Eventually Ill be a bride-to-be...

auntdeedee87
auntdeedee87 Posts: 706 Member
edited October 4 in Motivation and Support
Okay. So... He hasn't popped the big question.

Yet.

We have talked about it and know we will be headed down that road...at some point.

My thinking is, knowing this, why not go ahead and try and get in the best possible shape I can before there's a rock on my finger. Why wait?

Now, to apply this thinking in motion. That is proving to be the hard part!

Any one else in my position?

Or TRUE bride-to-bes? (I'm a sucker for engagement stories :) )
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  • ManicMelody
    ManicMelody Posts: 85
    Engaged. =] Getting fit for my wedding and my new life with my wonderful fiance.
  • hefinator
    hefinator Posts: 260
    this is definitely my story. rumor has it my BF will be popping the question before the end of the year. i'm so incredibly nervous, and don't want to be the fat bride... so I am dropping the weight and trying to get in great shape now!
  • halfsizeheather
    halfsizeheather Posts: 45 Member
    yep we got engaged and Ive tried on dresses and decided i want to look my best on the day, what better motivation (for me anyway). it just happened that my sister had found MFP and that's why I'm here. The Dress!
  • DeepAsAPlate
    DeepAsAPlate Posts: 121 Member
    My boyfriend and I have been together for a bit over a year and a half. I'd be lying if I said the thought of not wanting to be a fat bride hadn't crossed my mind. My best friend just got engaged, so for now, I'm channeling my energy toward being a hot bridesmaid. ;)
  • allison0820
    allison0820 Posts: 323 Member
    Engaged..... only 6 months away!
  • tinkerbella01
    tinkerbella01 Posts: 38
    I'm in the same boat, he hasn't asked, but I know he's bought the ring (I have small fingers and had to go with him to get it sized). So now I'm just waiting for the proposal...which is a little nerve wreaking!! Definitley want to be in shape for the big day!
  • nifnerf
    nifnerf Posts: 26 Member
    I'm engaged and getting married on April 28, 2012 - started this new lifestyle on May 2, 2011.....giving me just about a year to get into the best possible shape of my life! It's been a challenge so far but knowing I have a deadline and so many reasons why I want to do this has helped immensely.

    For me all it took was realizing I'm paying someone thousands of dollars to photograph our day, and inviting friends and family I don't get to see very often. I don't want to look back in 20 years hating what I look like in those very expensive photos so I started early!

    Good luck to you!
  • Rebroland
    Rebroland Posts: 92 Member
    Engaged! Boyfriend proposed in July. Our wedding is 09/02/2012. The dress is the motivation for my weight loss :)
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    knowing i was going to be trying on wedding dresses was my BIG push, though i had started to lose weight anyway. i got engaged in february, and am getting married next June! cant wait!!!
  • irisherin82
    irisherin82 Posts: 66 Member
    Hi there! I'm a bride to be.... but we haven't set a date yet! He popped the question about 6 weeks ago. We'll either be getting married Nov 2012 to March 2013 or Nov 2013 to March 2014..... we like the cooler months :) But I'm working two jobs right now to pay off debt and save money.... so we want to wait till I'm done with that before we start planning a wedding.
  • Alacey88
    Alacey88 Posts: 486 Member
    this is definitely my story. rumor has it my BF will be popping the question before the end of the year. i'm so incredibly nervous, and don't want to be the fat bride... so I am dropping the weight and trying to get in great shape now!

    ^^^^ This is me^^^^^
  • savethecat
    savethecat Posts: 290 Member
    Getting married in 18 days. Eeek!

    I started losing around the beginning of this year. A few months after our engagement.
  • AdAstra47
    AdAstra47 Posts: 823 Member
    Do it for yourself, not for anyone else. YOU are worth it, whether you're a bride-to-be or not! The prospect of being the center of attention at a wedding may provide a little extra motivation, but the ultimate goal is being the healthiest person you can be. It's not just for the wedding, it's for the rest of your life.
  • crystal_loga
    crystal_loga Posts: 106 Member
    I'm in a similar situation...kind of... lol

    My husband and I married VERY young ( I was 20 and he had just turned 18) and in February 2012 we will celebrate our 10th anniversary. We have decided to renew our vows on the beach in Gulf Shores, AL next upcoming March. I found my dream dress for the ceremony and purchased it a few months ago. The largest size it came in was a 16. It still does not fit. I have lost the weight to fit that size dress, but for some reason, the bust is very small, so I now need to loose the inches. I want to wear my dress, it is so perfect for the beach renewal. I started my MFP journey this past February and have lost 51lbs so far. In August I was able to fit into my original wedding dress from 10 years ago for the first time since my wedding. So I am desperately trying to follow my calorie goal and do what I can to loose the weight in a healthy way so that I can fit my dress and have my dream renewal ceremony!

