Snoring partner

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,620 Member
    ericatoday1 wrote: »
    Not to be that person, but as somebody who has dealt with this, I’ve learned that a lot of the irritation comes from my choice to be annoyed by it I’ve noticed it’s actually pretty easy to ignore and kind of use it as white noise if I look at it that way

    If it is regular and not very loud, that's true.

    But when it's irregular and the volume is all over the place ... you can try to think positively, but you probably won't succeed.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,620 Member
    The_cuteness wrote: »
    I got my husband to stop snoring. He said his nose was stuffy every night. I get him to use a steroid nasal spray every day and he takes a decongestant tablet before bed every night. I also bought an air purifier for our bedroom. He rarely snores anymore, and he says he sleeps better. Also, the air purifier is white noise so if he does snore a little, it helps me to not wake up.

    Has his doctor commented on or given recommendations about "rebound" effects from using medications every day?
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,620 Member
    Antiopelle wrote: »
    * When going on holiday, we now always rent a cottage or a two bedroom apartment instead of a hotel room.

    So do we!

  • Bootzey
    Bootzey Posts: 274 Member
    Go to sleep first
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,620 Member
    Bootzey wrote: »
    Go to sleep first

    You've never been woken up in the middle of the night by a particularly loud blast of snoring?
  • BeccaBeVigilant
    BeccaBeVigilant Posts: 14 Member
    same problem here, it sux, my sleep is affected which i wake up stressed bad mood hence promotes Cortisol and bad eating habits! when i sleep in another room or couch I feel like a DOG and he fetches for me to return to the bed , then more FIGHTING,,,,, :s
  • avatiach
    avatiach Posts: 298 Member
    I've got that problem too. Loud, irregular snores--plus it takes me longer to fall asleep anyway--are a bad combination!
    Here are some things that have helped.
    1. Flonase! I got him to take it. Makes a big difference, especially with volume. (Cutting out dairy helped too, but he couldn't keep it up, so mild allergy maybe?)
    2. My son convinced him to wear those nasal strips, they do help.
    3. I'm working on getting him to fall asleep on his side, it does reduce the snoring.

    And sometimes, I turn on white noise, really loud.
    Occasionally, I go sleep in another room, although really I want HIM to go sleep in another room.
  • DancingMoosie
    DancingMoosie Posts: 8,619 Member
    Breathe right nose strips (or equivalent), sound(I like rain or ocean waves), and separate rooms if possible. Neither of us mind using the living room couch, and we'll even trade off. He starts the night there, I'll go early morning when the dogs start to bother me.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    BeccaBeVigilant wrote: »
    same problem here, it sux, my sleep is affected which i wake up stressed bad mood hence promotes Cortisol and bad eating habits! when i sleep in another room or couch I feel like a DOG and he fetches for me to return to the bed , then more FIGHTING,,,,, :s

    Sounds like the snoring is the least of your problems...
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  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    honeybunsteal wrote: »
    How to get sleep n stay asleep with a person who snores all night every night. They claim they don't snore even when I record it. Plus he won't seek medical attention. There is no spare bedroom

    Separate beds with our heads in the opposite corners of the room.
    Earplugs.
    siberiantarragon wrote: »
    tomcustombuilder wrote: »
    Nudge em. They'll wake up and maybe turn over. If it's reaaly bad and you aren't getting your sleep in that you need then it's the couch

    When I tried that with my partner he would roll back over onto his back as soon as he went back to sleep, LOL.

    In my case he acknowledges he snores but won't go to a sleep specialist. He says that he's going to go to one but then never does it. I'm not sure why that is. Part of it is I once went to a sleep specialist for my insomnia who was really mean and condescending, and my partner was there, so now he thinks all sleep specialists will be that way for some reason. Part of it might be fear.

    Where do you even find a sleep specialist?

    I told my primary I was having problems with sleep and she referred me.
  • BriansTrident
    BriansTrident Posts: 483 Member
    My ex broke her nose playing volley ball and after that she used to snore a lot. It can be quite bothersome so as someone who had to deal with it to a point either sleep in a different room or use earphones. You may recommend he get tested for sleep apnea
  • UkinBtheSun
    UkinBtheSun Posts: 70 Member
    My husband is prone to snoring and I too have often slept on the couch over the past 20 years together. I've found most couches are uncomfortable, and often I could still hear him snoring even with our bedroom door shut. The couch has not been an ideal solution for me and I understand your dilemma. I observed when my hubby is very tired, has more than two beers, over ate, or ate late at night, his snoring increased. Fortunately, I have a wonderful husband that changed those habits and it has cut his snoring down a lot. Sleep is so important for our mental and physical health, and I knew he was not getting his best sleep when he was snoring either.

    Some things that have worked for us are, for him to sleep in the living room on a reclining chair, and to take naps on the weekend to catch up on his sleep. My husband gets up at 3:30 a.m. for work and by the weekend he needs the extra rest. Some nights when the snoring is particularly loud, despite his best attempts, I sleep in our RV that we have parked in the driveway. Perhaps you could get a sofa bed, so at least you can be comfortable? I hope you find some of this useful, and after reading all the responses, it helps to know you're not alone.
    Sending good thoughts.
  • westrich20940
    westrich20940 Posts: 921 Member
    If you can - sleep in separate bedrooms. Honestly, sleep is so so so important and sacrificing your sleep quality in order to be in the same bed/room as a partner isn't really a good idea. Many couples who have ultimately chosen to sleep in different beds (or at least with separate bedding like blankets and such) or even separate rooms report that their relationships are better - and didn't suffer at all.

    This isn't something everyone would be able to do but there are def some good things about it right off the bat: you have your own space that you can be alone, if one is sick - they can avoid getting the other sick... especially if you have children and one of you needs to be well enough to deal, gets rid of issues with one partner waking the other up due to snoring or moving or getting up/down often in the night...or if they have different sleep schedules. You can make your own decisions about how you deal with doing other intimate activities but most couples who don't share beds don't report having any decline in their physical intimacy.

    So,...that could work for you and your partner?
  • briscogun
    briscogun Posts: 1,138 Member
    edited August 2023
    So my wife complained about my snoring for a while. She finally convinced to take one of those sleep studies at home (my PCP ordered one and it was sent to my house). It was very uncomfortable wearing all the straps and probes, but...

    DOCTOR: "We have your sleep study results."

    ME: "So what's the verdict?"

    DOCTOR: "You stopped breathing 43 times."

    ME: "Uh..."

    So yeah, I now have a sleep apnea machine. I sleep horrible without it. I will get 5-6 solid uninterrupted hours each night, and my wife hasn't threatened to kill me or divorce me since. Win-win.

    If a man refuses to get help and lets his wife suffer like that, I'm sorry but he's not a man. That's a jerk. Hope the OP got help for him, or took kickboxing lessons to help adjust his attitude!
  • xbowhunter
    xbowhunter Posts: 1,248 Member
    We now sleep in separate rooms because we both snore and I was waking up nightly to move to the other bedroom anyway. Unfortunately this has also put a stop to our intimacy as well but I guess that happens after 34 years of marriage... lol
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    xbowhunter wrote: »
    We now sleep in separate rooms because we both snore and I was waking up nightly to move to the other bedroom anyway. Unfortunately this has also put a stop to our intimacy as well but I guess that happens after 34 years of marriage... lol

    Yes, separate bedrooms certainly does diminish spontaneous intimacy. We watch TV in his bedroom at night and I rejoin him for cuddle time in the AM.

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