How do you get in the right mindset?

I didn’t decide I loved my 285 lb self. But my thinking went like this. Do you believe in something like basic human respect? Just basics. Something everyone gets no matter what. You believe something like that? I do. I used to work with people who were in jail. Some for good reason. But even they got some basics. So I’ll ask you again, are people entitled to some basic respect?

Have you done anything that should make you disqualified? Now answer truthfully, whatever is going on in your head right now, do you think there is just cause for you not to get basic respect? I know, years of kicking yourself isn’t going to reverse that easy but I’m betting you have to admit you should get the basics even if it doesn’t feel like it. To the degree possible do you thing included in basic respect is your right to determine for yourself how you want to live? By degree possible I mean you don’t have a right to live in your neighbors house. Without encroaching on others, do you believe you should be able to decide how you want to live your life?

Like I said, I didn’t decide that I love my 285 lb self, but I came to respect the part of me that wanted something better. And it was all me. I guess I had to forgive myself for getting to 285 but I thought I was doing what I had to do at the time. But there was that part that was tired of it. And then there was the part that was afraid. I was on my way to 300lbs. I feared there would be a point where there would be no going back.

But you don’t need to love yourself. You need to fight for yourself. At least a little. I came to think of it as arguing with myself and winning.
If you don’t think you deserve to be heathy and successful come on and respond and I’ll argue the point with you here. But you already have the idea that there is possibly something better, you just don’t know how to get it. That part of you that wants to change is like an under used muscle. You need to work it to make it stronger. As it gets stronger, things get easier.

And this- different from other people? If you want to turn things around you had better be different because most people don’t do it. Lots of people start weight loss, most people quit. Some people lose significant amounts, lots of them gain it back. Some with extra. Be you. Become a scientist. Your area of study is you losing weight. You can do it.