What do your freinds think about counting calories?

Why do you call this person a friend. Why care about what someone else thinks? I stay focused on myself and what works.

I don't get to go out with friends often, but when I do I always make sure I've worked out enough to handle any calories I might be eating/drinking that day. Planning ahead and using my iPhone to track my food works great and my friends have all seen me lose 50 pounds and want me to be happy, so they are all supportive and some are openly jealous. Then I tell them about MFP. If they choose to use it, I'm happy and proud... if not, at least I offered my tool!

The best part about MFP is that I can pre-plan my day. If I know we're headed to Applebee's for dinner, I'll search my menu options for what I will order and log it before I even make lunch. That way I know I won't have to sit there and agonize over what to order. I don't want to be "that" friend who sits there and picks at my food, I want to enjoy the company at the table!!!!

I have a friend who intorduced me to this site...she only logs and does not visit the forums etc. She and I can talk about calories and ftiness. There are others who know I log but I make it a point to be discreet so as to not raise red flags or to annoy. If I can log food when I am at a resturaunt before I go, when my friends/family etc have taken a bathroom break, or in the car on the way home I will not annoy.

Either this friend has past issues with food and Eating disorders and is afraid that you might be going through what she went through she might not understand. If there is a past ED in her life, the idea of restriction might scare her. I went many years where I had to have a I will do the best I can but not worry about it attitude because reading one label could send me back spiralling into ED territory. There is also the chance that your talking about it, constant logging in her presence, difficultly making food choices due to caloric quality is annoying her and this was her vent. She might not get it and you might be a bit over the top (don't know if either of that is true just possibilities)

They have a saying about suddenly coming into a lot of money. It doesn't change you, it changes the people around you.

I'm finding that the same can be said of weight loss. Some people really don't like change, in themselves or others. And if they have you looking a certain way in their head they're uncomfortable when that impression starts to change. Yes it's jealousy. What other reason is there to be upset with someone for improving their life?

To lose weight you have to change your habits. She doesn't want to make that change for herself, so she doesn't want you to do it either. Does that sound like a real friend? Someone who wants you to stay in poor health just so they don't have to worry about having to put any effort into their own life.

Focus on you. F the haters.

I still drive my friends & co-workers crazy about counting calories, etc. In some cases, I have rubbed off on them, and in some cases not. They have learned to accept what I do & I have learned to accept the sacrastic remarks.

People generally don't understand/make fun of you when you start counting calories.
In fact, whenever you are trying to change something/a habit/yourself, people will make fun of you (just a simple thing such as wearing a skirt if you normally wear them, changing haircut, buying your first leather coat - just ridiculous stuff like that...).

Once you learn to accept this fact, it makes your life a lot easier (i.e. you prepare yourself mentally to stand for your change and to dismiss people's comments).

In this case, I would just not take any of their comments personally and just keep doing what I am doing. Still, what I would do is confront her around a drink: "I just saw your blog post and I hope it was not aimed at me, was it?" with a smile.

Still, most people will admire you for your weight loss (without understanding that, at some point, you had to count calories, change yourself, etc.).

Hi..

FIRST OF ALL. If your friend writes a blog about you and in that way I'm afraid your friend is not a TRUE friend. Stay away from that people that are negative in your life and put you down that way.

SECOND... is she as slim and good looking as you? if the answer is no.. then chances are that YES, SHE IS JEALOUS! . Might be not of your body or your life, but just the fact that you're controlling a part of your life.

THIRD.. but if you decide to talk about it with her, and be friends, or pretend you're still friends, then perhaps try avoid mention any calories at all, or eat them, then burn them afterwards, but still it sounds to me like she's the kind that will look at you awfully if you have McSalad instead of Big Mac.

On the other hand, if the one on your profile pic is you, and you seem to look so lean and perfect as you are, consider that she might be worried that you're getting an Eating disorder, as she won't understand that all you doing it for is to keep your weight.

I hope that helps . I'm not being sarcastic at all, really, a friend that writes blogs like that about you is not a friend, she might be annoyed at it, but not as to write a blog, I've never done that, nevermind how annoying some friends of mine might be, even when they're tight, or so, you just might comment it with another friend, but not write a blog about it so everybody can see how she despises you for looking after your health. Feel free to add me if you need another fitness pal!:D

I'm taking a hiatus from counting at the moment, both to give myself a break since I've hit goal, and because I have a rotten cold/flu thing and I refuse to care about calories when I'm sick.

But I think of counting calories, logging my exercise, hitting my macros, etc, as part of my personal hygiene and maintenance routine. Like brushing my teeth or coloring my hair or tweezing my eyebrows. It's what I do to keep myself healthy and presentable. :laugh: If I don't talk to my friends about shaving my legs or popping a pimple, why would I talk to them about my caloric needs? My food is my business. Their food is their business. If they want to know what I'm eating or how I'm exercising, they'll ask.

I do, however, agree that it's weird and passive aggressive that your friend would blog about you. If she has a legitimate concern for your health, she should talk to you about it. Otherwise, she should mind her own business.

Has anyone really looked at this girl's profile?

Sweetie, you are 5'3.5 inches tall and 112 pounds. That is near the lowest end of your healthy weight range.
you say you want to be 99 pounds.
That is severely underweight for your height.

you say you want to be "tonned" by which I assume you mean toned, which means nice firm muscle tone, not jiggly, correct?
In order to achieve this look you need to build muscle by lifting heavy weights. In doing this you will probably gain weight while firming up and losing inches. You could wear a size smaller jeans and weigh a few more pounds. Seriously. If it is about the body in the mirror then you need to ABANDON the idea of ever getting below your current weight and change your body composition by building muscle and eating close to maintenance. Lift weights and eat close to 2000 a day to achieve your goal.

I second this a million times.

At this point you could very easily slide into disordered eating, and that is difficult to reverse and calls for a lot of therapy and more self-control than most people realize.

Sometimes friends can see what we cannot. I'd suggest a heart-to-heart with your friend to allow her to voice her concerns and listen very closely to what she says, and do not pick a fight.

My friends think I am nuts also and make little "cracks" when we go out to have dinner with the girls. I feel like saying "Look at yourself" and I am not trying to be mean but "Really" I always ask the waiter/waitress for what I want!

Go on, count those cals. Screw everyone else. I've was told by my bff " God, that sounds like such a hassle." Yea, OK, that's why I'm down 5 lbs and he's not.