Any idea how I can make my husbnd healthy? LMAO!

Don't worry about it until he starts to look like he eats that stuff. Healthier for your marriage.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. It's not your responsibilty to make him healthy. You're not his mama

I havent pushed my husband at all because it has the opposite effect on him. I've found that by just eating healthy myself and the kids, loosing weight and just feeling good he is now starting to want to do the same. He's slowly cut out soda, takes an apple to work etc. I think leading by example is the best way because you cant make them change but you can make them want to. Good Luck

My husband sounds similar so I don't bring the junk into the house. If it's not there, he won't eat it unless he makes the special trip to the store to get it (which he does sometimes). I keep some lo-fat ice cream in the freezer to satisfy his sweet tooth after dinner. If he doesn't like the healthy meal I cook at least he won't tell me as to not to hurt my feelings. I can't control what he does for lunch, but he's a big boy and I like to think my healthy habits are starting to rub off on him.

Mine too. Remember, they have to reach the point that they want it, if they don't want it, then we are just nagging them. He says he wants to, goes to the gym with me a few times and then goes and eats 1/2 pint of ben and jerry's ice cream. He joined here, but alls he does is log his weights, thinks tracking won't work for him...*sigh* His choice, I can't make him do it. I've talked to him about it, but he doesn't want it bad enough yet.

That being said, my husband knows that if I'm making dinner, and there's rice, it's gonna be brown rice. He doesn't like it, he can make his own (he never goes out of the way to make his own rice). So yeah, tweak his food a little, slip in some veggies, start serving salads with dinner (before the main dish hits the table) tell him you want dinner to feel more special, like you're on a date at a restaurant, or something, if he ask why you're doing it. Choose smaller meat portions that take up 1/3 the plate and serve with two cooked veggie sides or one extra large veggie side(I like stir-fried green beans). When you grill, replace his potato chip portion of the plate with some roasted red potatoes, grilled asparagus or and ear of corn. He may notice the difference, but with the right recipe he might not mind.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

You can't push someone into healthier habits without the use of abject humiliation, which is probably better left for his friends to do than his spouse. It's difficult to have these conversations between husband and wife.

To a much greater extreme, I tried to have a conversation like this with my ex-wife once. Read, ex-wife. She was REALLY letting herself go, and was tipping the scales around two-thirty when I finally decided to speak up. Now, I was no Adonis, but her physical condition was really affecting the marriage. I tried to couch it as gently as I could, citing health concerns and a want, on my part, to live a longer and healthier life with her. I knew the jig was up when she blurted out, "So you think I'm fat."

In retrospect, I should have said, "There's no thinking about it," but I digress.

To this day she doesn't take care of herself. She's gotten bigger and unhealthier. So there's only so much you can do for other people.

I say control the meals you can and try to live as an example. As unpopular a statement as this might be it's true but, wives trying to change their husbands... eh, not a great idea.

Well, from experience DON'T NAG!!! That being said. It took a trip to the doctors for my husband to finally get on board with the changes that I had made in my life. ( He does nothing 1/2 way) So it was like a mini tornado went through the pantry and fridge and took out only the processed, sugary, high fat foods. That was at the end of May he is now down 55 lbs. He's lost in four months what it took me a year to do!! (little jealous) SO VERY PROUD OF HIM!!
It's been a total lifestyle change for us!
I would say, Keep doing what your doing and eventually hopefully he'll see how amazing you look and feel. And want to join with you on this new healthier lifestyle

Don't worry about it until he starts to look like he eats that stuff. Healthier for your marriage.

hmmmm......this is the problem with many people in that they think its okay to eat this stuff because it has not affected their health yet---IT WILL!!!!!!!!!!!! so why wait until then ?????? Good grief, just get rid of the junk in the home and stop buying it!!!!

Married for 23 years

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do not tell him, nag him or suggest to him. Just don't buy the food and tell him, it was your decision.

I cook healthy meals and He eats just about anything as long as you dont tell him its healthy foods he dosent know i quit using salt in our meals about a month ago

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. It's not your responsibilty to make him healthy. You're not his mama

This disturbs me a bit - in a marriage it's our responsibility to look out for the welfare of our spouses (on both sides), in a sensitive and caring way of course.

He's a grown man, you can give advice, but it's not your job to tell him what to do. At least that's the way it works in our marriage. We don't try to control each other, and I think that's healthy.

Well damn. I wrote this post to ask for some encouragement and not discouragement and negativity from you guys. Awesome. Thanks for the help. NOT

It's not negativity, it's reality. Advice isn't what you want to hear, or it wouldn't be advice. It's not your place to "make him healthy."

After reading the whole thread I think mostly everyone here was helpful in the advice they gave, not negative. Anywho, I know from experience that my significant other followed my lead. Once I started taking care of myself, he became interested in it. He's not 100% there yet...but he is picking up on my good habits

exactly...lead by example