WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2024

skuehn48 · November 26

Well stiĺl no heat and when we plugged in another space heater it blew the breaker for all the outlets in one part of the house and it will not reset. Apparently we need a new breaker. I am truely ready for this year to be over. Between the tenant from Hades at the beginning of the year and now this I need a new beginning.

Carol - hope your DH recovers quickly.

Tracy - thinking good thoughts for you.

Everyone take care, Sue in WA

Machka9 · November 26

dlfk202000 wrote: »

LisaInArkansas wrote: »

Happy Monday, my dears,

On the subject of dealing with emotions or holding them in, yeah it doesn't do me any good to hold things in. Most of my emotions might as well be written on my forehead in big black letters, as I'm terribly transparent. I don't hold things back. Ever. There's just no point. I do try to hold onto the more negative ones long enough to phrase them well, but if it's in my head, it's generally out my mouth shortly afterward.

I tried squashing down my feelings in my first marriage, and ended up in teary meltdowns about every other year. He promised to do better, or differently, and I blamed myself and suffered in silence for the next couple years, then erupted again. I don't do that anymore. It didn't save my first marriage, and I refused to go into this marriage doing the same things and hoping for different results. It's worked so far.

If there is anything that Corey and I do well for our relationship, it's almost always because one or both of us did it badly with our previous marriages. I also figured out that saying what needs saying quickly, without letting it fester, made for a much less stressful dialogue than waiting for a year or two. No meltdowns if I go ahead and say what's on my mind soon. Not always fun, but better than a knock-down, drag-out, all-out battle.

Hope it is or was a lovely Monday for everyone,
Cheers,
Lisa in AR

The one thing I am very terrible at is speaking up and telling how I am feeling- Have always been something I just kept to myself. I think, one of these days it is all going to come out and boy will he be shocked.

I always say, I am like Rex from Toy Story- I don't like confrontation.
But, not speaking up from the beginning has led to him just treating me any way he wants and not seeing that there is a problem. I have talked to him a few times, says it will change but it doesnt.
It is hard to speak my opinion when the few times I try, if it is not in agreement with him, he tells me how wrong I am.

Glad I get a break for a bit this evening- have class.

Chat with you later.

I get louder if I am told that I am wrong for feeling the way I do.

And although normally I have a huge personal space area around me and I get cranky if anyone comes into my personal space, when I feel I am not being heard, my personal space opens up and I not only speak loudly, I speak it pretty much nose to nose.

The first words out of my mouth are usually along the lines of "You have no right to speak to me that way."

Machka in Oz

Machka9 · November 26

Machka9 wrote: »

dlfk202000 wrote: »

LisaInArkansas wrote: »

Happy Monday, my dears,

On the subject of dealing with emotions or holding them in, yeah it doesn't do me any good to hold things in. Most of my emotions might as well be written on my forehead in big black letters, as I'm terribly transparent. I don't hold things back. Ever. There's just no point. I do try to hold onto the more negative ones long enough to phrase them well, but if it's in my head, it's generally out my mouth shortly afterward.

I tried squashing down my feelings in my first marriage, and ended up in teary meltdowns about every other year. He promised to do better, or differently, and I blamed myself and suffered in silence for the next couple years, then erupted again. I don't do that anymore. It didn't save my first marriage, and I refused to go into this marriage doing the same things and hoping for different results. It's worked so far.

If there is anything that Corey and I do well for our relationship, it's almost always because one or both of us did it badly with our previous marriages. I also figured out that saying what needs saying quickly, without letting it fester, made for a much less stressful dialogue than waiting for a year or two. No meltdowns if I go ahead and say what's on my mind soon. Not always fun, but better than a knock-down, drag-out, all-out battle.

Hope it is or was a lovely Monday for everyone,
Cheers,
Lisa in AR

The one thing I am very terrible at is speaking up and telling how I am feeling- Have always been something I just kept to myself. I think, one of these days it is all going to come out and boy will he be shocked.

I always say, I am like Rex from Toy Story- I don't like confrontation.
But, not speaking up from the beginning has led to him just treating me any way he wants and not seeing that there is a problem. I have talked to him a few times, says it will change but it doesnt.
It is hard to speak my opinion when the few times I try, if it is not in agreement with him, he tells me how wrong I am.

Glad I get a break for a bit this evening- have class.

Chat with you later.

I get louder if I am told that I am wrong for feeling the way I do.

