never enough...

Krohnie
Krohnie Posts: 286 Member
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
So I've been trying to lose weight since my oldest son was born, almost 5 years ago. Little to no success. I started running a few years ago becasue my sister was a runner, so it was something we could do together, even though she's way faster than me. I've come to terms with the fact that she wins the races she enters and I just try like heck to finish them. But lately, it seems like every fitness/weight loss thing I try to do she does better/faster/more. I'm the biggest girl in the family (5'9" and 185), and I hate it. But I get so discouraged that on the day I burn 500 calories playing competitive sand volleyball and I feel good about myself, my sister plays in the same game (we're on the same team) and then she played with another team as a sub, and then she mentions that she got in her 6 mile training run for a race we're in a few weeks from now. I know people will say, do this for you, it's not about her, butit still bothers me that I was feeling proud till my skinny size 6 sister makes me feel fat and slow and lazy!! grrrr

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  • lutzsher
    lutzsher Posts: 1,153 Member
    Don't compare yourself to anyone. You are wonderful just for being YOU. We all have strengths and weaknesses so focus on things you feel you do well, or are naturally good at instead of making unfair comparisons . . . apples and oranges!
  • Hassiri
    Hassiri Posts: 35
    Like my bro told me once: You are person A, She is person B

    Stop comparing yourself to her, try to improve everyday and be a little bit better than YOU were yesterday.
    Instead of focusing in all the stuff she does better than you!, focus on yourself and how you can push your OWN limits.
  • chantels1
    chantels1 Posts: 391 Member
    Sounds like your sister is very competitive! That sucks for you, because the last 5 lbs of extra weight is the hardest to lose! You should work on toning what ever part of your body you aren't happy with because the number on the scale is not the important part, as long as you are fit.
  • Maria_Goose
    Maria_Goose Posts: 247
    I lost a good friend I'd had for 12 years. I lost a bunch of weight and started looking good. Got asked out by a guy she apparently had a crush on (but then again, she had crushes on lots of boys). She was furious. She somehow managed to make him cheat on me....with her. All my friends knew and no one told me. We haven't spoken in over a year now.

    Don't compare, just get better. You'll never be happy if you keep this up.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Don't compare yourself! My cousin is tall, naturally thin and naturally blond (just like her father, who I'm not related to). She's GORGEOUS and incredibly athletic. As in, on her fifth time EVER skiing, she was doing the black diamond hills, while I was happy to not fall on the bunny slope.

    She's also brilliant in the sciences. But we went to see Shakespeare in the Park once and I had to explain every scene to her because she didn't understand it. I was watching and understanding Shakespeare when I was 5. That is my strength. She has hers. Why compete?
  • cwglosin4vaca
    cwglosin4vaca Posts: 63 Member
    I go through that with my friend.
  • jgic2009
    jgic2009 Posts: 531 Member
    Sounds like it's easy for her, but you are working harder at it.

    I've always found hard work more inspiring than natural talent.

    Just my 2 cents!
  • Krohnie
    Krohnie Posts: 286 Member
    I've always found hard work more inspiring than natural talent

    that makes me tear up a bit, thanks so much for your 2 cents!! They are worth much more than that to me!
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