Ask me if I'm pregnant. I dare you...

jenscot25
jenscot25 Posts: 124 Member
edited October 2 in Introduce Yourself
Well the subject says it all. I look pregnant even though I haven't been pregnant since August of 2010. I am really serious about weight loss this time. I want to be healthy for my kids. I also feel guilty that I am married to a man that works out all the time and currently holds the bench press record for his weight class in our state. I feel bad that he has a 6 pack and then here I come 5'11 weighing in over 200 pounds. It's hard enough to blend in fat but when you're 5'11 there's no hiding!! I also miss the attention and the self esteem booster that comes with the glances and compliments I used to receive from the opposite sex. 2011 was a hard year for our family and I'm looking to end it on a positive note.:happy:
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  • mcdonl
    mcdonl Posts: 342 Member
    I dont know much, but as a man... unless you have a baby shooting out of your vag I am NOT asking if you are pregnant :)
  • smurfette75
    smurfette75 Posts: 853 Member
    Welcome!
  • _Ben
    _Ben Posts: 1,608 Member
    Welcome to MFP. I hope you find everything you need to be successful here, and if you have any questions, dont hesitate to ask!
  • jenscot25
    jenscot25 Posts: 124 Member
    I dont know much, but as a man... unless you have a baby shooting out of your vag I am NOT asking if you are pregnant :)

    LOL!! That's what I say!! Some people are idiots...
  • YOUU GO GIRL!!! feel free to add me!! im on the diet wagon also!!!
  • jarrettd
    jarrettd Posts: 872 Member
    You're right about not being able to hide when you're 5'11"! I missed that attention also, and MFP put me back on the right track. Sounds like your husband will most likely support you and help you meet your goals, too.

    Congratulations on making the decision to get fit and healthy. Welcome to MFP!!! You're gonna love it here!
  • hikeout470
    hikeout470 Posts: 628 Member
    Welcome, and I always wanted to be taller, because you can eat more... Just sayin. I am sure once you get in your groove, you will be getting plenty of glances again. Welcome to the board.
  • JJeMitchell
    JJeMitchell Posts: 160 Member
    awwww, don't worry, people are idiots..


    one of my friends is thin: she's about 5'8" and maybe 140 lbs. and when she was in an airport, a flight attendant touched her stomach and was like "pregnant???" She in no way, shape or form looked pregnant...
  • CMGemstone
    CMGemstone Posts: 64 Member
    i have the same problem and carry all my wieght in the front like a big preganat belly!! Welcome to this great site full of wonderful people and I wish you the very best of luck!
  • nygiantschick
    nygiantschick Posts: 289 Member
    great start...you can add me if you'd like.
  • smc1277
    smc1277 Posts: 239 Member
    I dont know much, but as a man... unless you have a baby shooting out of your vag I am NOT asking if you are pregnant :)

    OMG!!! Love it
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    It's hard enough to blend in fat but when you're 5'11 there's no hiding!!

    I'm 5'11'' and I started out over 300 lbs and when I tell people that they don't believe me. I have to disagree with you on that point, but then again, it might depend on body type.
  • Well the subject says it all. I look pregnant even though I haven't been pregnant since August of 2010. I am really serious about weight loss this time. I want to be healthy for my kids. I also feel guilty that I am married to a man that works out all the time and currently holds the bench press record for his weight class in our state. I feel bad that he has a 6 pack and then here I come 5'11 weighing in over 200 pounds. It's hard enough to blend in fat but when you're 5'11 there's no hiding!! I also miss the attention and the self esteem booster that comes with the glances and compliments I used to receive from the opposite sex. 2011 was a hard year for our family and I'm looking to end it on a positive note.:happy:

    i know how that is. i had my baby july of 2010, and at july 2011 i still looked 9 months, added with the fact my hubby is 6'2, 195 when wet and very fit, and i was 260, yea, not a nice feeling. espically since before we got married and was very thin and got comments all the time. total bummer, but now ive lost 40 of the 60 i gained so far, getting to be a good year :) you'll do it, it sucks but you got to remember you didnt gain it all in a week, so you won't lose it in a week. good luck!
  • MunchkinHawk12
    MunchkinHawk12 Posts: 434 Member
    When I used to work retail years ago, I had WOMEN ask me all the time if I was pregnant or when I was due! I punched a hole in a cork board after the last time. It is so frustrating but I have been lucky that people haven't asked in years. I have never had kids, so this was always a blow to my ego!

    Keep up your awesome work and keep losing!
  • people are idiots why would you ever ask anyone that? Does no one have a mental filter anymore?
  • jenscot25
    jenscot25 Posts: 124 Member
    Welcome, and I always wanted to be taller, because you can eat more... Just sayin. I am sure once you get in your groove, you will be getting plenty of glances again. Welcome to the board.

