Joining the Military=Not a Good Reaction
FireMama_24
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So I was talking with my grandmother the other day about joining the military and lets just say they are NOT enthused about it at all. She just sat there with a disgusted look on her face and didn't say a word and continued to watch TV. So I just left it alone. I am worried that she will try to start to sabotage my weight loss so I can't join. What should I do about this??
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Tell her that it's something you're really passionate about and why. Explain that you would really appreciate her support, even if it isn't the decision she would make.0
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Stay strong about your decision. Your life, not hers.0
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Stay strong about your decision. Your life, not hers.
Exactly. You can do it Hon!0 -
Stay strong and stick to your guns! I don't know how old your Grandmother is but she may just be of the opinion that women don't belong in the military. My hubby is retired Army and in his career he said some of the finest soldiers were women. They were strong, committed and just as capable as the men. Don't give up!0
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Reach for your goals...Although your family may not always support them, since they are YOUR goals and its YOUR body, and life you need to do what is best for YOU!!
I actually got to a weight on purpose that if my hubby ever lost his job, and we were in dire straights, I could join the military, but I think Im too old now LOL0 -
Do what is right by you. Military is a good starting point for some. They might not be enthused but they will have to live with it. Determine your own path in life, or are you going to let others set that path for you.0
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I've been in the Air Force for almost 23 years and I would recommend it to anyone. I agree with the other posters - it's your life, and you deserve to take charge of it. My mom wasn't thrilled when I joined either, but at my ten year mark she was the one who convinced me to stay in. Feel free to message me if you any questions - I have a little experience! ;-)0
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I'd probably not know what to do if someone in my family said they were going to join the military...Maybe if you talk to them again and show how educated you are about the military--and present a plan on how you're going to go about it....And also be realistic about it. When I was in HS, a friend of mine decided to drop all of his scholarship money from various schools across the country and enlist in the army--because he thought it would be a better opportunity. 4 years later, the stuff he thought going in was completely wrong--and he admits to being very unrealistic about the military. So I think if you can show them that you've really thought about this, you're not romanticizing it, and you know what it means, and how much it means to you, that would go a long way. But keep in mind a lot of people just won't like it. Are you planning on enlisting, or going to an ROTC program or an academy?0
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Don't allow them to sabotage anything! if that is what you wanna do, then do it no matter what anyone else thinks. Joining the military was the best decision i EVER made. and guess what? mom didn't want me to.....and now she knows it was the best thing i could have done.0
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you know maybe its just that your grandmama is going to miss you !0
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They cannot sabotage you if its what you truly want. Have you talked to a recruiter yet? They may be willing to help you also. I've been active duty Army for 13 years and love it.0
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well, as former military I say its a great thing you can do for your country.
as the other poster said, tell her its something that YOU want to to and something that YOU feel would make YOU proud, at the same time, be sure she knows that her support would mean a lot to you.
as for her sabotaging your fitness goals, no one can do that except for YOU.
Good luck to you!0 -
Don't allow them to sabotage anything! if that is what you wanna do, then do it no matter what anyone else thinks. Joining the military was the best decision i EVER made. and guess what? mom didn't want me to.....and now she knows it was the best thing i could have done.
Same here!0 -
Only you can derail your goals, your the one who puts the food in your mouth and chose to exercise or not. Don't let her be your excuse.0
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I dont think I have it in me to join the military (cant now...too old....lol)....never have. BUT I have so much admiration for those who do/did. Thank you all!0
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She is likly from the generation that despises the "establishment" which the military is part of. Ironically, the same generation that IS the "establishment" today.
You may not be able to get her to change her mind, but you just have to ignore the negativity she has on the subject and tell her you love her when she starts.
Don't give up or cave in. If sh makes a dish you can't eat remind her you are on a diet and skip it.0 -
When my stepdaughter decided at 18 to join the Air Force, we were surprised as it was not the path we thought she would go down. I could not be more pleased with her decision! The opportunity is amazing and she is in France now, with a new husband and newborn baby 3 years later. Do what is in your heart and you will be surprised at the support you receive!0
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you know maybe its just that your grandmama is going to miss you !
I know part of it is becuase I will not always be here and plus it has been 1.5 years since my mom passed. I think that she may think she is losing me too. I know that I can stay strong but it is hard without their support..........her support. My mom was my biggest supporter in anything and now she isn't here.0 -
Make sure you do your homework. I think the military is a wonderful option, just make sure you have all your facts together and then try presenting it to her again. Does grandma know how much a college education costs? Do what is right for you but also have respect for your grandma's views. You don't have to agree with it, but you can respect it. Possibly she was just thinking how much she loves you and wouldn't want to loose you in the line of duty.0
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Stay strong about your decision. Your life, not hers.
