Keeping your actual weight a secret from loved one?

rcpayton
rcpayton Posts: 90
edited October 3 in Health and Weight Loss
Does anyone else NOT tell their loved one/spouse their actual weight?

My husband knows how much Ive lost and has been very supportive along the way. But, I never told him my starting weight I guess out of embarrassment. He always guesses my weight to be much lower than my actual weight so I have never been motivated to clue him in. :) Anyone else in the same boat?
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  • angkev2560
    angkev2560 Posts: 36
    I used to.....but then when I started to lose, I just told him. It made me feel better about my progress for some reason:)
  • MJ7910
    MJ7910 Posts: 1,280 Member
    i used to do that but now i just don't care anymore who knows.
  • shamr0ck
    shamr0ck Posts: 296 Member
    I kept my weight a secret for several years. However, once i started on my weight loss/get healthy journey, i told my husband exactly how much i weighed, what i wanted to weigh, and how i planned to get there. He's been incredibly supportive. Granted, he was heavy and trying to lose as well. With a normal weight spouse, it might be harder to admit how bad it's gotten. But really - they have eyes, they know.
  • jayliospecky
    jayliospecky Posts: 25,022 Member
    Yes! I have never told my husband my actual weight, have told him how much I've lost or what size my clothes are, but I just haven't been able to go all the way!
  • nacobi
    nacobi Posts: 28 Member
    My boyfriend has asked me since he knows that I have been trying to lose weight but I refuse to tell him. He did not know me at my "skinny" self when I was 130lbs but I guess I keep my current weight to myself because I am self conscious about it.
  • lissypriss
    lissypriss Posts: 157 Member
    I was honest, and when I started losing, I txt'd him at work a pic of the weight on the scale! LOL! I didn't want him to think I was just saying I lost, not actually doing it. :)
  • sarab99
    sarab99 Posts: 134 Member
    I kinda doubt that there are too many spouses or significant others that know their mates weight. I go so far as to close the bathroom door and refuse to weigh myself on Wii if theres anyone else in the room. I might mention I lost weight, but never what I weigh. ;)
  • Eagles320
    Eagles320 Posts: 51
    No way!!! Your loved one is your best support.
  • aaleigha1
    aaleigha1 Posts: 408 Member
    to both myself and my dh the number on the scale is not important its how I feel about myself and my image that is important
    he knows I am loosing but again not how much as the number is just that a number
  • jemachharo
    jemachharo Posts: 144 Member
    only what i've lost. I hope he never knows. I have to keep some secrets.....
  • sweetiebelle
    sweetiebelle Posts: 332 Member
    My hubby new my starting weight. We don't keep any secrets. He's been wonderful! He loved me at 158 pounds and loves me just as much at 119 pounds.
  • sandhillcrane
    sandhillcrane Posts: 301
    Nope! Been married 33 years. He has no clue! And he knows better than to ask!!!! :glasses:
  • thirtyandthriving
    thirtyandthriving Posts: 613 Member
    Big Secret here. I didn't even tell mine I was trying. But i left my jillian DVD out and weights and he caught on rather quickly. I don't think I have even told him how much I had lost. I only talk about it with a few select people. In fact, I will tell people about MFP (including my sister) but tell them I will not "Friend" them because this is my secret world. LOL!
  • Shalimarmandy
    Shalimarmandy Posts: 409 Member
    I have in the past told my boyfriend my weight at different times but this past weight gain I was too embarressed to tell him I tipped the scales at over 250 this time. When he met me at I weighed 175 and slowly "grew." I'm now down to 208 and still haven't told him. I figure I will tell him once I hit onderland again!
  • SabrinaJL
    SabrinaJL Posts: 1,579 Member
    Mine knows. I weigh myself in front of him. He's crazy good at guessing people's weight anyway (he could join the carnival if he were so inclined).
  • JConstine
    JConstine Posts: 69
    I've never been embarrassed enough about my weight not to tell a loved one. When we first started dating he guessed my weight was way less than it was and I told him my actual weight. It was no big deal...kinda funny actually.
  • lik_11
    lik_11 Posts: 433 Member
    My husband is 5 inches taller than me- and (at my heaviest) 45 pounds lighter than me. NO WAY would I admit to him what the scale said!!!
  • skinniewannabe
    skinniewannabe Posts: 106 Member
    Both me and my husband are trying to get in shape. I've told him my number, but he is keeping his number a secret from me!
  • jhoney8
    jhoney8 Posts: 43 Member
    I'm there. I've only told one friend how much I actually weigh. Now that I weigh less than my dad and brother I think about it, but their expectations/ideas of what a woman should weigh are so different from my goals I don't really want to clue them in. My bf is shorter than me (by two inches) and has never been even a little chubby. My goal weight is still 15 lbs bigger than he is now, so that discourages me. I have a feeling he knows, generally, but I don't feel the need to share. Maybe when I hit my goal...? Sometimes I wonder how people would react if they knew how big I really was.
  • choconuts
    choconuts Posts: 208 Member
    I am one who tells anyone my weight, lol. If weight/size/dieting/gaining comes up, I'll say my weight. I've always done this, I've never made it a secret. I think it helps hold me accountable.

