Is Dieting and Exercise hurting anyones relationship?

Most definitely!!! My boyfriend and i are the same way

There has been some disconnect too with my husband and I. He really isn't into fitness or nutrition, and I have tried before and kind of gave up until he really wants to do it...I can't force him. I just take more time at the gym and working out, but fortunately we are both fairly independent. The problem comes when I eat too muh, and don't want to eat a lot for dinner, or dont' want to eat what he wants. But it's not a huge deal, he understands, but doesn't relate.

i was like that with my ex-bf who is a total fitness nut and is very strict about eating...

i never really understood his dedication.

It actually improves my relationship since my husband is athletic. The time we spend together now is mainly at the gym or out doing some recreational sports. He's really encouraging me to improve physically. We also compete against each other and help each other improve in mountain biking. We can talk about fitness all day and how we can do better the next ride. He'll even wake up at 445am to go to the gym with me. Maybe you should get into a sport both you and your husband will enjoy. It will help you towards your weight loss goal and it will be fun for your husband too.

I believe that my husband have become closer and are better. He is so proud of me and happy for me. He's not changing anything with him, which is fine, but he doesn't ask me if i want things I shouldn't have. Although I know people in that situation and it's sad. Your spouse should be proud and very happy with you and want to listen to how things are going. But they don't get it because they aren't going through it.

Yes, I have noticed this myself. I have just been trying to take an interest in other things that he does.. As a bridge to reconnect. I love my husband very much and I don't want differences in lifestyle to cause a wedge.. So that means that we need to acquire other interests that bind us back together..

He likes to play guitar so I am learning (slowly), He and I both like lost.., he love paintball so we will play together.. I think I will love that too because it's active and about strategy... He is into video games.. that is a pass for me.. But there are other things we can do to build that bridge.

It is great you are noticing.

I think it is actually helping our relationship. We are doing more active trips and vacations (skiing, biking, etc). And we are both committed to being healthier. He will eat whatever I cook, actually asks me not to make rice or pasta anymore. He also prefers we dont go out to eat bc it is sooo expensive. We are enjoying cooking together and trying to shop inexpensively. I think you have to try and find something he is interested in as well and try to re connect that way. I will play video games with him as long as he will play the active ones with me, such as sports active for ps3 etc. Im sure you will connect again soon. He will love the benefit of your body changing and get on board soon hopefully! Good luck!!

its done the opposite in my relationship. i feel more confident and less insecure which to my husband is attractive. he is very supportive and I dont push my stuff on him. we still go out to eat and since i am the one with the issue i am the one that needs to learn self control.

not to mention he likes the new figure i am acquiring. apple round was not sexy at all.

Take my advise girls .. from an old married broad .. Don't ever let your passion interfere with the connection with your family.

All too many times we hear women complain about being a widow ... A hunting, fishing, hockey, football, windsurfing .. you name it .. kind of widow. Where a passion becomes an obsession. When there is no time to spend together because they are always at a game or participating in a sport .. and if they are not watching a game they are thinking about it, talking to their buddies about and have nothing else to talk about with you. It gets old .. real fast .. to the point that it can undermine any connection you do have with your mate.


Don't let your passion become an obsession. It's all about BALANCE. If you can't balance your time with their time .. it's gonna cost you .. on many levels. Make time .. even if it's one night a week to just spend time. Don't make excuses that you don't have time, because you are too tired. THAT is a relationship killer. PERIOD! You wouldn't like it if you became 2nd priority .. why would you think they would tolerate it? Go out for dinner .. and make wise choices when you choose what you want to eat or drink. Moderation .. is key. Don't let it get to the point where you feel spending time is such a sacrifice.

Take some time to re-evaluate and prioritize. Kids come 1st .. always. If you don't find time to connect with your kids, then you have got a real problem. If you want to exercise in the evening .. then spend time with your kids during a real family sit down dinner...not sitting in front of the TV. Occupying the same room is not the same as making a connection or contact. I'm talking contact .. eye to eye kind of contact and conversation. Then taking an hour in the evening to do something for yourself is not such a big deal. Family support can only be tested so far. THEY shouldn't suffer the consequences of your passion.

YOU may want to be more fit, thin or beautiful .. All THEY want is YOU.
It's just as important to be "liked" as it is to be "loved'.

I believe that my husband have become closer and are better. He is so proud of me and happy for me. He's not changing anything with him, which is fine, but he doesn't ask me if i want things I shouldn't have. Although I know people in that situation and it's sad. Your spouse should be proud and very happy with you and want to listen to how things are going. But they don't get it because they aren't going through it.

Ok, with my husband and I it is similar as to this posters situation.

When I am eating the way I need to for my health and getting some exercise I am in better moods, sleep better and have a higher libido which just makes me more fun all the way around. :laugh: :laugh:

I am becoming more tolerable to live with again. :flowerforyou:

Yes. With my husband and my parents. It sucks.