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shawnsasylum
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I'm married and my wife just doesn't seem to be responding to my efforts. She says thank you but doesn't really get terribly excited anymore. Over the last week, I have made her a video (pictures of us, sync to a romantic song she likes) and posted it on her FB page, I've bought her a dozen roses and even tried sext'ing a little with her. We are both very busy with work, school and of course kids. Ideas? Thoughts? By the way, I don't have a lot of money. Just trying to keep the spice alive.
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bump.0
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get her nails and toes done, then take her out for a movie and dinner0
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I got her nails done for her Friday. I frequently take her out to dinner. I'm just not sure anymore.0
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Check out the book "The Love Dare" ... Word of warning, it's faith based so it that's not your cup of tea...sorry0
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Can u just sit her down and talk to her? There could be something else wrong or bothering her that has nothing to do with you.0
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Date nights regularly seem to work well. We try to keep it going monthly. We are guilty of having our kids in too many activities. So it does sometimes is every other month. I do think the time alone with dinner and a movie is good. I like that you have been putting a lot of effort in it. I would hope that she appreciates it.0
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Damn ! I need some romance... When you get some ideas could you send them to my hubby .. Lol0
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Prepare her favorite meal
Then run a bath or jacuzzi like we did years a go and have your favorite champagne, strawberries and choc mousse ready.
Now you can start your charm by giving her a good foot massage and talk about the good old days, reminding her about your love for her...take it slow and have a good chat, I'm sure she will respond well to this.0 -
Can u just sit her down and talk to her? There could be something else wrong or bothering her that has nothing to do with you.
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To be honest, maybe I am looking for someone to reciprocate the effort. I just don't understand. I have tried sitting down with her. Don't know. I am stumped.0
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Can u just sit her down and talk to her? There could be something else wrong or bothering her that has nothing to do with you.
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If there is something bothering her the more you do to try will only make it worse.
She expects you to know what is wrong,that is it seems how a ladys mind works (sorry,flame away but is true) so while you think you are treating her special she sees you as trying to avoid the issue.0 -
To be honest, maybe I am looking for someone to reciprocate the effort. I just don't understand. I have tried sitting down with her. Don't know. I am stumped.
what does she say when u try to talk to her?0 -
Why not just go somewhere together? Spending time is always the best gift!! And it can be pretty much free! Go to the beach and sit on the sand!0
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She doesn't say much. She says she is appreciative. But I'm not sure. I think she is worried about finances and doesn't know how to do anything without money. However, she doesn't want anything to do with our financial account.0
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Communication is the key to every relationship. If you think this is a source of stress for her, try doing something to ease her fears such as ... come up saving plan for Christmas for example or how to reduce grocery bill...etc. Something you 2 can do together to relive the problem.0
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Do the dishes and really clean the house. No, really clean it, like she likes it cleaned.0
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simple is best. do something to take some of the pressure off her. by far, my favorite gesture ever from my husband, was when he took the kids to daycare one morning, so i could run before work without feeling rushed. then, when i got in my car to go to work, there was 1 gerbera daisy with a note that said "i love you" sitting on my passenger seat. gerbera daisies were out wedding flowers. that's all it took for me to know he truly appreciated and loved me.
or, if your gestures aren't doing the trick, something else might be going on. for sure sit down and chat with her. ask what she wants/needs from you, then tell her what you want.need form her.
Good luck!:flowerforyou:0 -
Do the dishes and really clean the house. No, really clean it, like she likes it cleaned.
Listening to her WITHOUT TRYING TO SOLVE ANYTHING is better. Hard for guys, I know. Any "problem" she brings up just excites your male problem-solving instincts... but, no. Just listen. Just listen to HER.
How about touching? Hugging? are you turning every touch moment into something "more"? That can be a bit tiring to a woman, too. Try hand holding. Hugging. Just touch her because you like how her skin feels, not because you are looking for reciprocity. Let her know that you just need the comfort of touch too, without anything else.
A relationship is a process. You have to be committed to the long haul, realizing that sometimes one partner needs some rest from demands. Giving support is important.0 -
Can u just sit her down and talk to her? There could be something else wrong or bothering her that has nothing to do with you.
This.
If there is something bothering her the more you do to try will only make it worse.
She expects you to know what is wrong,that is it seems how a ladys mind works (sorry,flame away but is true) so while you think you are treating her special she sees you as trying to avoid the issue.
Hey, how old are you both? Not trying to be nosey, but maybe her drive has dropped a bit? It happens to us as we age. I'd talk to her like someone already said and just see how she's feeling.0 -
I'm 36 and she is 33.0
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