LESS Alcohol ~ MAY 2024 ~ One Day at A Time

@Womona Good luck to you husband for the interview, and have fun checking out the area.
@NonnieDoiron so happy to hear your MIL is in a better place, it sounds like your off to great start for this month!

May:
AF: 1
A: 0

Last month I wanted 50% AF - I almost made it with 16A and 14AF, so it was about 47%.
This month I'm shooting for 60% which means I need about 18-19 days AF out of the 31.

I was pretty successful with my extra challenge of no after-dinner snacking last month, so I think I'll try a new one this month. I really need to get back into a regular exercise routine, so I think my challenge for this month will be to do some type of exercise every day. Even if it's only 10-15 minutes of yoga or walking as opposed to a pre scheduled gym session, it's still movement, so I'm going to be kind to myself and count even those small bits.

@SunnyDays930 I think I was like your family with my rottie that had to be put down. I just couldn’t do it. My husband had to do it. Then, he came home and cried like a baby. With our cocker/lab mix, we both went after she collapsed in the yard. That poor sweet thing was ready to go. She had already beaten cancer, but she was just really old. We both cried! I’ll keep praying for your strength and courage.

@globalhiker I agree with your reward philosophy. I need to find “the thing” for my reward that won’t make my husband lock up his wallet! 🤣🤣🤣

AF = 2
A = 0

No wine in the house.

I made some egg muffins today that turned out amazing! I had 1, my son with autism had one and said it tasted like pizza, and hubby had 4 and said I could make more. 🤣🤣 The best part… only 154 calories per muffin!

How DARE you @NonnieDoiron give us such photos of those tempting muffins...without a recipie ?? Possibly spinach/Mozzarella/ sun dried tomato ??
Please please please ?? 👩‍🍳
Your MIL's transfer to a new facility must give you-her-the rest of her family such comfort. Please keep on being her advocate as she navigates her new reality.
And don't forget to advocate for YOURSELF as you try to go forward on your "Less Alcohol" journey.

"No wine in the house "...Great choice. I just got a shipment today of @ 30 bottles of wine. Should carry me through til well into the next year with my current record of abstinence for long periods, then a bottle a night for a few days .
🤦 Guess which habit I should ditch ??

globalhiker wrote: »

@SunnyDays930 sending you big hugs and strength! You also inspire me with the way you are remaining committed to self-care during this time. I had to put my very ill 15 y.o. lab mix down a few years ago and I handled it on behalf of the family. They thanked me for handling it but I carried a heavier share of the grief load or so it felt. I haven't gotten a new puppy yet, but maybe it's time and that is what I need to "move on".

Commiserating with all of you that had to make that decision. I had to put my 6 year old English Bulldog down almost 2 years ago now. I also handled all the details and suffered most of the grief, but it was well earned because I was her person. I swore I'd never have another dog because I didn't want to go through that again. Fast forward a couple of months and the house just felt so empty. On a wine whim one night I filled out an application to rescue an English Bulldog from the Florida rescue group. Long story short, a month later we rescued a 5 year old girl, Princess, who had been used for puppies and discarded when she was used up. She's my girl and I am her person and it was the best "wine" decision I ever made...lol.

We're going to dinner with friends tonight and instead of fooling myself into thinking I'm not going to drink, I'm planning to have a glass or two with a side of club soda to stretch it out.

Still have not had a drink at home since March 29. I almost caved last night for no reason other than my SO was going out and I used to just sit and drink a bottle of wine and binge my shows while he was gone. I still did that...just with sparkling water.

Happy Friday, everyone!

AF = 2
A = 0

Happy May Everyone! I am going to try to post daily this month, not sure how that is going to go but we'll see. Not the greatest start to the month for me. I drank my less alcohol beer last night but had too many! Luckily, it is early in the month so plenty of time to turn things around.

It is a challenge for me to keep up with everyone's posts but I do relate to the loss of precious pets, and managing care for aging parents. Life is hard sometimes. It's great to have a welcoming place to express these feelings and get support. Kudos to all of those who are showing up for their loved ones, including the furry ones, and for themselves here.

1 AF
1 A

Goal for May: 18 AF

I think someone else said they are going on a cruise this month. I will be going to Alaska at the end of the month. To make the lowest cost drink package worthwhile, I would have to drink 6-7 beers daily. I don't think I could do that even if I wanted to! So, no drink package for me. I'm glad Iooked into it before purchasing.

Thanks to @MissMay for keeping this community up and running!

Hi, MFP LA pals. You guys are so inspirational!

Thank you, @MissMay, for the May thread.

@Womona hope the interview and visit were fantastic and you have a horribly difficult decision to make between 2 great options. With your sailing, tennis and golf activities, you certainly will make new friends and have a great social circle in no time if you guys go for it!

@SunnyDays930 much lament for the pup angst. I feel you, sis. I kinda had the opposite situation where DH was mad when I came home with the dog alive because he thought it was time and the vet thought "salvage drugs" (prednisone) could buy a few more good days. It's hard and it hurts. I agree with the poster (sorry I don't remember who, but you're wise!) who said you will know when it's time. It's just a rough patch of road.

@michleib I love your garden spruce up reunion energy. What fun stuff you have planned! You go! I appreciate your thought process on balancing moderation with enjoying fine wine, so thanks for putting that out there.

@itladyee Glad seeing you and admire your 1A/week goal. Ima gonna give that a think. My weekends have not been going well, and that may be the reframe I need.

@NonnieDoiron and @forestdweller1 you guys are cracking me up with the yummy egg muffins.

I'm leaving out a bunch of you guys -- new and old. I read all your posts and appreciated them. Thank you. I'm re-swizzling where I spend energy, and candidly, I do not have it figured out. Unforeseen family events have created a lot of tumult and work short term, but they're changes I think ultimately are good. Starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel on my friend's estate which has been so much more work that expected. I am so sad about it. I'm not sure whether dealing with it forces me to process all the feelings faster or if dealing with it every day is just more occasions for feeling sad. I dunno. On the one hand I need accountability as much as ever, and on the other I have less time and energy for it. Have you guys heard the expression, "I resist most that which I need most"?

Anywhoo, I just booked a beach long weekend with DD#2 and although I'm in my weight maintenance range, I will feel a little more confident in my way too small for my age swimsuits if I lose 3 lb. I need 6 weeks and I have 7 weeks.

goal:
M-Th AF
F-Su <2 ... but I may try @itladyee 's plan