    Good luck to all of you soon to be brides as well as all of you soon to be fiance's!! =D
  • Aeliyah
    Aeliyah Posts: 247
    Same situation here really... my boyfriend and I have talked about getting married, I've even picked out the ring I want. I am finding it a little difficult to use this as motivation because it's not the feeling of "OMG IT'S HAPPENING NOW!" yet. We are planning for a longer engagement due to citizenship issues, so I know that once the "OMG" factor sets in, I will be able to use it for motivation. I only plan on being married once in my life, so it's GO HOT OR GO HOME :)

    Congratulations to everyone who has been recently engaged or to those who it's coming to soon!
  • aquelina
    aquelina Posts: 1
    I'm in your exact same position...how funny this is the first post I've ever read or responded to. I signed up for this about a month ago and then just forgot about it. I'm motivated now to get back in shape. This is a very exciting time in my life. I have been divorced for 5 years and was starting to wonder if it was going to be just me and my 3 kids forever. Then I met him. What a world of difference he has made in OUR lives. I just posted on facebook the other day, "starting to feel like a family more everyday"....God's timing is always perfect. Even though we sometimes think its not. I am determined to stay connected with this site because I know that will help motivate, inspire, and encourage me.
  • heidiberr
    heidiberr Posts: 643 Member
    I'm engaged! I got engaged in May to my wonderful Adam--it'll be two and half years next week :)

    Not really a romantic engagement story here--we picked out the ring together because we wanted it to be both of our birthstones and he asked me in the morning after I woke up (he works third shift)

    I have my dress, but it's at least a size, size and half too big since I bought in June--now I just can't wait for the next 7 months to rush by!

    However, I start losing weight May 2010 so before a ring was even near my finger :)
  • tiffany522
    tiffany522 Posts: 2 Member
    I am in the same boat girl. It is hard to stay motivated as there is no set dead line for my goal, and thats why I let myself slack sometimes.
    But I look at it this way too, not yet being engaged doesnt mean we have to be glued to our other halves side, we still have our own downtime (without the bf tagging along!) to worry about... and that time shouldnt be sitting on the couch with a bag of potato chips... That is a complete waste of time in my opinion and actually, that is what keeps me motivated!
    I want to use that time to keep myself active and explore the things Im interested and then when its boyfriend time, I have good things to share with him...
    but hey, sometimes its still hard to stay in the groove!
    best of luck and keep smiling!
  • Jovialation
    Jovialation Posts: 7,632 Member
    My dad is forever (half) jokingly telling my bf to propose.

    I already told my bf if hes gonna do it he should wait until Im near my goal weight, haha
  • tiffany522
    tiffany522 Posts: 2 Member
    ok, i couldnt agree with you more. Why go shopping, pick out what you want, then wait!!!? hahaha, its a true test of patience and happiness!
    But youre right, when things get to that point, I want to be in the best shape i can be in!
  • auntdeedee87
    auntdeedee87 Posts: 706 Member
    I'm so glad I'm not the only one in this boat!
    Haha!

    My Mr. Wonderful is named Andrew-- We actually met online, of all places (people always get the 'oh, wow' look on their face like we're circus performers, haha) and knew on the first date that this was the real deal. That was 4 months ago-- yes, quick, but he is unlike anyone I've ever dated and I can't imagine wanting anyone else. I am in love with my best friend. :)

    Now!
    Girls who are engaged---

    How did he propose?!
  • auntdeedee87
    auntdeedee87 Posts: 706 Member
    Do it for yourself, not for anyone else. YOU are worth it, whether you're a bride-to-be or not! The prospect of being the center of attention at a wedding may provide a little extra motivation, but the ultimate goal is being the healthiest person you can be. It's not just for the wedding, it's for the rest of your life.

    Good advice! But I don't think anyone is doing it for someone else. If they're like me, they're doing it so they can enjoy that one special day in that one special dress with every eye on her and know that she looks amazing. And so that the wedding photos can be truly cherished.

    'I'm not sure about other people, but no matter how good a photo is of me, if I am overweight, I dislike it.
  • auntdeedee87
    auntdeedee87 Posts: 706 Member
    Forgive me for going overboard if I am, but while we're on the subject, is this not hilarious?

    Our face paint from a fall festival this past Saturday.

