really need help.

Nagging him won't get you anywhere! I would suggest that you work out at the weekends, when you are both well rested. On week nights it can be had to get motivated as you may have been up early and then have been at work all day, but anything is better than nothing, even if you just go to the gym for half an hour. You'll be amazed how much more awake you'll feel once you push you that first 10 minute barrier. Plus making an effort to go to the gym in the evenings is great for your sleep cycle (as long as you don't work out too close to bedtime!)

Do it without him. Let him sit on the couch and be a lump. Eventually he will get jealous of all the male attention you're getting and get off his butt.

I met my husband 12 years ago, he was very fit at the time. Then guess what, he stopped all forms of exercise and has done NOTHING!!!!! in the last 12 years. I have begged, asked nicely, not so nicely, I even brought up the fact his doctor said he had to improve his good cholesterol. Yet still he did nothing, until, get this I mentioned doing the Warior Dash in December. I mentioned it to all of our friends and since they were in, my hubby jumped on the bandwagon. He has since been training with me and his friend every night. We do P90X in my garage, were on week 3 and he's still doing it. I can't believe in all this time all it took was a little race to get him motivated again, go figure.

Maybe start out doing it on Saturday and Sundays when he doesn't work (if he doesn't work weekends that is). I hate to exercise. I won't get up in the morning to do it - too tired, I won't do it after work - too tired and I want to relax. So I decided to take my two breaks each day and instead of sitting in my office, I walk 15 minutes briskly for each break. I have to go up 30 steps to get to the track and back down 30 steps to get to my office. But at least I broke the "I am not going to exercise habit" I think if you get him going on the weekends, he might like it so much that he will do it in the evenings. Once you get him going on the weekends, you could start each night doing the exercise yourself and he might just join in.

Give him some reward incentives.

Well I don't know your bf, but mine would need a slightly gentler approach. And remember that in the end you can't make him do anything. Maybe try something more along the lines of "I'm really worried about your health, especially since you have diabetes. I don't know what I would do if I lost you and I want you to get healthy with me, but I know I can't make you." Then I would start doing the workout yourself and hope he joins you. Keep inviting him, but try not to come off like you're nagging-- just a casual "I'm going to work out, do you want to come?"

And having lupus, I used to teach (work until four) and I really was exhausted when I got home. But if I had some time to nap or just relax a bit when I got home then I could get on my stationary bike or go for a walk with my husband later. I can tell you though that if he had called me lazy it wouldn't have worked, I just would have resented it even though it comes from a caring place. And I can also tell you that if he was working out on his eliptical I was a lot more likely to get in there with him and get on my stationary bike. Good luck-- remember that egos are fragile.

How about getting up a little earlier and exercising in the morning? Or maybe have him plan to have a good snack in the afternoon so he's got more energy? Or let him have an hour or so after work to rest then workout? Or use nookie as a reward? LOL!

You definitely don't want to nag but think of a few options, give them to him and see if he comes back with a solution. In the meantime, maybe you could start without him and let him know what you think of the workouts and/or let him see your progess and maybe that'll motivate him.

you got some great answers! think of what men reallllllly wants. $ex !!!! NO workout NO $ex lol

lol too true, sex beer and food, reward man like the 2 year old he realy is, but it is true reward is better then complaining, calling him lazy, or nagging, plus its better for the relationship, thiink about how you would want to be motivated on those bad days we all have, having someone rub it in my face that i don't feel like doing my exercise doens't help the self messages i am giving my self, be supportive, have fun, and "help him"

Just do it for you with a friend if possible and from example he may just decide that its worth it...... Don't talk about it or nag just do it..... My kids and I do lots without my husband because he's too distracted by hobbies and projects, if we waited for him we'd never do anything.