annoyed of people in real life...

barbiex3
barbiex3 Posts: 1,036 Member
edited October 3 in Health and Weight Loss
Does anyone else find that people complain about their weight a lot? I've had A LOT of people recently tell me they want to lose weight lately, and I tell them about MFP and try to help them get motivated, but then they blow me off completely.... Does this happen to anyone else? I guess I never realized how many people are not ready to actually put their mind to stufff! yikes lol
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  • SergeantSunshine_reused
    SergeantSunshine_reused Posts: 5,382 Member
    Yup! People back home especially. Since I came back looking better they want too as well. But then don't want to listen to a word I say xD
  • Maple669
    Maple669 Posts: 30
    Wow you can gain 15 pounds and you couldn't really notice =)
  • barbiex3
    barbiex3 Posts: 1,036 Member
    I know. I get people to listen to me for about 1 min, then they start giving me this "this chick is crazy" look, and I know it's all downhill from there! haha I just feel like I'm scaring people away, but it's not scary at all!
  • carolinedb
    carolinedb Posts: 236 Member
    I get that all the time! It's so frustrating to listen to my friends complain but not do anything! Then again, I have to remind myself that I was like that until last December.
  • modernfemme
    modernfemme Posts: 454 Member
    YES. I think people just get in this cycle of feeling bad, low self-esteem. They have to want to change or it won't happen. It has to be a must.
  • EmilyAnn89
    EmilyAnn89 Posts: 564 Member
    happens to me all the time!! i tell everyone that asks me how to lose weight about it. no one ever uses it!
  • Christa4335
    Christa4335 Posts: 6 Member
    Yes...people complain constantly and do nothing about it. How about people should not complain constantly if they are not going to fix their weight problem.
  • UmaB
    UmaB Posts: 5 Member
    I actually told a friend about MFP and she wants to lose weight and she told me she doesn't like counting calories because it doesn't work and she doesn't have time and yada yada yada. I told her well you are not counting calories and how is that working out for you? She joined the next day! :)
  • barbiex3
    barbiex3 Posts: 1,036 Member
    lol!! Yeah, and I also will tell people I've met this semester that I lost 15 pounds over the summer, and they don't believe me? I'm like okay then... it's annoying :( but i'm glad I look like i've always been thin.. kinda?
  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    YES!!!!
  • xhaller
    xhaller Posts: 95
    I couldn't agree more!!! I work with all these people who park so close to work, and park in the closest spots when we go anywhere and yet they always complain about their weight. It's like "Dude, you don't have to climb a mountain or go to 10 spin classes a week, but move your butt."
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    Yuppers... it's MUCH easier to sit around and complain rather than actually put some EFFORT into making a real change!
  • 123456654321
    123456654321 Posts: 1,311 Member
    Yes, it drives me bonkers....but then I remember I used to be one of those people and I cut them some slack.
  • Iheartsushi
    Iheartsushi Posts: 150 Member
    Yep..but what REALLY irks me is when I talk to people that are 'fit' when they are complaining about their last 5 lbs or little bit of nothing they want to change, so I go to suggest they join MFP for the support system and motivation element and they look incredibly insulted. As if chubby ol me has no right to suggest an alternative to what has already been working for them. I'm like..if it's working, then what are you complaining for?!!! lol
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    Uh yea.. all my friends from college want to lose weight... solely because I'm losing weight. So they try for a few weeks, then fall of the bandwagon... and give crazy excuses like because of my trainer I'm losing weight or I just have more time then they do... Yea, because working full-time pretty much and taking a 3 hour night class means I have loads more time then they do.

    I just think that if people wanted it bad enough, they would do it... but we live in such a fast society, that people have been tricked into believing that weight loss should be the same way.. fast, easy and painless.
  • JoDeeD
    JoDeeD Posts: 391
    I work with some people that want to lose weight. I have told them about MFP, but they haven't joined yet. I have noticed that some of them have traded chips for veggies and puddings for yogurts. I think some times they get annoyed with me saying how many calories are in everything, but I think overall they are starting to eat healthier.
  • lruff1987
    lruff1987 Posts: 263 Member
    Ok first...I covet thy body!! Totally jealous! And second...I used to be that person when it came to eating. I've dropped 45 pounds and don't make those excuses for food anymore. I still do this a little teeny tiny bit when it comes to exercise, though. Work in progress!! :)
  • barbiex3
    barbiex3 Posts: 1,036 Member
    Yep..but what REALLY irks me is when I talk to people that are 'fit' when they are complaining about their last 5 lbs or little bit of nothing they want to change, so I go to suggest they join MFP for the support system and motivation element and they look incredibly insulted. As if chubby ol me has no right to suggest an alternative to what has already been working for them. I'm like..if it's working, then what are you complaining for?!!! lol

    omg that's so mean =[ I could so see girls doing that too. I'm sorry... :'( people are mean!!
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    all the time. I don't know which ones are more annoying: the over weight ones or those skinny ones who only see themselves as "fat". LOL
  • elsham
    elsham Posts: 549 Member
    I know. I get people to listen to me for about 1 min, then they start giving me this "this chick is crazy" look, and I know it's all downhill from there! haha I just feel like I'm scaring people away, but it's not scary at all!