And although normally I have a huge personal space area around me and I get cranky if anyone comes into my personal space, when I feel I am not being heard, my personal space opens up and I not only speak loudly, I speak it pretty much nose to nose.

The first words out of my mouth are usually along the lines of "You have no right to speak to me that way."

Machka in Oz

Heh!

I'm like a cat in battle mode! Fortunately, I don't do that very often. I don't feel like I need to.

TerriRichardson112 · November 26

Good morning, all.

Had a good session at Monday Painters. I’m working on portraits with my learners.

Today I have Craft. My friend M had her hip done 3 weeks ago and I will collect her as she isn’t driving yet.

I’ve order my turkey and gammon for Christmas, but that’s about it so far for prep. We did discuss it on Sunday with DED. She’s hosting this year again. It’s really the best plan as her 3 will be home for Christmas, and it makes sense to go there.
It’s only small token gifts, so won’t be too onerous.

🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

Machka9 · November 26

kevrit wrote: »

SophieRosieMom wrote: »

Lisa - sure hope you are doing better today. Hearing about you hauling 8' boards in your car reminded me I might need to get a couple 8' 1x2's at Home Depot for the chicken run. They fit just fine in the Subaru too.

Rita - what type of exercises is the PT having you do for your back? Bridging? My lower back is still grumpy and I even took an ibuprofen when I went to bed. Did my bridging and stretching yesterday which did help a bit.

Tracey - those plates are a hoot. Glad you sold some items at the show and that's a nice Christmas decoration you found. Good luck at today's show.

Sue - hope your power is back on.

Vicki - thinking of you!

Lanette
SW WA State

I put pictures of the back exercises I have in a spoiler. Therapy has been doing mostly massage then a ‘tinge’ unit or dry needles with electricity. I did show them the pictures in the spoiler and they said that Yoga was the best thing for the back. The pictures I have included were fine. Stretching and strengthening the back muscles are the best exercises for the back. There are plenty of YouTube videos on back exercises too, I was told. I just use my yoga app called “Yoga for Weight Loss” which has a yoga set specifically for the back. I am very flexible and been doing Yoga right along so I do the last ones on the right (hardest ones) but the ones on the left are the easiest. Ignore the “Osteo-whatever” on the top. They are good for all back issues,(unless your doctor tells you otherwise. Mine said go for it)

RVRita in Roswell

I do a lot of those from time to time.

Love the Tree pose ... learned it in Yoga classes.

And I learned several of the others in Pilates classes.

Machka in Oz

ginnytez · November 26

Michele-I think it depends upon the actual type of ablation. It has been a medical procedure for a number of years-it depends upon the type they are performing-they are constantly coming up with enhancements. I have several friends who have benefited from the over the years.

I think sometimes I don't speak up because I am afraid that somehow the issue is really my faith. Women tend to take on guilt unnecessarily I think. I am slowly improving, but I like to evaluate my own role in a situation first.

The flying monkeys-I don't recall being over scared of them-especially after the first couple of viewings. Will probably watch Wicked when it hits one of the streaming channels.

Sue-hope you get your heating issues fixed soon. It does seem like we have all had "one of those years."

Terri-pork has always been one of my favorite meats but I don't think I have every tried a gammon. We have always used the precooked hams here. I think for gammon I need an uncooked ham?

Christmas

Got Christmas list from oldest GD last night-she puts everything in the world on it. I also have been told she would like $$ so I will just pick two of the things on the list. I am also gifting her pearl necklace and earrings this year (a hand me down from my SIL who passed). Her mother wore them her wedding to my son as the something borrowed. I am saving blue topaz I have for Luna since we both celebrate November birthdays. I have earrings from my husband and necklace her father bought me. I'm not planning on departing anytime soon-but I want to see the look on Layla's face when she opens them and I don't wear them much at all. Still like the topaz though! Not sure about Layla's brother or my other three grandsons (need their list). Adults not getting so much.

Working from home today (usual day) and tomorrow. Wednesday morning I get stitches out of head and I know I will want to come home and give my head a really good shampoo. I have a teams meeting in afternoon so a mainly desk work day.

Off to get stretches complete. That 30-45 minutes does seem to be such a great way to start my day. Think I will also take a walk on my lunch hour today.

Take care all

1948CWB · November 26

I admire all of you who have started your Christmas shopping as no Christmas shopping has been done here yet! Waiting for the two grands lists and will start next week. I think they will be coming over on Wednesday to get our old tree up from the basement which will be a great help! Last year we didn't even decorate it...just enjoyed the lights and the angel on top!

