MY OLDER SISTER CALLED ME OVERWEIGHT/FAT

Giving up will really show her! Come on! Love yourself better than that! Who cares what she says! If you are happy the way you are then fine, but if not, pull yourself up and do something about it!!!

When you are a victim, you're saying other people are in control of your life. That's BS! Is your sister in control of your life? NO! You can do this. Who cares what she thinks. People who belittle others just do it because they're insecure about something. She's probably jealous of what a great mommy you are. Please don't give up!

Why would you let someone else dictate how good or bad you feel about yourself? Your sister is her own person, she'll always be the way she is. But you on the other hand control your own destiny. Personally I don't let someone else get in my head like that. For me it would be, I knew how great I felt when I stepped on the scale and saw those 3 pounds gone, and I'd want to keep that feeling instead of anything negative.

You CAN lose it!! Think of how good you will feel once you have! It is hard to heat hurtful things try to turn it into motivation!!

I know how you feel. Don't worry my sister is a lot skinner then me and ALWAYS says shes fat and look at this fat here (where there is none) I just keep going. It is frustrating trust me but it will catch up with them sooner or later.

I know the feeling. I have a relative (not naming names, bc I have some on here) who complains about how her size, but asks to borrow my clothes. Gee thanks. I've just learned to be a duck. Let it roll off my back, because I'm sure she doesn't really mean anything by it anyway.

***edited for spelling mistake.

Do you want to know how you will lose 31 lbs?? ONE POUND AT A TIME. Don't think about 31 lbs. Think about 1 lb, and then another. And you show your sister (who is RUDE and unsupportive at this time anyway-maybe she is threatened that if you lose weight she won't have that "over" you anymore!?) You can do this-slow and steady if you are bf'ing your baby! Get some kind of movement every day and make good food choices!!!!!

I just feel hopeless now - like "how am I going to do this. ugh 31 lbs to go? thats crazy

3 months of logging and sticking to it saw me scream past that number, its as impossible /crazy as you make it.

Wow! You LOST 3 pounds!!! That should motivate you!!!! You seem to be doing a great job! Don't stop now!! You can do this! Keep up the great work!!

Mom,
I first want to say I am sorry that your sister said that to you. If you look at my profile you will se that I have 100 pounds to lose and I will lose it. I was always in shape and lost my way after having my son, going back to school and working a very stressful job. You can do it!!! Don't let others control your life. I lost 4pounds the other day and I am so excited!! I am still 228 pounds and someone who is thin might look at me like why are you so happy you are still "fat". But it was a great accomplishment for me. So enter that weight loss with pride and keep coming back!!! This is your journey!!! Don't get lost in the negativity!!

Honey I feel for you...but who cares what anyone says about you? If you know you need to lose weight it doesn't fall on anyone but you! You have a baby, do you want to be around to see your child grow up, get married and have babies of their own? Yes I know you do so, you being a mother which makes you stronger then most people you will do what you have to do. It may take you awhile and you will stumble along the way but you will reach your weight....not just for you but your child.
Next time when your sister or anyone tries to bring you down, look at her and thank her for loving you, and then tell her with her and Gods help you will reach your goals.
You can do this!!! If I can lose what I have anyone can. We all have struggles/monsters/demons we face each and every day....we can and we will do this. I am right there with you!
Mary

I say people who call names and judge other people are only insecure about themselves. I understand fully that words can hurt, and even more so when they come from family or people who are close to you. Don't use her harsh words as something to break you down. Use them to prove her wrong and be able to get healthy.

There is definitely a lot of support here on mfp, but we can only do so much being only internet based friends. I have found loads of encouragement and positive comments all around by people on here and it has helped me a lot. I've lost 20 pounds so far, but still have a long way to go, about 60 or so more, so I've got a long journey ahead of me. I can be a positive supportive online friend if you would like to add me. I can listen, chat, and give a push to stay on track.

This is the best time to lose the weight. Breast feeding takes a lot of calories.

Do not quit! I had a super petite, slim older sister who used to do the same. She said it mainly to try and motivate me but I felt differently in how I took it. Unfortunately she is no longer with me to give me "advice" good or bad as she passed away three years ago in a car accident! Believe me I would have her back tomorrow giving me a ton of grief. But I am on MFP and I am losing weight and I am succeeding and I will continue to succeed and I will accept what anyone says to me good or bad. If I don't like what someone says I just calmly say "That was a bit rude/insensitive/thoughless/personal" - the look on the person's face is usually total shock and believe me, they do not come back with adverse comments to my face again. They may say things behind my back but I cannot control that so I do not worry about it! As to 31lb - look at some other people on this site who have 100lbs or more to lose and look at those who have lost that and more! Be strong and just tell her that she is being insensitve - try and have a good conversation and explain why you are doing this, how you feel about yourself and that you would appreciate her support. Finally, most of us on this site are overweight/fat at the beginning - accept that what your sister has said is true. At least she loves you enough to be honest with you and maybe she says it because she wants to help?

Your sister is a douche! She is probably jealous of you and feels the need to criticise you to make herself feel better. Ive got a sister like that, always been beautiful and slim, but envies my successes in life.

Don't let her get to you!! Be proud of who you are and what you accomplish for yourself :bigsmile: