annoyed with comments..
baybeecakes08
Posts: 107
Ugh so just need to get this off my chest ...
I was on the phone with my grandma and she asked what i was doing i said eating a chocolate bar (cant always be perfect lol) and her response.. well what kind of diet are you on.. in that voice that is judging you... i said well i eat what i want when i want it just stay in my calories.. she goes well that doesnt sound like a diet .. imnot on a DIET im changing my life..
that wasnt the only thing either.. my MOM is the worst.. speically going grocery shopping with her always get questions like well why do you need this why do you eat that .. thats not good.. and this is coming from a woman who told me i should be giving my 3 year old juice not water because he needs the calories.. HELLO WATER IS GOOD FOR YOU TO .. UGH .. so frusterating
Im not even that big 148 and 5 3... so its not like im HUGE and NEED to loose.. im doing this for MYSELF and no one else..
Sorry for the rant justneeded to get it out some where
I was on the phone with my grandma and she asked what i was doing i said eating a chocolate bar (cant always be perfect lol) and her response.. well what kind of diet are you on.. in that voice that is judging you... i said well i eat what i want when i want it just stay in my calories.. she goes well that doesnt sound like a diet .. imnot on a DIET im changing my life..
that wasnt the only thing either.. my MOM is the worst.. speically going grocery shopping with her always get questions like well why do you need this why do you eat that .. thats not good.. and this is coming from a woman who told me i should be giving my 3 year old juice not water because he needs the calories.. HELLO WATER IS GOOD FOR YOU TO .. UGH .. so frusterating
Im not even that big 148 and 5 3... so its not like im HUGE and NEED to loose.. im doing this for MYSELF and no one else..
Sorry for the rant justneeded to get it out some where
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I just smile at their lack of knowledge and say "Well, it works for me" and change the subject
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And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting!
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WOW! I would stop shopping with her and would attempt to limit all conversations regarding food. She sounds very controlling.0
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And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting!
its very noticable that i am loosing now down 33lbs and my grandma wants to try and loose some weight so when she asked what i was doing i told her .. if i would have known it would have turned into being judged for every "bad thing" i eat i wouldnthave said anything lol !!0 -
Exactly!! Good way to eliminate judemental comments!And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting!0 -
hahah my mother came over the same day I bought my new spin bike and I was setting it up in the livingroom, she was like, "what's that for?" and I said, "oh a new bike, I need something new to do to break through my plateau and get rid of the last of my belly" her response was : "cycling won't get rid of your stomach it will only make your legs big"
oooooooh, mother..... 0 -
My mom told all my family members I was anorexic, even though she does HCG and only eats 500 cals a day. I eat double, sometimes triple that.. Families suck sometimes.0
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WOW! I would stop shopping with her and would attempt to limit all conversations regarding food. She sounds very controlling.
This!
Maybe you could actually show her the site and show her how much weight has been lost by others who have used it for a long time.0 -
Yeah talking to them about your non-diet might not be a good idea if you ever want to stop hearing their opinions.
Just set boundaries.0 -
And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting!
its very noticable that i am loosing now down 33lbs and my grandma wants to try and loose some weight so when she asked what i was doing i told her .. if i would have known it would have turned into being judged for every "bad thing" i eat i wouldnthave said anything lol !!
Well sooner or later it will show and they'll figure it out. I've had several people ask me what I'm doing, but they lose interest with my answer, which is I'm simply counting calories and exercising, that always seems to end the conversation. lol 0 -
Hiya, First of all never ever apolagise for a rant, thats what MFP is here for,
2nd off all well done for your weight loss up to now, take everything with a pinch of salt keep doing what you are doing, would'nt be surprise that they say you look amazing when you get to your final target, we all have friends or family who will do exactly the same to us, also i agree it is not a DIET it is life changing healthy eating plan :flowerforyou:0 -
Mom's are so much fun sometimes! (complete and utter sarcasm)0
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Those who judge are just jealous that they can't/haven't done it for themselves!
Enjoy your rewards and keep up the good work!
I have a mother, sister and grandmother who are all exactly the same, all are atleast 40lbs bigger than I am with no intention of changing their lifestyle to live healthier but are the first to judge me when I do anything outside of what they consider a "healthy diet".
It can be a real challenge at times but do your best to ignore them and not let them get you discouraged.
Or you could do what I do....take that negative talk as motivation to prove the nay-sayers wrong lol 0 -
WOW! I would stop shopping with her and would attempt to limit all conversations regarding food. She sounds very controlling.
This!
Maybe you could actually show her the site and show her how much weight has been lost by others who have used it for a long time.
i tried showing my mom this site but instead she decided to do the south beach diet.. i think because they show "fast results" good thing with this is i shouldnt gain it all back if i stick with it !!0 -
And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting!
its very noticable that i am loosing now down 33lbs and my grandma wants to try and loose some weight so when she asked what i was doing i told her .. if i would have known it would have turned into being judged for every "bad thing" i eat i wouldnthave said anything lol !!
i know what your saying. i didn't tell anyone i was dieting but it was obvious. i lost 50lbs in less than 1 yr and got down to 125 at 5ft5in. Now everyone is really judgmental, "are you still losing, stop losing cause i'm jealous" its like ok, if your jealous take control of your life and start eating healthy.0 -
their jus jealus cuz your loosing weight....0
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even family can be a little insensitive but i find it best for me if i dont tell anyone and then i know if its working cos of their comments .0
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And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting!
its very noticable that i am loosing now down 33lbs and my grandma wants to try and loose some weight so when she asked what i was doing i told her .. if i would have known it would have turned into being judged for every "bad thing" i eat i wouldnthave said anything lol !!
i know what your saying. i didn't tell anyone i was dieting but it was obvious. i lost 50lbs in less than 1 yr and got down to 125 at 5ft5in. Now everyone is really judgmental, "are you still losing, stop losing cause i'm jealous" its like ok, if your jealous take control of your life and start eating healthy.