I am another one who has a difficult time speaking up to air my grievances! My husband is a master at turning everything I say into me attacking him and me being in the wrong. I am working on trying to just Let Go & Let God!

Carol in GA

cityjaneLondon · November 26

The tree outside my bedroom window is turning at last!!! Beautiful.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

pipcd34 · November 26

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barbiecat · November 26

It has been my experience that airing my grievances accomplishes nothing. Venting doesn't make me feel better and trying to improve or control someone else never works. I take care of myself and rely on gratitude as a spiritual practice. This has served me well.

Barbie

barbiecat · November 26

LisaInArkansas · November 26

Morning, kidlings, from the sunny, freezing temps of the Arkansas River Valley...

Hope it is/was/will be a good day for everyone. I slept well after I finally went to sleep around midnight, but had a strange dream about skin tags. Got up, and removing the same things was one of the first ads that scrolled by, mixed in with the news. Very weird, but oddly enough, not unexpected! 😲👀😵‍💫 I probably saw an ad yesterday with it, just didn't consciously hold onto the memory of it.

Busy day ahead. Halfway through the dusting and surface tidying, took a break to talk to y'all and absorb a little more coffee. Once I'm done with you, will get the rest of the dusting done and then head down the hill to pick up a couple things. Then back home to clean floors as necessary, including the sunroom, which I usually resolutely ignore, and which we've taken to calling "Corey's office."

Warning: Squirrel (Distraction) Ahead:

In that vein, my craft/art/sewing room has gone back to being "Lisa's office." (OK, both of them are "my office" or "your office" when we speak to each other, but still...) When we moved here, it was labeled as a dining room, which we don't need, as we have a table in the kitchen. But English language room naming is so weird when you think about it.

A bedroom has a bed in it, a bathroom sometimes has a bathtub, sometimes not, but a toilet always has a toilet. But then there's a kitchen. Why not a "stove room?" Or a "sink room?" Then there are dining and living rooms, which have verbs instead of "table room" or "couch room." Which if we followed that train of thought would mean we'd have sleeping rooms, cooking rooms, pooping rooms, and so on. And then there's a "mud room," which doesn't fit any of it.

Living rooms, on the other hand, used to be "parlors" which comes from the French parlour to speak, which was generated from the monasteries, which had the one speaking room where monks who'd taken a vow of silence had leave to speak when absolutely necessary. So a parlour was a speaking room. Now it's a watching room or a reading room. We won't even talk about porches (from the Latin for passage), or verandas (from Hindi for railing) for the posh. And the word closet originally came from the Latin for "small," which opens up a whole 'nother can of worms. Such an odd language.

Thus endeth today's squirrel.

OK, now that I've got that out of my system... time to get a few things done. I've given up on creating anything this week. I have to get "the guests are coming" stuff done before I can clear my mental decks that much. Ah well. This too will pass, and it will be wonderful to see our son, it's been months.

Thanksgiving should be a lovely day, in the end. Right now, the menu is ham, sausage and chicken on the grill (Corey will deal with all of that), pinto beans and cornbread (which I'll make), and the concoction I made up yesterday with chicken as a side dish. It turned out great, and basically is like stuffing on steroids - or dressing, as we called it growing up. The kids are bringing potato salad, and I'll make some pecan pie bars with a shortbread crust. The recipe I found turned out really well, and that was Corey's request. My family don't eat a lot of sweets, so that should satisfy everyone who actually wants anything. We so seldom have a sit-down dinner, it feels odd to even think of it. This one will definitely be down home country fare. Yummy, not fussy.

Later,
Love y'all,
Lisa

margaretturk · November 26

I had a lovely time with my friend at lunch. She gave me a present of a dancing Flamingo. I found a perfect spot on my tree next to one of the flamingo lights...

Barbie I understand what you mean. I know there have been times I have over vented and it adds to my thoughts getting caught in a bad place. I do sometimes think it helps if it helps me put something in perspective so that I can move on. One of the reasons I tried to show flowers and scenes from nature especially on Facebook was for me a way of showing my gratitude. Now on Facebook I only share from sites I trust and my own photos.

kevrit · November 26

dlfk202000 wrote: »

LisaInArkansas wrote: »

Happy Monday, my dears,

On the subject of dealing with emotions or holding them in, yeah it doesn't do me any good to hold things in. Most of my emotions might as well be written on my forehead in big black letters, as I'm terribly transparent. I don't hold things back. Ever. There's just no point. I do try to hold onto the more negative ones long enough to phrase them well, but if it's in my head, it's generally out my mouth shortly afterward.

