how do you make yourself feel attractive?

skinimin
skinimin Posts: 252 Member
edited October 3 in Motivation and Support
Sometimes I have days where I feel ugly and I feel like my body is repulsive and fat is just sitting all over my stomach in an obvious way. (Okay I might have tried on a dress that was a size too small today, it was white and it was tight and it did not make me feel good.) So, WHEN DO YOU FEEL HOT/PRETTY/SEXY/HANDSOME and what are some things you do to feel that way when you don't.

Despite mistakes made in the dressing room today, I feel pretty in a (well fitting) dress and heels on a saturday night.
I also have very flattering lighting and a HUGE mirror in my room and on days when I feel good I like to just kind of check myself out when I've only got my underwear on, standing and tensing has amazing effects.

So what does everyone else do? Hoping to generate ideas between each other to use on those days where you feel like you'll never look nice.
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  • Vegan_Chick
    Vegan_Chick Posts: 474 Member
    I feel the best about myself right after I work out. For some reason I feel like I could take over the world!
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    I feel the best about myself right after I work out. For some reason I feel like I could take over the world!

    This.
  • JulieBoBoo
    JulieBoBoo Posts: 642
    put on some fun bling. None of my jewelry is worth anything, but they're interesting and make me feel great. I love my pretties.
  • withchaco
    withchaco Posts: 1,026 Member
    I flex my arms in front of a mirror. When I see my visibly toned triceps, I feel good (and feel motivated to working on making my other muscles visible).
  • ellekay22
    ellekay22 Posts: 147 Member
    It's not what I do. It is when we are out grocery shopping, or taking the boys to the park, or something else mundane, and I see the way my husband looks at me. Like I am the most beautiful thing he's ever seen. And he didn't even notice me in high school.

    That makes me feel attractive.
  • acaudill042106
    acaudill042106 Posts: 108 Member
    I feel my best when either just coming in from working out, laying in the sun or putting on a new make up fondation....basically anything that makes me look "glowy". As for my body....I steer clear of flowy tops ...they make me feel huge.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    I feel my best after working out as well, if the workout was good. Otherwise, I have horrible body image due to my weight.
  • Chairless
    Chairless Posts: 583 Member
    Hang out with uglier people.
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Hang out with uglier people.

    They must be really ugly people.
  • Kelly_Wilson1990
    Kelly_Wilson1990 Posts: 3,245 Member
    I put on a pretty dress, fix my hair, and put on some make-up. Been playing around with smokey eyes lately and I love it. I found a video and have been trying the technique in different colors. I went by to see my dad and step-mom on Sunday after church. I walked in the door and my step-mom took a step back and gasped "You are so beautiful." Made my day!!!
  • sweat2live
    sweat2live Posts: 18
    Even after a 154lb weightloss, I usually still see myself as needing a lot more work. I feel best about myself after my workout when I'm tired and spent, but charged up and realizing that I have have the privilege to work out. I could be dead, should have been. Having a new lease on life changes a lot about how I look at myself.
  • Chairless
    Chairless Posts: 583 Member
    Hang out with uglier people.

    They must be really ugly people.

    the concept, you grasped it. well done you.
  • Kelly_Wilson1990
    Kelly_Wilson1990 Posts: 3,245 Member
    Hang out with uglier people.

    :laugh:
  • dieseljay74
    dieseljay74 Posts: 376
    Watch Biggest Loser.....no totally kidding. Actually I hit the gym....does wonders
  • micheeks
    micheeks Posts: 15 Member
    I feel sexy after I've worked out and I'm sweating like crazy. To me its my way to say I've worked hard and I feel wonderful afterwards. Then when I step into a cute dress and pumps its on from there. I've never been one to wear alot of dresses because of my thick legs but I recieve alot of compliments from men and women that I look good. :-)
  • skinimin
    skinimin Posts: 252 Member
    hahahaha one about ugly people and biggest loser, hilarious. all of the others are really good too, specially the exercise ones- nothing like endorphins to make you feel grandiose haha.
  • TinaDay1114
    TinaDay1114 Posts: 1,328 Member
    I feel best about myself after my workout when I'm tired and spent, but charged up and realizing that I have have the privilege to work out. I could be dead, should have been. Having a new lease on life changes a lot about how I look at myself.