Gotta love it, last week two women I know said they didn't think I should lose anymore, that I look fine the way I am. I'm still not in a healthy BMI yet, I look better but I'm a long way off from looking too thin LOL. Some people are just jealous. Sighhh....why can't they just leave us alone.0 -
Obviously they aren't going to stop your fantastic work so smile and keep doing what you're doing!0
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I just act like nutrition is confusing and shrug it off... which is mostly true anyway.
Sounds like you are getting results, hence more comments, so I'd take it as a good thing. I'm personally not used to all of the "What are you doing?" "How are you losing weight?" questions.0 -
I get the comments too.. and since i'm so tall, it's not that obvious I lost weight but when I tell people it's why! your not fat! yea but I was.. even if I don't look it!
Let the haters hate, and keep doing what your doing. When mom keeps gaining, she'll wish she listened to you.0 -
yeah, i don't talk about the detail with anyone pretty much. if people ask me how i lost my weight, i just say i go to the gym 5 times a week and don't eat as much in quantity as I used to, and i don't eat as much junk.0
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I can relate. I made the stupid choice of telling my mom that I lost 3 inches from my waist and hips but hadn't lost weight yet. She responded with "it probably water loss". Then goes on to lecture me on how to eat and that I don't get enough protein or water. The funny thing is she is 3000 miles away and over 500 pounds. Don't think I need dieting advice from her and she doesn't have a clue about my daily life choices. Grrrr...
My husband says to not discuss it with her and just surprise her with my weight loss when I visit this summer. I know he is right but it sucks not having the support/encouragement from my mom.
Hang in there.
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I can relate. I made the stupid choice of telling my mom that I lost 3 inches from my waist and hips but hadn't lost weight yet. She responded with "it probably water loss". Then goes on to lecture me on how to eat and that I don't get enough protein or water. The funny thing is she is 3000 miles away and over 500 pounds. Don't think I need dieting advice from her and she doesn't have a clue about my daily life choices. Grrrr...
My husband says to not discuss it with her and just surprise her with my weight loss when I visit this summer. I know he is right but it sucks not having the support/encouragement from my mom.
Hang in there.
-Sarah
i agree with this.. i feel like my mothers support/ approval means ALOT to me and i just want her to be proud and now judge or say im doing it wrong i just want a congrats you look fab!!0 -
So let me get this right, you are getting diet advice from overweight people? Isn't that like getting marriage counseling from a divorcee? - See guys can be snarky, too.
I just tell people I have changed my eating habits and plan to eat like this and journal my food and fitness for the rest of my life, so it's not really a 'diet' for me. And yes, I consider meal replacements and supplements a long-term strategy. If technology can help us with medicine, why not nutrition?0 -
So let me get this right, you are getting diet advice from overweight people? Isn't that like getting marriage counseling from a divorcee? - See guys can be snarky, too.
I just tell people I have changed my eating habits and plan to eat like this and journal my food and fitness for the rest of my life, so it's not really a 'diet' for me. And yes, I consider meal replacements and supplements a long-term strategy. If technology can help us with medicine, why not nutrition?
haha you made me laugh out load !! but its true there not in the position to give advice in my opinion !0 -
Well sooner or later it will show and they'll figure it out. I've had several people ask me what I'm doing, but they lose interest with my answer, which is I'm simply counting calories and exercising, that always seems to end the conversation. lol
Don't you love that?
Them: Wow you look great! How did you lose it?
Me: Eating less.
Them: Oh, right. So what diet did you use? I'm on [insert expensive faddish diet plan here].
Me: I didn't.
Them: So how did you do it?
Me: Eating less.
Them: . . . -subject change-0 -
I actually had some one ask me 'Aren't you too old to try to get skinny and hot?' :grumble: I was so tempted to tell him I was hot, but he'll always be an idiot. But I was nice about it; I told him my husband loves me regardless but I want to be healthy.0
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OP: All the more reason to bust *kitten* and make progress. YOU know your calorie deficit will work and that you will end up looking great. Can't say the same for your mom if she's looking for gimmicky diets.
Don't you love that?
Them: Wow you look great! How did you lose it?
Me: Eating less.
Them: Oh, right. So what diet did you use? I'm on [insert expensive faddish diet plan here].
Me: I didn't.
Them: So how did you do it?
Me: Eating less.
Them: . . . -subject change-
I had something very similar yesterday in the gym but it turned out well.
PT: Hey Patrick, you're looking good, are you losing weight?
Me: Yep, down about 9lbs or so since beginning of Sept.
PT: Great, how are you doing it?
Me: Calorie Deficit.
PT: That's how to do it!
Went better than expected. I was anticipating something bro-like.0 -
Your family's gonna be eating their words soon when you lose the weight! So I would just be pacient until then. BTW, thats great that your doing it for you! Nice work!
Can't wait to hear more of your progress 0
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