    ***I don't tell random people, I'm referencing family/friends.
  • sunshinel397
    sunshinel397 Posts: 206 Member
    Some things are better kept secret!
    My husband and I have been together almost ten years and he has never had any idea what I weigh. He has seen me at my lightest over 80 pounds ago and at my heaviest last year.
    He never asks, I don't tell and that is how I like it!
    He also is the most supportive man and loves me at any size. Truly blessed to have him in my life!:love:
  • lwhitman4
    lwhitman4 Posts: 144 Member
    My hubs knows my weight but he refuses to tell me his. He's a pretty big guy. I'm guessing 330+. I have been suggesting he come walk with me but he never does. At least I cook very healthy meals, and we don't do fast food unless he goes on his own. Small steps.
  • czechsmate
    czechsmate Posts: 556 Member
    I kept it from my husband....until when I started on this site I bought a digital scale and was getting ticked off because I could not get it to turn on, well...my husband came to my rescue at the worst time possible. Needless to say there are no more secrets :indifferent:
  • ajanmillie
    ajanmillie Posts: 241 Member
    I have always been the opposite. I tell everyone my weight even when I was 280. I could never keep it a secret especially if people could just look at me and go, oh, you weigh alot.
  • CrystalFlury
    CrystalFlury Posts: 400 Member
    I've come to the conclusion you wear your number on your sleeve. A number, is a number, is a number. Sorry to be blunt but you can't hide fat. You can't hide skinny either. I've never kept my weight from my boyfriend, sure I never mentioned how much I weighed when we first started dating almost 7 years ago (at the time I never knew my weight anyway) but it was quite obvious I was heavier.
  • kysassyblonde1
    kysassyblonde1 Posts: 96
    I have never told my husband and he has never asked me, He does know how much I have lost and encourages me to do good!!!!!
  • atlraine
    atlraine Posts: 172 Member
    My husband has always known. Even when we were dating as teenagers. I've always struggled with my weight and I've always been 20lbs heavier than him (and he's 5'10" and I'm only 5'4"). Now thanks to MFP these past two years, I can honestly say I am SMALLER than the hubby by 45lbs!! Yea ME!! LOL!

    We used to have this running joke that I would always ask him if I weighed 200lbs would he still love me. He would always respond I will always love you. Well, sometime in my late 20's to early 30's I started to push over 200lbs and he still loved me! He's been my inspiration, motivator and supporter.

    I don't mind telling people how much I weigh because I always get this shocked look from them. I am built differently than most people that I don't look like what I actually weigh. This is a good thing because most guess lower by at least 10-15lbs. . :love:
  • janetb21
    janetb21 Posts: 182 Member
    I only recently told my husband my starting weight. I didn't want to tell him. I think it bothered him that he didn't know, but I'm sorry, it was just a little too personal to share. I finally got to the point where I could though.
  • cdyer57
    cdyer57 Posts: 2
    It's as though I wrote this message!! ('Haven't lost too much weight, yet!!)Keep up the good work! I know for me, the number shocks!
  • countinonme
    countinonme Posts: 85
    Nope, I've never hidden my wieght from hubby. Never been in your shoes. My hubby cheers me on! Sounds like yours does the same for you. I don't know what I'd do in your shoes, but I bet your hubby would cheer you on no matter what the number on the scale says.
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