The Hardest Part of it all :( *emotional beware*

I am curious to know too. It seems like the closer I get to my goal the more emotional I get. One day at a time is how I take it or try to at least. Feel free to add me if you'd like

I think we've all been there.

The easiest part to deal with is those irremovable people. They like to dole out the truth? Give them a dose of it themselves, and try to spend as little time as possible with them. Those types of people usually aren't intentionally malicious. Usually letting them know exactly the type of impact they're having on you will bring them around to an 'A-ha!' moment. If not, no person is every irremovable from your life, do what you must do.

As for the emotional side of things, that's a tough one. Some days I feel great, and then other days I'm fully aware of my 282 Lbs. On those not so great days, I rely on some of the people around me, as well as support forums such as MFP or 3FC. I also like to spend 10 minutes reading over someone's success story, to remind me that this battle ISN'T impossible. Some thought I wouldn't lose 20 Lbs let alone 150 Lbs.

Someone recently pointed out to me that this is a lifestyle change, not a race. Even if I never get to my goal weight, I will be healthier, I will feel better, and I will be happier than I was at 300Lbs.

You may not work out for the full hour, and on those days do a quick 15 minute jog or 15 minute strength training. As long as you stay active every day, your body won't mind if every day isn't an hour long, it will just be happy that you cared enough about it to do a little something for it.

Girl, you have lost FIFTEEN POUNDS!! That is NOTHING to scoff at! Most people struggle with just 5. You can do this, and you will do this.

P.S. I've added you to my friends list, and always have the app going on my phone. If you ever need someone to vent to, I'm here!

Sorry to hear you are having a hard time with things and people. You are right in realizing that this isn't an over night process, it is a journey and even when you do lose the 50 lbs, it is still a journey because it will be time to maintain. This is about changing your life style, not just your weight and size.
You are human, you will make mistakes, think of these past mistakes when you are going to make a repeat decision of a mistake you already made. Don't prove to yourself that you can't do something. Make a change! It may take a few times, but one step at a time. When i don't want to workout, I think back, amke myself think back, to another time I made the choice and I remember how I felt about the decision and myself. 9 out of 10 times, I will get my butt up and go do what I need to do. As fr food, I had decided when I began this journey that I was not going to give up certain foods, and yes they are junk foods. I allow myself to have them and then I find I don't binge after a time without them. I just know I have to leave room for them in my calorie count each day. If I don't sue them, AWESOME (not to mention amazing!), and if I do, not guilt because I saved for them!
One day at a time, one step at a time. I have started seeing a therapist and we talk about all sorts of things. Mine are not weight issues but lots of other stuff. Maybe seeing someone professional would be of help to you!!

We are our worst enemy's at times. It also sounds like those around you are not the most supportive, that is sad that they do not help you and encourage you. We all have down times and the best way I have found is when I find myself doing it. Make myself stop...go look in mirror and tell myself out loud how much I have accomplished. How much better I feel and how much more energy I have. Then I will look at pics of me before and then look at myself now.

Friend lots of people on this site that will help encourage and support you!!!! If those there will not do it this community will be your cheerleader. YOU CAN DO IT and you will feel great about it in the end.

I feel for you I really do. It is hard when the people around you are less than supportive. However, you have to be the one to make the commitment. I find strenght in knowing that I am not the only one that has a lot of weight to lose. Some more, some less, but my friends here are truely an inspiration because I am not going it alone. Good luck and keep at it!

Hey there, so sorry you're struggling. I completely understand where you're coming from as far as beating yourself up and having good and bad days.

First, I would suggest talking to the people who aren't supporting you. Let them know how you feel and that you need their support. Be very firm with them and don't let them undermine your efforts or your confidence. My guess is that you doing things to improve your health and your life are making them feel bad about themselves because they're not doing anything to improve theirs. Maybe invite them to join you when you workout? Try to get them on the band wagon. If they won't support you, either separate yourself from them as much as possible, or tune them out. No one, and I mean NO ONE who cares for you should be undermining your efforts and if they are, then stop listening. You deserve to feel beautiful and healthy - don't let them talk you out of it. And at the end of the day, if none of that works, tell them to PISS OFF. You deserve better!

