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Um.. hugs?

Yeah, I know what you mean. I only ever had something deleted when mentioning that big p is not necessary.

I didn't see the final 9 posts or so, but I hadn't seen a mention of the number of calories she was eating, just that she didn't want to decrease her intake further.

I'd like to say though that I don't agree with this general idea you seem to have that we're all counting calories badly (some more than others), necessarily overestimating intake and overestimating exercise calories. That's not how you worded it precisely (obviously I can't check now) but that's the message I remember, with cutting calories further being the only solution when weight loss isn't happening. Errors in calorie counting can happen both ways, and in her situation (prolonged calorie deficit) a diet break or reverse dieting certainly were valid alternatives.

My instincts tell me she was in a very low calorie deficit to lose weight that reducing them further was probably dangerously low, and didn't make any sense to her to lower them further. She seemed like she wanted help but left out the very information that was pertinent to the answer. I suspect it's a metabolic problem. When people lose big weight more than once like she did in the hundreds of lbs and possibly without proper nutrition, metabolism can be effected and studies of the "Big Losers" a decade on shows their metabolisms still haven't recovered. Cheers

PAV8888 wrote: »

Yeah... no.... maybe..... sure.... it is their right to delete their thread....

it is also my right to be frustrated that I wrote advice that may be relevant to other people and it also gets deleted when people delete "their thread"....

it is also my right not to bother to write advice if I am bothered enough by the fact that people can delete my advice by deleting their thread and yet I wrote it... so there's that too.

But it is also my right to gripe about it... or did I mention that already!?!?!

That said, less calories is a good answer but it is not always the best or only answer.

Yeah, we wasted our time. I also put some time into that thread. OP is not getting a bouquet of flowers from me over that, anytime soon, sure. I have a memory, kinda.

But complaining about deletion afterward? Mourning that it's lost to the world just puts more time into it. Bigger waste of time, IMO.

My advice is worth every penny a person pays for it, pretty much by definition. That they valued it accordingly shouldn't be any kind of a surprise. Them's the breaks.

YMMV.

P.S. All of this is subjective, but I'm feeling a bit of a gap between what I remember people saying on the thread (me included) and what they're presenting here as having been said by themselves or others. If that doesn't make it even more pointless . . . well, I don't know what would.

lol a microcosm of MFP… Go to Reddit if you want to argue.

springlering62 wrote: »

sollyn23l2 wrote: »

crb426 wrote: »

What an odd thing to start a thread about.

No one is forced to be invested in these chats among strangers.

This is true. That's why I've mostly walked away from answering people's questions they post. Most of them don't want answers and we're just wasting our time. Honestly, most of the time I think we should just let this message board slowly fade away. It's just people asking the same questions over and over that don't really want answers, they just want someone to tell then that they're right.

Y’all are hilarious.

But agree with @sollyn23l2

I am so disheartened pouring time into responses for One-Day-Wonders who leave the same day they’ve registered, or who return every few months with the same issues, get the exact same advice, disregard (because, clearly their plan is working, right?), leave, rinse, repeat ad nauseam.

I get that it unfortunately comes with the territory.

All I can hope is that I can reach one person out there and encourage them to change their life by sharing how large weight loss affected me.

If it’s any comfort, many of y’all were directly responsible for giving me that gift.

Tru dat. Cheers.

Though I mainly lurk, I do provide my two cents on occasion, especially when I have confidence in whatever advice I'm providing. IMO, most of the 'one day wonders' are seeking affirmation for whatever preconceived notion or dubious advice they've been given. While the science of weight loss is not hard to understand, the practice of counting/measuring/consistency can be difficult. Coupled with the fact that weight loss and fitness take time - I suppose is so demotivating, people give up on the process. Too easily IMO.

Retroguy2000 wrote: »

It would be really meta if Tom deleted this thread.