my love life sucks! :(

syiyi
syiyi Posts: 341 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
my girlfriends are all marry and those that are not have bf.. ugh!!!! But It seems like I'm the only one who is solo.. :( geee!! sometimes or many times I'm so jealous.. I started to believe that there is no one out there for me :( HELP! I'm prob the problem.
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  • ConnieM20
    ConnieM20 Posts: 493 Member
    im in the same boat girl! im just working on me right now, when the time is right youll meet someone. i know it gets lonely at times, but dont give up hope. all good things come to those who wait :)
  • Legalchica
    Legalchica Posts: 462
    Dont be!! take your time and find that one. You will not be happy if you settle...
  • tkn11
    tkn11 Posts: 276 Member
    you and me both girl!
  • CassarahW
    CassarahW Posts: 93 Member
    Life is not about having a partner. While it's nice to share life with someone there are times that you have to be alone to learn your lessons. My guess is you might have some lessons on self love that need working on before others will be able to fully love you. What areas of your life are you feeling unsatisfied (excluding your singledom)? Perhaps if you work on other areas of your life and find happiness with in then you'll find others who are wanting to be with you (if you'll even want them at that time!) Whatever you're lacking you'll never find outside of yourself. Always look in first to find what you need.
  • getitamb
    getitamb Posts: 2,019 Member
    i feel the same way. I used to be a romantic now I don't even think there is a 'one " out there for me. But I have to try and dig deep and believe.
  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    I know the feeling.... :(
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    I've been single for three years now. A big reason for that is my weight, which is one of my primary motivators for losing it, since I am 34 and would like to one day get married again.

    Work on yourself. Let the rest fall into place. If you come off as desperate to get hooked up you will meet mr. douche bag who will use you and throw you out when he's finished.

    For some also it's just not in the cards. I know I occupy my free time with hobbies. I play soccer several times a week, and paint and write as well as play music (I'm a drummer in a heavy metal band). These things all help keep my mind off of being single.
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    Sometimes it's better to be alone and happy then with someone and miserable.
  • glenr79
    glenr79 Posts: 283 Member
    Mine does too!! But I am doing good for myself, just started my Masters in Exercise science, I am personal training now at the University gym which has always been my dream, all of my bills are paid, and I have traveled all over, now that (ME) is taken care of, now it is time to find the one, but I don't want to settle... Hopefully I can find someone that loves fitness, to travel, and the outdoors..lol a tough task, and of course the basics honesty, loyalty, good persontality etc... lol
  • Fitnin6280
    Fitnin6280 Posts: 618 Member
    My Great Grandmother used to say there is a lid for every pot... There is someone out there for you!
  • sblair77
    sblair77 Posts: 355 Member
    Enjoy! I was the last to get married or even date seriously and now I am the last to think about children it seems.

    Everyone has their own time when to do things that is right for them.

    Besides I wouldn't have the amazing hubby I do now if I had married in my mid to late 20s like all my friends.

    Here is a rule I live by "We are all here for the first time so no one knows any better than the next. You just have to do what is right for you and ignore what society or people try to tell you is the right way. We are all just fish out of water trying our best to make our way."
  • sweetiepie31612
    sweetiepie31612 Posts: 240 Member
    Wow...I just posted about this yesterday and wrote about it in my blog. I too am the token single gal. I usually get bored and lonely and then sign up and do the online dating thing. I go on several dates and eventually find myself dating one guy more frequently then others and eventually get myself into a relationship with a guy I'm only luke warm about. I eventually break things off and the single cycle starts all over again. I just broke things off with the latest guy a few days ago. I'm trying to break the cycle though and doing things to keep myself busy (back at the gym, joined a book club, looking to join another club). Take this time and focus on you. Once you "settle down" you'll never get to be this selfish again.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    I feel the same way and to be honest, it has led me to look in the wrong places and be too trusting of people.

    I DO believe there is someone out there for everyone and it just takes patience! Best of luck! :happy:
  • azQmaster
    azQmaster Posts: 448 Member
    you and me both girl!

    how you doing?
  • cheri868
    cheri868 Posts: 77
    Same here girl, was just telling my co-workers that ALL my friends are married or engaged to be married. I have -0% social life due to this, but I shook off the sadness and depression, and decided to concentrate on me for a change. Stopped smoking, started eating healthier and now starting an exercise program and I feel a lot better. Now, I am actually happier that I am alone at this point, less stress, no weird future in-laws to deal with and no psycho friends!!!! Just your life and your stresses to handle. Enjoy the peace that is your life, the right man will come your way when it is time.
  • slavaheroyam
    slavaheroyam Posts: 67
    I'm 22 and never had a significant other. Never been kissed... nothing. All these people I went to middle school and elementary school with are getting married and having babies and I'm sort of sitting off to the side by myself. It bothers me on and off, especially since a lot of my friends are the types who can't not be in a relationship and I'm someone who has to be around people constantly, but I've grown to not mind it as much as I did in high school.
    I guess I'd rather be single and focusing on school/video games/other pointless things I really enjoy, than have my heart broken ever 3-5 months.
  • syiyi
    syiyi Posts: 341 Member
    My Great Grandmother used to say there is a lid for every pot... There is someone out there for you!


    Thanks!! =)
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    Sometimes it's better to be alone and happy then with someone and miserable.
    absolutely this!
  • glenr79
    glenr79 Posts: 283 Member
    Yeah I am 32, single, and no kids, I need to get on the ball!!!
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    Some of you single ladies need to move to Louisville lol, there are no single women here. Hell last time I went out to do karaoke, every woman in the place was hooked up with someone or wearing wedding rings. The one who wasn't was there for her bachelorette party.

