Question to the big losers (in a good way!)

Unfortunately yes big time. I do not know the ratio of my attitude vs. others attitude in the cause of this, but when I was thinner I was reinforced constantly, and people seemed to like me more. Heck, they gave me a chance and actually talked to me. Now as others have said, I am thoroughly invisible...


I am really hoping that I can get the weight down again before I'm too old !!! My personality comes in to play a lot with this.... I'm happer when I don't feel inadequate, and confident and more likely to try new things and put myself out there because I know people will tend to support me rather than ignore me.

Yes, I notice a big difference, but I think a lot of it has to do with I smile more now because, even though I'm not anywhere close to my goal, I am finally happy with myself for accomplishing what I have, and I just plain feel better. So I guess my change in attitude just makes me more approachable.

One negative side effect, though, is that I'm getting more attention from men, and not the kind of attention I want. They aren't interested in getting to know me, or seriously dating me. They don't even want to go out on a date, the immediately ask if I want to come over or can they come over, but when I suggest going out somewhere instead to get to know each other, they got plans, lol. I guess I'm in that in between stage, cute and small enough to hit the sack with, but not enough to take home to momma, SMH.

It is sad isn't it that you are treated differently when the only thing that has changed is the way you look. I am not a bad person regardless of how much I weigh. It is a pity that people dont see the beauitful person that is there in all of us ...