I tried squashing down my feelings in my first marriage, and ended up in teary meltdowns about every other year. He promised to do better, or differently, and I blamed myself and suffered in silence for the next couple years, then erupted again. I don't do that anymore. It didn't save my first marriage, and I refused to go into this marriage doing the same things and hoping for different results. It's worked so far.

If there is anything that Corey and I do well for our relationship, it's almost always because one or both of us did it badly with our previous marriages. I also figured out that saying what needs saying quickly, without letting it fester, made for a much less stressful dialogue than waiting for a year or two. No meltdowns if I go ahead and say what's on my mind soon. Not always fun, but better than a knock-down, drag-out, all-out battle.

Hope it is or was a lovely Monday for everyone,
Cheers,
Lisa in AR

The one thing I am very terrible at is speaking up and telling how I am feeling- Have always been something I just kept to myself. I think, one of these days it is all going to come out and boy will he be shocked.

I always say, I am like Rex from Toy Story- I don't like confrontation.
But, not speaking up from the beginning has led to him just treating me any way he wants and not seeing that there is a problem. I have talked to him a few times, says it will change but it doesnt.
It is hard to speak my opinion when the few times I try, if it is not in agreement with him, he tells me how wrong I am.

Glad I get a break for a bit this evening- have class.

Chat with you later.

Growing up was tough with a lot of confrontation. My first marriage was also a ton of confrontation, some of it physical in both situations. Today, I HATE confrontation so hold everything in. I haven’t cried in over 20 years, just mope about. Explains the 3 meds from my psychiatrist. I still get depressed due to life’s stressors and not expressing my feelings enough. Puts me in the mood I’m in of late.

RVRita

kevrit · November 26

LOL it is ironic! I just watched The Wizard of Oz a couple days ago! They cut so much out, I was disappointed. The whole scene after the witch melts where the guards sing “Ding Dong, the Wicked Witch is Dead” was cut out of it! I’ve seen it so many times I can say the dialogue and sing the songs right along with the characters. DH and I had fun saying things before the characters did> Silly of us. I had a dog, a shi-tzu mix who loved this movie. He was the only animal I ever had that loved to sit and actually watch TV! The first time he saw this movie, he went ballistic every time the flying monkeys came on. He would bark at them when he saw them, then stare at the screen and watch for them to show up! Makes me wonder what he was thinking…..

Bought a live Christmas tree yesterday. My grocery store had them inside and included a string of lights and decorations with the tree, all for only $19! Perfect size for our RV and will grow. My first RV houseplant! At the top of the picture with the lights off you can see my Alexa Echo device that looks like Jack from Nightmare Before Christmas. We love silly things! It came in after Halloween, but it is still cool at any time. You can also see some of DH’s mess. His scanner and vape are below the tree on the left. I hate both! See if you can find Batman hanging around in the pictures! And a UFO!

RVRita in Roswell

kevrit · November 26

Today is an ironic day Anti-obesity AND cake day!

RVRita

1948CWB · November 26

Rita ~ the tree is cute!

cityjaneLondon · November 26

My son is going to Louisville on Saturday for a long business trip with 10 colleagues from his drinks company. They've been invited by a bourbon company they do business with. Unfortunately, my son doesn't drink! He is in charge of the AF section of the company.
But he's really looking forward to it. Flying to Atlanta then changing.

It means we won't get a lift home next week, but we can have a beer at the boutique brewery and dinner at Shandiz. Hooray!

IMHO there is a huge difference between asserting yourself and useless venting. People literally make themselves ill by keeping so much locked inside. Boundaries are the key to a peaceful life. If you feel unhappy about something, then don't 'gaslight' yourself by telling
yourself it's nothing and you just need to get over it. Anger is a useful sign to yourself that something is wrong. Sort out the wrong thing.
No one should be living with disrespect, or being taken advantage of.
Our body knows the score. Your responses are valid. Listen to them.
Trust yourself.

Looking forward to our painting session tomorrow. 😀

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

LisaInArkansas · November 26

Heather - I'll let you and Barbie hash that one out. I think it's a question of language, really. If something that Corey does makes me happy, I say that. If he does something that makes me unhappy, I say that, too. I don't consider that "venting," I see it as working at my relationship. Please note, more than one behavior on his part HAS changed due to me sharing what was happening and why it was hurting or upsetting me. Corey can't read my mind. If he doesn't know something upsets me, he has no reason to change the behavior (not himself, note, just the behavior).