    And I agree fully with being alone is far better than hooking up just to not be alone and being miserable anyway.
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    Your life only sucks if you let it suck. You don't need a man in your life to make it good. You make it good.
  • syiyi
    syiyi Posts: 341 Member
    I'm 22 and never had a significant other. Never been kissed... nothing. All these people I went to middle school and elementary school with are getting married and having babies and I'm sort of sitting off to the side by myself. It bothers me on and off, especially since a lot of my friends are the types who can't not be in a relationship and I'm someone who has to be around people constantly, but I've grown to not mind it as much as I did in high school.
    I guess I'd rather be single and focusing on school/video games/other pointless things I really enjoy, than have my heart broken ever 3-5 months.


    Stay focus!!!! =) men can be a pain. lol!! they do break hearts and move on easier than we do :/
  • Secret_Agent_007
    Secret_Agent_007 Posts: 1,082
    Stop looking. You'll meet someone the minute you're not looking to meet someone. And bars are the worst place to meet quality people.

    Best of luck to you all.
  • Pocket_Pixi
    Pocket_Pixi Posts: 1,167 Member
    I am the last single, childless person in my close friends. I really don't see any point in rushing into anything I would rather be single and happy, than rush into a relationship, get married, have kids and decide I don't want what I have.

    I think you should take your time and find a guy that loves you more than you love him.
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    Mine doesn't suck...it's non-existent!!! :laugh:

    The way I look at it is, right now I'm working on me. If someone interesting were to come into my life at this point I would definitely go for it - otherwise I'm going to wait a little while before taking an active role IN finding someone.

    The most important thing is to be happy with yourself as a single person and don't feel like you need someone to 'complete' you.

    :flowerforyou:
  • slavaheroyam
    slavaheroyam Posts: 67
    I'm 22 and never had a significant other. Never been kissed... nothing. All these people I went to middle school and elementary school with are getting married and having babies and I'm sort of sitting off to the side by myself. It bothers me on and off, especially since a lot of my friends are the types who can't not be in a relationship and I'm someone who has to be around people constantly, but I've grown to not mind it as much as I did in high school.
    I guess I'd rather be single and focusing on school/video games/other pointless things I really enjoy, than have my heart broken ever 3-5 months.


    Stay focus!!!! =) men can be a pain. lol!! they do break hearts and move on easier than we do :/

    I am very overly emotional too which is even worse! But I feel like a lot of people I know care more about my love life than I do...

    Really, I don't find being single being all that bad. Sure I want to have someone to cuddle with and hold hands and fuss how they're such a pain in the butt, but whenever it comes around then it does. Right now I have a lot on my plate and focusing on getting my self esteem out of the drain and being a good person is better than having someone I'm constantly bringing down.
    Whatever someone else does shouldn't really determine a timeframe for when you should do things. :)
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    being single gets lonely, but dont jump into a relationship with someone just to be in a relationship because it will only end badly ^^

    I feel sad being single tonight...I am used to having a boyfriend to play games with and joke around with. But it will pass ^^
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    being single gets lonely, but dont jump into a relationship with someone just to be in a relationship because it will only end badly ^^

    I feel sad being single tonight...I am used to having a boyfriend to play games with and joke around with. But it will pass ^^

    And for most of you being single is only a temporary thing.
  • Hirundo
    Hirundo Posts: 148 Member
    Sometimes it's better to be alone and happy then with someone and miserable.
    absolutely this!

    Yep

    The society has a problem ... Why does everybody believe that their life is gonna be better with a partner and kids...
    I see a lot of things happening around me... :
    Couple who doesn't love each other anymore but stay together because they are scared to not find better...
    A girl who litterally rushed herself in marriage to have kids and please their family...
    I see friend, depressing and being so miserable because they are single and without kid, not even seeing all the opportunities they have to have a life full of experiences and knowledge....
    It always seems like their life doesnt worth anything by themself ... It's so ridiculous and , often, pathetic...

    Having a life partner is NOT and will never be the romantic dream that people daydream of when they feel bored or alone.. it's a lot of work to make all the necessary compromise, unless one of the 2 takes entire control of everything... Kids ? kids are wonderfull it's true , but it's a lot more responsabilities than any girl who don't have any could ever imagine....

    I don't say that you should'nt dream of a family ... all i say is: " you don't have a lover ? So? What ? you can still, study, go out, choose all your friends, have fun, travel, do sports, have great time-consuming hobbies and what not.... You can still enjoy life"
  • syiyi
    syiyi Posts: 341 Member
    Sometimes it's better to be alone and happy then with someone and miserable.
    absolutely this!

    Yep

    The society has a problem ... Why does everybody believe that their life is gonna be better with a partner and kids...
    I see a lot of things happening around me... :
    Couple who doesn't love each other anymore but stay together because they are scared to not find better...
    A girl who litterally rushed herself in marriage to have kids and please their family...
    I see friend, depressing and being so miserable because they are single and without kid, not even seeing all the opportunities they have to have a life full of experiences and knowledge....
    It always seems like their life doesnt worth anything by themself ... It's so ridiculous and , often, pathetic...

    Having a life partner is NOT and will never be the romantic dream that people daydream of when they feel bored or alone.. it's a lot of work to make all the necessary compromise, unless one of the 2 takes entire control of everything... Kids ? kids are wonderfull it's true , but it's a lot more responsabilities than any girl who don't have any could ever imagine....

    I don't say that you should'nt dream of a family ... all i say is: " you don't have a lover ? So? What ? you can still, study, go out, choose all your friends, have fun, travel, do sports, have great time-consuming hobbies and what not.... You can still enjoy life"


    Thx!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =)
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