stress eating

When you become married its technically both your money and things.
I wonder why hes feeling that he has nothing while you have things.

I don't know him, but. is it possible that your husband may feel threatened by your weight loss, and not even be aware?

I understand how your husband feels. I had a young beautiful wife, owned rental properties, owned a $150,000 RV, was making over $100.000 a year and I was not satisfied with my life. I constantly thought I could be doing better and achieve even more at my age (36). I refused to stop and smell the roses, as I pushed and pushed to achieve even more.

Then one day God intervened and decided that I needed to learn to be happy with what I had and that this life is not meant for us to acquire possessions and prestige.

I was home for the summer in 1998 and found out that my in-laws had acquired an old house that they wanted to remodel and use as a rental property, so my wife and I told them that we had plenty of time available and we would start the construction demolition that was required to get the project started. I was using a sledge hammer to break apart one of the old fireplace chimneys that were used for heating the house. On the last swing with the hammer, the bricks gave way and I kept on going (followed through with the swing). I landed on the floor and was in excruciating pain (had never hurt this bad in my life), as I laid there I called for my wife and ask her to help me up. 2 days later I was paralyzed from the waist down and told that I would never be able to walk again.

After 3 1/2 months of hospitalization I returned home to live in a concrete basement with only a bed, toilet and shower, no more money, RV's, properties or prestige. I was now completely bankrupt and to top it all off I was told that I would never be able to have children because of the accident.

My wife was 12 years younger than me and she was trying her hardest to deal with taking care of a person in a wheel chair. She had to help me insert a 14" rubber catheter inside of myself 6-8 times a day just so I could urinate. She had help dress me and most of all she had to put with my anger and frustration. After a few months of doing this, she told me that she wished I would find someone else, because she could not take it any longer.

It is now 13 years later and I am able to walk with the use of leg and foot braces and I live happily alone. I have been blessed by this incident in my life as I now know more about myself and more importantly I know more about what God wants me to do.

So tell your husband that he needs to realize that he is exactly where God wants him at this time in his life and he needs to understand that having you in his life is more important than any possession or achievement. He also needs to understand that your need to lose weight and be happy is a blessing for him as well. He should realize that you love him and that you are doing this for yourself and HIM! God Bless..Dan