Don't forget though, I also tell him what he does that makes me happy, so he will hopefully keep doing that thing. I encourage him to tell me similar things, but he's not terribly verbal. I do read him reasonably well, so I try to react the way I'd want him to react to me. However, my childhood left me oversensitive to anger in men, and I know it. His first marriage left him with the same oversensitivity to women's anger (bipolar ex-wife). It makes for some interesting interactions where we're both reassuring the other that we're NOT angry...

Sue - So sorry you still don't have heat. Not a good situation to be in.

Rita - Never could find Batman, though I saw Jack and the UFO.

Floors are DONE. Everything has been vacuumed, and I wet mopped the hard floors. The whole house smells good. Well, except me. I need to take a shower! 👀😝😸 Cleaned the bathroom top to bottom, and all the rugs that could be put in the washer went in, are dried and back on the floors... Tomorrow is laundry and the little bit of do-ahead baking I want to do.

Today, I have done as much as I have the energy to do, and every joint is hurting like stink. Seeing my primary in mid-December, and will see what my options are - I want to go to a different ortho, though. The one who did the knee replacement looked at the scans, said there was nothing wrong with it and shrugged when I asked, "then why does it hurt so bad?" I need some answers, and it's time I get them. Walking is... quite painful and has been for some time. Getting quite frustrated with it.

Oh, and I finally got an appointment with the gastroenterologist, after the VA backed and filled a couple times. Now that the hospital shut down their gastro department, I'm going back to the same doctor, but in private practice. I'll be seeing him the Friday before Christmas. Should be (hopefully) just a check in and come back in six months, but we'll see. Need to find out if he takes Medicare, too. Next year is going to be verrrry interesting.

Gonna hit the showers, my chickens,
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR

barbiecat · November 26

As the days get shorter and the nights get longer and colder in the Northern Hemisphere, I am reminded of a favorite quote

Machka9 · November 26

I agree with Heather and Lisa ... none of us are mind readers and all of us have the right to say what we think and what we're feeling.

Like Lisa I tell my husband when I am proud of him and when I like something. I thank him when he does things around the house and garden. And I tell him if I don't like something.

He does the same with me.

Only rarely does the negative side escalate and if it does, we're usually both hungry, tired and/or stressed.

I stormed off in an airport recently because he was having a meltdown and letting me know I was doing everything wrong but wouldn't listen to what I was saying. So I told him to stay with the bags and marched off ... right to a sandwich shop where I bought us both sandwiches. We ate them in silence, a little distance apart, and we were all right then. A little space to think about the situation and what each other was saying plus food.

Fortunately neither of us drinks alcohol because that would only make things worse!

I wouldn't stay in a relationship if I couldn't express myself.

Machka in Oz

pipcd34 · November 26

Stats for the day-

Walk w/family- 1hr 26min 37sec, 34elev, 2.96ap, 10056steps, 80ahr, 100mhr, 4.28mi= 415c
Strava app = 519c
Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 1hr 3min 30sec, 305elev, 106aw, 19amph, gear31, 102ahr, 123mhr, 20.12mi= 356c
Strava app = 384c
Zwift stats- 1hr3min 42sec, 308elev, 105aw, 49arpm, 18.93amph, 20.1mi= 384c
Walk home to hair appointment n bk- 13.39min 1598steps 3.37ap, .76mi= 63c
Strava app = 93c

Total cal 834

680680

dlfk202000 · November 26

exermom wrote: »

Deb – got the package today. Vince has looked on the internet for at least a picture of it and he can’t find anything. Guess he’ll keep looking and I’ll search, too as soon as I get a chance. Thank you very much. I’ll send you a check for the postage shortly

Off to shower and then probably bed.

Michele NC

https://www.ebay.com/itm/395031642364?_trkparms=amclksrc=ITM&aid=777008&algo=PERSONAL.TOPIC&ao=1&asc=20240130164827&meid=3ebf15ae49434569bf15892a1de8347a&pid=101959&rk=1&rkt=1&itm=395031642364&pmt=0&noa=1&pg=4375194&algv=RecentlyViewedItemsV2WithMLRPbooster_BP&brand=Unbranded&_trksid=p4375194.c101959.m146925&_trkparms=parentrq:6aa4fa771930a6f0e163d64efffe5926|pageci:e006ebdc-ac47-11ef-948b-c6ba9308a758|iid:1|vlpname:vlp_homepage

this is the only one I could find now. I don't know if that is the exact one. I can't find the original one that I found before.
I think I found it by searching the label that I included in the box. The other one I saw was full size, the one in this picture are small ones.