    Haha, same here. More often than not, as soon as I say I count calories and exercise I automatically become the "crazy obsessed girl." I've had people roll their eyes at me when I said it too. Seriously, what did they think, I have the world's best kept secret?! HAHAHA.
  • klewis81
    klewis81 Posts: 122
    Once upon a time, I was just like that too. People who blow you off just aren't ready yet, but one day they will be. No one can force you to do it, you have to want it.
  • SiltyPigeon
    SiltyPigeon Posts: 920 Member
    After b^tching about their weight I have, in the past, convinced a few friends to join... only for them to quit after a couple of days. Oh well. Their loss (or gain?).
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    I can relate to this. I have a lot of people who ask how I lost my weight...when they realize it's not a quick and easy "diet," some lose interest. Others seem to be inspired to try some of the same things...and I love when they tell me I've inspired them to DO something about their health. A friend of a friend emailed me the other day asking about my running and a lot of questions about whether I was following a specific "meal plan" (I'm not, other than trying to track calories and make better choices), I sent her a very long detailed email about my lifestyle changes. I didn't hear a word for several days, but this morning she wrote back ecstatic that I had given her such detailed info, and that she was going to try some new things because it seemed DOABLE :)

    Some people want a quick fix, some people will really take what you tell them to heart and try to change their own lives...
  • curvygirl512
    curvygirl512 Posts: 423 Member
    Same experiences here. I have three friends who joined MFP. Only one is motivated enough to log her exercise and food. Not surprisingly, she is the only one who is losing weight. I think people just like to complain. It's so much less work than _actually_ losing weight.
  • barbiex3
    barbiex3 Posts: 1,036 Member
    I know. I get people to listen to me for about 1 min, then they start giving me this "this chick is crazy" look, and I know it's all downhill from there! haha I just feel like I'm scaring people away, but it's not scary at all!

    Haha, same here. More often than not, as soon as I say I count calories and exercise I automatically become the "crazy obsessed girl." I've had people roll their eyes at me when I said it too. Seriously, what did they think, I have the world's best kept secret?! HAHAHA.


    LMAO. yeah!!! I know right. People think we like have a magical secret or something. It's like nuhh uh hunny.. it's called hard work! lol... Or even when people ask what I eat, and they are like "that's not that healthy it has fat in it!" I'm like YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE CONCEPT! aaaaah. people!
  • reneelee
    reneelee Posts: 877 Member
    people like to wine.
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    I can relate to this. I have a lot of people who ask how I lost my weight...when they realize it's not a quick and easy "diet," some lose interest. Others seem to be inspired to try some of the same things...and I love when they tell me I've inspired them to DO something about their health. A friend of a friend emailed me the other day asking about my running and a lot of questions about whether I was following a specific "meal plan" (I'm not, other than trying to track calories and make better choices), I sent her a very long detailed email about my lifestyle changes. I didn't hear a word for several days, but this morning she wrote back ecstatic that I had given her such detailed info, and that she was going to try some new things because it seemed DOABLE :)

    Some people want a quick fix, some people will really take what you tell them to heart and try to change their own lives...
    I had similar experience. I feel very proud when someone told me they were so inspired by me. :) Others, either are not serious or just like you said "want a quick fix".

    One thing I just discovered after chatting with a fellow forum follower (not this one) really made me feel sad. She told me that because I have all this experience and knowledge, I become one of those arrogant snobs who like educating people even I am not asked. This is really upsetting. I only wanted to share what I have learned. *sigh*
  • Bluejay789
    Bluejay789 Posts: 176
    They do not want to change! I used to be excited when someone would say something to me asking me how I lost the weight. Then I would tell them about MFP and get excited hoping to have some friends at work to support me.

    This week I am over sharing MFP and just going to say "Thank You" and keep going. They are not serious anyway!

    My real weight loss friends are on MFP supporting me and encouraging me.

    Wish I could meet them all in person!

    Claire
  • reneelee
    reneelee Posts: 877 Member
    I was told by a winer that sushi has way to many carbs in it, I was buying the sushi.
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    They do not want to change! I used to be excited when someone would say something to me asking me how I lost the weight. Then I would tell them about MFP and get excited hoping to have some friends at work to support me.

    This week I am over sharing MFP and just going to say "Thank You" and keep going. They are not serious anyway!

    My real weight loss friends are on MFP supporting me and encouraging me.

    Wish I could meet them all in person!

    Claire
    I think some people might want to change but might be afraid of hard work. Losing weight and keeping yourself in control with food particularly is very hard. :)
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