

I want to tone my ab region as it is my biggest problem spot. Its not bulging or huge, Id be happy if I was 115 and toned. All this talk makes me want to just stop and maintain my weight. If only he knew how much I want to eat regularly as I have been on a caloric deficit since March of this year. I am currently doing Insanity and its a lot of cardio. Should I switch to something that is more for strength training? Any suggestions? I just want to let that all out. I'm so frustrated.

I believe a person SHOULD do everything in their power to live a healthier life. At 5'2 and 140 you may have been a lil overweight depening on your body. At 117 I can't see how you could still be over.

HOWEVER

I just started dating a woman 5'4 and 160. She hopes to lose 20 pounds. She has big breasts and I like them. I like women who have curves so if they are going to lose those curves it would be hard to see T & A go bye-bye but I would support it. I don't want my woman to be as muscular as I but I don't want her to weigh more than me either.

Bottom line is do what's best for you. It's your body AND he's not your husband (sorry). Don't know if he's in shape but normally the partner who objects isn't. You would blame him and regret it if you listened to him.

Eurgh, why do guys preach about surgery and implants then drool all over fake breasted women in FHM!! I don't get it.

Anyway, You are the shape that you are. Unless you get butt/boob implants, tell him the only way you are going to look how he prefers is to put weight back on. Stress to him how unhappy you were at that weight and how much healthier you are now.

Also, I would lay off talking about the diet around him (if you do that) as it drives them crazy and will only reinforce his theory that you are obsessed. Speaking from experience here lol.

At the end of the day, the most important thing is how happy you are with yourself. It is your body.

When you've been dieting a long time and lost 20-something pounds, it's easy to get hung up on the weight number. The goal weight becomes the be-all-end-all and can sometimes be a little divorced from reality. I bet the woman you were at 140# would be THRILLED to wake up at 117, but because you set the 110 goal back then you're still not satisfied with 117. I'm not trying to tell you which decision to make, just reminding you to make it for the right reason. The right reason would be that you still honestly think you need to lose weight NOW, not because you're not yet at the goal you set originally.

And I don't think you can ignore the opinion of a guy you've been with for 6 years, either. He's invested enough time to have earned the right to an opinion about your body and health. Again, I'm not telling you to do what he says because he said it, but his opinion is worth more consideration than some other posters are saying to give it, IMO.

OTOH, he won't know what you weigh unless you tell him, and I don't think a guy is going to notice a 5 lb difference - even on a 115 lb woman. If he's expressing these things, I'd bet real money that he's less concerned about physical changes and might just be a bit tired of living with somebody constantly "on a diet."