Tell Vince- GOOD LUCK.

DH does price changes at his store and he tells me some of the crazy increases he has seen week to week.

grandmallie · November 26

Phew Finally had a heck of a time trying to get on here..

Delia got an early Christmas present,this little girl is a hoot...went and got my hair cut.

So im set for the holidays..

exermom · November 27

Worked today and the store mgr asked me to work tomorrow (my usual day off). She has to go to a meeting and I believe the asst. mgr (who I think probably does a little prep when I’m not there) is on vacation. I probably won’t give them as many tomatoes as that’s something that you want fresh. Everything else can hold a day or two without going bad. So it looks like I won’t get to exercise tomorrow. But at least I get to Thurs.

I made a baked ziti for Jess and Colby and Vince that we’ll probably have on Thursday since we’re having our TG on Friday. What they don’t know (and I won’t tell) is that instead of ground beef, I’m using some of the Impossible Burgers I got from BK. Then started the apple pie for TG. I was just going to peel the apples, but it looks like I’ll bake it and leave it in the fridge.

Helped Vince put lights on the arches. Now I’m going to let the pie bake and go help him probably with the cross pieces. Update: Got at least one side of the arches done, still need to do the other side and the top.

Ginny – yes, you’re right, it has to do with the type of ablation. Vince had one a few years ago for his Wolf Parkinson White syndrome and hasn’t had any problem since then.,

Rita – cute tree

Sue – I hope your heat gets fixed fast

Lisa – you poor dear. I remember when you used to run all the time! I hate that my foot hurts so much so I can just imagine the pain/frustration you are feeling

Deb – Vince said he found a lot of pictures like this, but none had a clue about putting it together. I would think he’ll work on it – he likes challenges. Thank you very much

Michele NC

pipcd34 · November 27

Our room for the cruise

https://youtu.be/X-yTbvEAd-4

grandmallie · November 27

Lovely Heather,you have a wake view..that will be nice..

Snowflake1968 · November 27

Sue - I hope you get your heat issues all fixed soon. It sure has been a tough year.

Machka - I used to hold things in too long and then explode, thankfully I haven’t gotten to that point in a few years. I probably still hold it in too long but I’m better at letting it out.

Barbie - I don’t think we can fix anyone but ourselves. I don’t know why I thought DH would follow through on the ornaments this year. He hasn’t wanted to do them the last couple years. I thought that since it was his idea this year to do markets he would have I guess.

Lisa - my eldest daughter sends me random texts like your squirrel posting on the English language. I love getting them from her and wonder what she is reading or doing when she goes down her merry little path.
In saying all of that I sent it to her, here is her response.

“English is like 2 languages wearing a trench coat beat up a bunch of other languages for bits and pieces and someone wrote it all down and called it a language”

Margaret - You reminded me, for about 2 years I posted a positive post every night before I went to bed. Some were gratitude quotes, some were funny, some was just a positive thought. I should get back to that.

Rita - What a cute tree! I didn’t grow up with raised voices or confrontation. Rodger did and he actually shuts down more than I do.

Pip - the cabin looks cozy and comfy.

Rodger made three wood lathes snowmen this summer. I am trying to figure out how to dress them up for the sale this weekend. I am trying to make a felt top hat. I think I need to go at it again tomorrow night, my idea came too late tonight.

It’s only 915 but I think I’ll head to bed. I am so very tired this week.
Tracey in Edmonton

skuehn48 · November 27

Machka9 · November 27

I was raised to stand up for myself ... get my facts together or be able to clearly articulate my feelings, and let 'em have it. Along the lines of putting together a business proposal or law case.
I even did that with my father when I was about 14.5 and wanted to get my Learners Licence, along the lines of, "You keep saying I am too young, but I say ...". He turned to my mother and said, "How am I supposed to argue with that?" and I had my Learner's Licence when I turned 15.

Over the past few years, my mentor at work has been teaching me to ask for what I want even when it doesn't seem likely I'll get it. I have done just that and have been astounded at what I have been able to negotiate.

I have most definitely learned that if you don't ask, if you don't explain, if you don't say what is on your mind ... it's unlikely you'll get what you want.

Machka in Oz

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