    It worked that way for a while but after having 3 babies in 4 years, everything I ate stayed right in the old flabby belly!!:wink:
  • poustotah
    poustotah Posts: 1,121 Member
    I just had my 4th baby 3 months ago. I'm working on losing the baby weight. It's frustrating because I lost 90 lbs before I got pregnant and now I'm whining about 10 more pounds. It sounds like hubby would be a great resource for the working out and MFP is a terrific resource for the food!!! You can do this!
  • smc1277
    smc1277 Posts: 239 Member
    Welcome, and I always wanted to be taller, because you can eat more... Just sayin. I am sure once you get in your groove, you will be getting plenty of glances again. Welcome to the board.

    It worked that way for a while but after having 3 babies in 4 years, everything I ate stayed right in the old flabby belly!!:wink:

    I know exactly how you feel!!!!! Stupid baby belly!!!
  • jenscot25
    jenscot25 Posts: 124 Member
    It's hard enough to blend in fat but when you're 5'11 there's no hiding!!

    I'm 5'11'' and I started out over 300 lbs and when I tell people that they don't believe me. I have to disagree with you on that point, but then again, it might depend on body type.

    I ment blend in with the crowd. I know what you are saying. People don't believe how much I actually weigh either.
  • WELCOME!!! Feel free to add me as well... I have also been asked that exact same question... I've been working on this for 5 days and love the feedback from everyone here!!!

    Feel free to add me!! : )

    GOOD LUCK!!!
  • Ugh, I was asked "when's the baby due?" a week after I gave birth, ouch! (that was 14 years ago, though.)

    I am also married to a body builder. He looks at weights and his muscles start to shred. mfp is great. Welcome!

    I am moving in the right direction. You will too! Friend me!
  • I am also 5'11, and weighed over 200 when I started on July 1. And yes, it's hard to hide when you're as tall as we are and female. And I also get the "there's no way you weigh that much!" And people giving me the side-eye when I tell them I've lost 40 pounds, like I'm lying.
    You can add me!
  • Jewels211
    Jewels211 Posts: 184 Member
    :happy:
    I dont know much, but as a man... unless you have a baby shooting out of your vag I am NOT asking if you are pregnant :)

    OMG!!! Love it

    Yeah, why can't more ppl be like him?! :happy: There is not a question in the world that can make you feel worse that "When are you due?" when you're not pregnant. Self esteem TOTALLY down the toilet. Add to that the knowledge that fat around the waist and belly is the hardest on your heart, and it's not only embarrassing, it's scary healthwise, too. But you've found a great place to be, lots of encouragement, and lots of us that know *exactly* where you're coming from. I'm too old to be preggers, and I don't want anyone asking ANY MORE!
  • mscoco10
    mscoco10 Posts: 527 Member
    People need to mind there business. Even if you are preggo you may not want extra attention. Work hard and focus. The weight will come off and you'll feel better soon. :smile:
  • Welcome! I started MFP earlier this week and LOVE it! Its so nice to have the motivation and to see results. Feel free to add me. :)
  • mrosberg
    mrosberg Posts: 3 Member
    GREAT subject line! I've had that happen 2x in my life. Once was when I weighed 175 (am 5'3"). The other time was a couple weeks ago-- I'm way back up, at 170. (in between, i had ups and downs between 132 and 170).
  • Zeromilediet
    Zeromilediet Posts: 787 Member
    People who don't know you well enough to *know* if you're pregnant have no business asking such a thing. Geez! Welcome and good luck on your journey--this is a great site with super people.
  • targotoff
    targotoff Posts: 16 Member
    Glad to know it isn't only me. I get asked at least once a month and it never gets easier.
    Most of the weight was put on as I struggled with infertility after my oldest daughter (we adopted the younger). So it is bad enough when you could be pregnant, but really bad when every time is just a reminder that you can't get pregnant. :(
  • kagome5555
    kagome5555 Posts: 35 Member
    I've been asked if I'm pregnant too :( it's super embarrassing and you go home wanting to eat a tub of ice cream.
  • Jennyisbusy
    Jennyisbusy Posts: 1,294 Member
    Glad to know it isn't only me. I get asked at least once a month and it never gets easier.
    Most of the weight was put on as I struggled with infertility after my oldest daughter (we adopted the younger). So it is bad enough when you could be pregnant, but really bad when every time is just a reminder that you can't get pregnant. :(

    ^^^This. and for me it was always the beginning of horrible round of 'what if' followed by a reality smack.
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