^ What he said!
I am former military and I can tell you that you can push yourself as far as you want in the military, forther than you ever imagined. You will amaze yourself at the things you can acomplish, you will meet some remarkable people, and you will do things others either only dream of, or things they would never dream of!
I would recommend it if you think it is something you want to do. You should certainly talk to a recruiter, ask every question you can think of. Don't sign anything the first visit. If you dont get the answers you want at the Army (for example), go talk to a Navy recruiter, or Air Force, Marines, or Coast Guard. One of them has something you want to do. When you do sign, get EVERYTHING you can in writing; your training schools, initial base locations, MOS placement, etc. And double check it, a typo on mine turned me from a medic to a radio operator! :-)
Good luck! Hoooah!0 -
So I was talking with my grandmother the other day about joining the military and lets just say they are NOT enthused about it at all. She just sat there with a disgusted look on her face and didn't say a word and continued to watch TV. So I just left it alone. I am worried that she will try to start to sabotage my weight loss so I can't join. What should I do about this??
OK, you've received lots of great responses. Let me speak from another perspective.
One of my sons wants to enter (he's at the tail-end of the age limit, so he's now considering the reserves). His actual heart felt goal is to be a policeman - I have NOT been very receptive to either idea, although I'm the kind of person that tries to understand... and I'm much better at accepting whatever path he chooses (and have increased my prayer life - he doesn't believe, sad to say, but God is WAY more powerful than his limited viewpoint, IMO, haha).
Perhaps your grandmother is like me - frankly, I'm scared of what can happen to him! We are at war - I know, not from first hand experience, but from a pretty good authority - my ex-boyfriend was in the Korean War & counseled homeless vets. No one was as good at his job as he was - he was totally dedicated to those men (back then, the shelter only served the guys - thankfully that's changed now). From all he knew, he didn't want his boys or mine to go into the military.
Maybe it's coming from another point of view (do you know if she has any political views?), but that fear that your loved ones can get hurt, either physically, emotionally or psychologically - or all of those - might be the reason.
That said - stay strong & don't let her sabotage your weight loss plans!! You have to do what you are meant to do - no one should try to stop you, even if it does come from loving you!0 -
id go mental if any of my children decided to join the army0
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you know maybe its just that your grandmama is going to miss you !
I know part of it is becuase I will not always be here and plus it has been 1.5 years since my mom passed. I think that she may think she is losing me too. I know that I can stay strong but it is hard without their support..........her support. My mom was my biggest supporter in anything and now she isn't here.
Aw - didn't see this post before I wrote my previous one. Yeah, that's gotta be real tough for her. Yes - bet the fear of losing you permanently is there.
I want to add some stuff my ex-boyfriend had told me (he passed away a little over a year ago - was a good friend up to his fast, unexpected passing). I hope I don't offend any military people out there - again, this is NOT my experience, but advice from an old Army guy, a guy who was not only proud of his service, but identified strongly with it, who not only saw the worst of war (the 50 degrees below zero weather gave him lifelong health problems, just for a start), but the lack of help for our vets when they returned here.
Some of this may have already been told to you.
Don't sign anything at the recruiting station - bring the paperwork home & get someone to go over it with you - preferably someone trained in legal stuff (you can tell that's not me, lol!!). Expect to be lied to by the recruiters - esp. if they promise you something that isn't in your contract.
He also felt that the Army would be more likely to send you in battle (the fear moms, dads & grandparents carry!). He suggested the Air Force or Coast Guard to my son.
There may have been more he told me... I'm now getting oldER and my memory stinks sometimes. But hey, there's a whole lot of living crammed in this brain of mine. Only so much room!!
Good luck your quest - and go hug your grandma!!
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why would you expect the people that love you to be happy that you want to sign up to be cannon fodder?0
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why would you expect the people that love you to be happy that you want to sign up to be cannon fodder?
Nice...(said sarcastically, in case you didn't realize)...Some people know nothing about honorable service to one's country. From those of us that defend your right to say whatever you choose to, you're welcome.1 -
why would you expect the people that love you to be happy that you want to sign up to be cannon fodder?
Obviously you have no idea of what the military is.0 -
or maybe I do?0
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why would you expect the people that love you to be happy that you want to sign up to be cannon fodder?
Nice...(said sarcastically, in case you didn't realize)...Some people know nothing about honorable service to one's country. From those of us that defend your right to say whatever you choose to, you're welcome.
I doubt someone in texas is defending anything for me in England tbh0 -
and if defending rights to say whatever they choose is the main purpose of the military, i doubt theyd put so much money into it0
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Girl, you will be signing up for 24/7 sexual harassment. That will stink. Think again.0
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