Second, try to give yourself a break. It used to be that if I "fell off the wagon", even with just one meal, I'd say "forget it, I screwed up, I may as well eat whatever I want now". Don't let that nasty little voice get the better of you. Now I do two things... First, I try to avoid situations where I'm going to go over my calorie limit. For instance, we had a free "tailgate" party at work with all sorts of fattening food. Now, if you're the type who can plan out your calories and go to an event like this and stick to it, then great! I cannot. So I didn't go to the party. To me, it was more important to stick to my plan and spend the calories where they'd count than to go. I know myself well enough to know that if I went, even with the best of intentions, I'd end up three servings and 2,000 calories in before the lunch was over. Try to avoid putting yourself in situations that are going to leave you with a sense of failure. Second, give yourself some breathing room. Pick one or two meals a week or one day a week where you eat what you want (within reason). For instance, usually, on Saturday's, I don't track my food. I still try to eat well and keep portions in check, but I splurge a little. Or, like my husband, he has a few Hershey's kisses every day to give himself a little treat. Just know that it's okay, you're human and we all need to have a cheat meal or day now and again to stay sane!

I know how hard it is and how frustrating, but please don't give up. We're all here for you and we're in it with you!!!

First of all, *HUGS* You are wonderful and worth all the effort you're putting into yourself. Do. Not. Give. Up.

It sounds like you have enough negative people in your life without beating your own self up. It's really hard, but you have to stop yourself from beating yourself up. Next time you catch yourself thinking mean things, say - out loud - "Stop it! Be nice." And then say one positive thing about yourself. Even if it's, "I really like the earrings I'm wearing today." The negativity is a bad habit just like smoking or eating fast food. It's not going to stop immediately - it takes work.

Try to ignore the rude people in your life. Don't tell them what you're doing, just go about your routine like everything is normal. Some people build themselves up by tearing others down, and they attack anything they see as a weakness or sensitivity. Just try not to give them any ammo.

Remember: You are worth this. You are beautiful. Just remember that, and you'll be fine.

*HUGS* again :flowerforyou:

Negative self talk is among the top reasons people fail at changing their lifestyle for the better and the mere fact that you realize you are waivering with self-esteem issues is a HUGE step, even though it may not seem like it. In fact, anytime someone on here sends me a friend request and their user name has a negative self-talk sort of connotation, the first thing I do is suggest they choose a new screen name. Most people who do that don't even realize they are doing it.

It is also important that you realize that no plan, nutrition, exercise, or otherwise, is ever going to be a full-proof, be able to do it 100% of the time, all of the time sort of thing ... and that is OK. If you beat yourself up, talk badly about yourself or to yourself after one mess up, it's going to be very counter productive. So you get through that day, knowing that when you wake up the next day, you have a fresh new day to work with and move forward. As long as falling off the plan is not a daily occurrance, you will be OK.

You do however, really need to address anyone who is making negative comments to you about your efforts to be more healthy, as well as re-direct any negative thoughts or self-talk you are hounding yourself with ... with positive ones.

Notice I did not say "who is making negative comment about your efforts to "try" and be more healthy". The word "try" is the most over used word and it means nothing because it's not an action, it's a pre-cursor to an action.

When most people say they are "trying" to do something, they are actually doing it and then waiting to see what the outcome is. That is not "trying" that is doing!! And if they say the are "going" to "try" to do something ... well, that means they aren't realling doing anything at all except thinking about it. You'd be surprised how many people think they are going to lose weight by 'trying' to eat better or 'trying' to work out more. Doesn't work. You either do it or you don't, it's a simple as that. "Do or Do Not, there is no 'try' ..." this was one of THE biggest things I learned from the trainer I work with (and yet that flippin' word still comes flying out of my mouth now and then when I'm not careful!). If you do it and don't succeed, you adjust/modify and do it again until you find what works for you. Even when it comes to occasionally falling off the wagon

OK, so maybe you skipped the workout today, but you staying within your calories. Or maybe you didn't workout and went over your calories, but heck, you didn't eat that entire bag of chips or pint of ice cream. There is ALWAYS a way to spin a negative into a positive if you are willing to look for it. Those are the elusive silver linings that are visible to only those with a postive outlook

Those negative Nellies in your life don't have to agree with what you are doing, they do not have to believe you can do it (though it sure would be nice if they did), but they DO have to show you respect for the efforts you are making to get yourself where you want to be and honestly, I learned the hard way that people will treat you they way you allow them to. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself ... if you refuse to just take it, the comments often stop or those making them get so tired of hearing you stand up for yourself that, while they may not be removable from your life, I bet encounters with them become less frequent.

You can do this! Be strong ...

Hey girl, dont worry what anybody says, "There is only one success-to spend your life in your own way."