Keeping your actual weight a secret from loved one?

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rcpayton
rcpayton Posts: 90
in Health and Weight Loss
Does anyone else NOT tell their loved one/spouse their actual weight?

My husband knows how much Ive lost and has been very supportive along the way. But, I never told him my starting weight I guess out of embarrassment. He always guesses my weight to be much lower than my actual weight so I have never been motivated to clue him in. :) Anyone else in the same boat?
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  • angkev2560
    angkev2560 Posts: 36
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    I used to.....but then when I started to lose, I just told him. It made me feel better about my progress for some reason:)
  • MJ7910
    MJ7910 Posts: 1,280 Member
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    i used to do that but now i just don't care anymore who knows.
  • shamr0ck
    shamr0ck Posts: 296 Member
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    I kept my weight a secret for several years. However, once i started on my weight loss/get healthy journey, i told my husband exactly how much i weighed, what i wanted to weigh, and how i planned to get there. He's been incredibly supportive. Granted, he was heavy and trying to lose as well. With a normal weight spouse, it might be harder to admit how bad it's gotten. But really - they have eyes, they know.
  • jayliospecky
    jayliospecky Posts: 25,022 Member
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    Yes! I have never told my husband my actual weight, have told him how much I've lost or what size my clothes are, but I just haven't been able to go all the way!
  • nacobi
    nacobi Posts: 28 Member
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    My boyfriend has asked me since he knows that I have been trying to lose weight but I refuse to tell him. He did not know me at my "skinny" self when I was 130lbs but I guess I keep my current weight to myself because I am self conscious about it.
  • lissypriss
    lissypriss Posts: 157 Member
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    I was honest, and when I started losing, I txt'd him at work a pic of the weight on the scale! LOL! I didn't want him to think I was just saying I lost, not actually doing it. :)
  • sarab99
    sarab99 Posts: 134 Member
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    I kinda doubt that there are too many spouses or significant others that know their mates weight. I go so far as to close the bathroom door and refuse to weigh myself on Wii if theres anyone else in the room. I might mention I lost weight, but never what I weigh. ;)
  • Eagles320
    Eagles320 Posts: 51
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    No way!!! Your loved one is your best support.
  • aaleigha1
    aaleigha1 Posts: 408 Member
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    to both myself and my dh the number on the scale is not important its how I feel about myself and my image that is important
    he knows I am loosing but again not how much as the number is just that a number
  • jemachharo
    jemachharo Posts: 144 Member
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    only what i've lost. I hope he never knows. I have to keep some secrets.....
  • sweetiebelle
    sweetiebelle Posts: 332 Member
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    My hubby new my starting weight. We don't keep any secrets. He's been wonderful! He loved me at 158 pounds and loves me just as much at 119 pounds.
  • sandhillcrane
    sandhillcrane Posts: 301
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    Nope! Been married 33 years. He has no clue! And he knows better than to ask!!!! :glasses:
  • thirtyandthriving
    thirtyandthriving Posts: 613 Member
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    Big Secret here. I didn't even tell mine I was trying. But i left my jillian DVD out and weights and he caught on rather quickly. I don't think I have even told him how much I had lost. I only talk about it with a few select people. In fact, I will tell people about MFP (including my sister) but tell them I will not "Friend" them because this is my secret world. LOL!
  • Shalimarmandy
    Shalimarmandy Posts: 409 Member
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    I have in the past told my boyfriend my weight at different times but this past weight gain I was too embarressed to tell him I tipped the scales at over 250 this time. When he met me at I weighed 175 and slowly "grew." I'm now down to 208 and still haven't told him. I figure I will tell him once I hit onderland again!
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
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    Mine knows. I weigh myself in front of him. He's crazy good at guessing people's weight anyway (he could join the carnival if he were so inclined).
  • JConstine
    JConstine Posts: 69
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    I've never been embarrassed enough about my weight not to tell a loved one. When we first started dating he guessed my weight was way less than it was and I told him my actual weight. It was no big deal...kinda funny actually.
  • lik_11
    lik_11 Posts: 433 Member
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    My husband is 5 inches taller than me- and (at my heaviest) 45 pounds lighter than me. NO WAY would I admit to him what the scale said!!!
  • skinniewannabe
    skinniewannabe Posts: 106 Member
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    Both me and my husband are trying to get in shape. I've told him my number, but he is keeping his number a secret from me!
  • jhoney8
    jhoney8 Posts: 43 Member
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    I'm there. I've only told one friend how much I actually weigh. Now that I weigh less than my dad and brother I think about it, but their expectations/ideas of what a woman should weigh are so different from my goals I don't really want to clue them in. My bf is shorter than me (by two inches) and has never been even a little chubby. My goal weight is still 15 lbs bigger than he is now, so that discourages me. I have a feeling he knows, generally, but I don't feel the need to share. Maybe when I hit my goal...? Sometimes I wonder how people would react if they knew how big I really was.
  • choconuts
    choconuts Posts: 208 Member
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    I am one who tells anyone my weight, lol. If weight/size/dieting/gaining comes up, I'll say my weight. I've always done this, I've never made it a secret. I think it helps hold me accountable.

    ***I don't tell random people, I'm referencing family/friends.

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