    YESSSS. THIS. I've lost a lot of people over the years, and just lost my closest aunt to cancer last year. Every time I push my body and it responds, I thank GOD I can still do that. Every day if I want to.

    CONGRATULATIONS on 145 down -- that's AMAZING.

    I try to take a look at myself in the mirror after a shower, and really take in what I see. I used to AVOID the mirror, or only glance in it for a second to make sure my hair wasn't sticking straight up, and then BOLT. I'm trying to take my time now and appreciate what I've done, and how far I've come -- with not only the diet and exercise, but my spirit, too. Turning 40 last year has made me more comfortable in my skin.
  • daybyday
    daybyday Posts: 537 Member
    I feel best when I wear black - it's more slimming for me!
  • TinaDay1114
    TinaDay1114 Posts: 1,328 Member
    I feel sexy after I've worked out and I'm sweating like crazy. To me its my way to say I've worked hard and I feel wonderful afterwards.

    THIS TOO! Who are those women who think sweating is UNCOOL??? Puddles of sweat on the floor and having to peel off the workout clothes afterwards -- now THAT'S sexy.
  • indycello
    indycello Posts: 147 Member
    I feel attractive when my boobs look good in a shirt. Weird I know... but my breasts are my best asset! I also feel good when i do my hair up nice and put on a tasteful amount of make up.

    DH is kind of inept in the complement department but sometimes he does let me know when I'm wearing something he thinks looks hot. I like to know he thinks I'm hot. When I know he thinks I look good I feel like the sexiest woman in the world.

    <3
  • beccalucy
    beccalucy Posts: 250 Member
    I shall be checking back here, despite currently being in the normal BMI range (21.3) I still rarely feel attractive
  • Legalchica
    Legalchica Posts: 462
    When my Girls (who are 7, 5 and 5) tell me I'm beautiful :) Nothing like it!!
  • tinywithaBIGheart
    tinywithaBIGheart Posts: 148
    Watch food network , like the sweet shows . Watching them eat it makes me feel better and just counting there calories in my head , WOAH ( expecially paula deen ):tongue:
  • hanna1210
    hanna1210 Posts: 286 Member
    Wearing a good pair of heels. I love my legs and they make them look a-mazing (at least to me!:smooched: ) Also, a good pair of jeans does wonders. And when I really need to achieve something - mascara. It's amazing what that little bottle can accomplish :wink:
  • MJKing2
    MJKing2 Posts: 177
    Either when I am very happy with my outfit choice for the day or when I get compliments from..well anyone! Ha. As bad as that may sound, if I know that someone else thinks I look good that gives me enough confidence to look past my flaws and see my good attributes.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I walk through the house in my undies and my husband's reaction is enough to make me feel attractive. Since he sees this every morning when I'm getting dressed you'd think he be oblivious to it by now, but he never fails to have the appropriate response.
  • ChitownFoodie
    ChitownFoodie Posts: 1,562 Member
    I still dont really know the answer to this question, but sometimes I feel attractive when I buy a new outfit that looks good on me. Then again, I have a nasty habit of buying clothes that are too big or hide me.
  • jackshortstack
    jackshortstack Posts: 19 Member
    I put on a shirt that makes my skin and cheeks glow (I'm blonde & fair, so the color is peach) and a pair of dark trouser jeans. Knowing people are looking at my fresh, beautiful face and smile instead of my body (on days I'm feeling bloated) makes SUCH a difference!

    Buy yourself a couple tops in this signature color and reach for them on these 'down days'. You'll feel like a million bucks in 30 seconds!
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I give myself a makeover...

    I wash my face then mask. Husband calls it my kabooki mask b/c it's white. Then I shower to rinse it off and use yummy smelling body wash and shave my legs. Then I use emollient cream on my feet, and exfoliant on my hands, regular lotion on the rest of my body, that matches the yummy smelling body wash. I blow dry my hair, play with makeup, pick out a cute outfit...and voila. I may have nowhere to go, but I look fabulous and feel 1000% better. I'm such a girl.....
  • dixedreg
    dixedreg Posts: 276 Member
    Hang out with uglier people.

    HAHA yes...this!
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