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    hehe! by deeanneuhh, on Flickr
  • ammbbbeeeerrrrr
    ammbbbeeeerrrrr Posts: 70
    i'm kind of in the same boat. i overheard my boyfriend and his cousin ( my close bff) talking and he said he planned on proposing when he got hired on at his "real job" and he did and he's kind of been talking about getting married a little bit.

    i'm always nervous anytime we go anywhere that he might pop the question.. hahah

    another reason to lose all these pounds! thanks for the motivation. i never really looked at it like that.
  • irisherin82
    irisherin82 Posts: 66 Member
    My honey and I met via the internet as well :) we were matched on eHarmony :)

    We were supposed to go sky diving for his 30th birthday, but he decided that he wanted to go on a hot air balloon ride instead... I kinda had an idea that he had plans in mind for proposing! We went on a private hot air balloon ride over Temecula wine country.... it was beautiful! Well the basket we were in (because it was private), didnt really allow for him to propose, so the ride came and went with no proposal (which I wasnt depressed by, because I figure if he didnt do it, the hot air balloon ride was a ploy to distract me) hehehe. After the hot air balloon ride we went to one of the near by wineries to check it out, his friends had gotten married there and he really liked the location. While we were walking around the property he stopped me and put his arms around me and asked me if I'd be his wife :) Because I had already dismissed it happening that day, it definitely surprised me :)
  • auntdeedee87
    auntdeedee87 Posts: 706 Member
    My honey and I met via the internet as well :) we were matched on eHarmony :)

    We were supposed to go sky diving for his 30th birthday, but he decided that he wanted to go on a hot air balloon ride instead... I kinda had an idea that he had plans in mind for proposing! We went on a private hot air balloon ride over Temecula wine country.... it was beautiful! Well the basket we were in (because it was private), didnt really allow for him to propose, so the ride came and went with no proposal (which I wasnt depressed by, because I figure if he didnt do it, the hot air balloon ride was a ploy to distract me) hehehe. After the hot air balloon ride we went to one of the near by wineries to check it out, his friends had gotten married there and he really liked the location. While we were walking around the property he stopped me and put his arms around me and asked me if I'd be his wife :) Because I had already dismissed it happening that day, it definitely surprised me :)


    Awwww, I love it! I am grinning like a fool, haha.

    Andrew and I met on okcupid-- Yay for fellow online daters with a happy ending. :)
  • heidiberr
    heidiberr Posts: 643 Member
    Adam and I met at a bar one night. No really. I was at a friend's house--planning on just staying the night there then going back to campus in the morning. Her friend Andrew called us up to go out to the bar so we said fine. I was in crummy sweats and a t-shirt. Andrew introduced Adam and I and we talked all night. He asked for my number and we went our separate ways. He asked me to come over and watch movies the next day--been together ever since. Shortly after we got together, I was in London interning for two months--I moved in once I got back :) He's my best friend and my everything <3
  • Lylora
    Lylora Posts: 21
    "Do it for yourself, not for anyone else. YOU are worth it, whether you're a bride-to-be or not! The prospect of being the center of attention at a wedding may provide a little extra motivation, but the ultimate goal is being the healthiest person you can be. It's not just for the wedding, it's for the rest of your life."
    ^^^^^^^^^^
    EXACTLY

    My bf proposed in the Palais Garnier in paris, it was very romantic. My wedding is next August and my mother has just signed me up for a personal trainer. I'm 25 pounds over where I want to be for my wedding, and I'm struggling with two contradictory feelings. On the one hand, I hate how our culture fetishizes brides and weddings...as I've been planning (hint: A Practical Wedding website is amazing) I've come to really resent the traditionalism, sexism, and overall loonyness of what I call the wedding industrial complex. If I want to lose weight, I'll do it for me--or to look hot for my fiance--but not just because everyone expects me to shrink for the dress, or whatever. Actually, I already have the dress, so if I lose weight I'll have to alter it down. (Not saying that's bad!) On the other hand, here's an absolutely perfect motivation for losing weight. I really struggle with motivation (I lose 10 lbs, then decide I'm doing great and put it all back on again) so the fear/shame of appearing in front of everyone larger than I want to be might just do the trick. I'm just so resentful of it as a motivation, and that makes me a bit skeptical that it will work. So...brides to be, have you had any success with making getting fit for the big day work for you, not everyone else's expectations? If so, what worked? Thanks for bringing this up, Auntdeedee, great topic, and timely for a lot of us!
  • FairyMiss
    FairyMiss Posts: 1,812 Member
    doubt seriously i will ever be a bride, but not going to let the stop me from getting in shape :ohwell:
  • auntdeedee87
    auntdeedee87 Posts: 706 Member
    "Do it for yourself, not for anyone else. YOU are worth it, whether you're a bride-to-be or not! The prospect of being the center of attention at a wedding may provide a little extra motivation, but the ultimate goal is being the healthiest person you can be. It's not just for the wedding, it's for the rest of your life."
    ^^^^^^^^^^
    EXACTLY

    My bf proposed in the Palais Garnier in paris, it was very romantic. My wedding is next August and my mother has just signed me up for a personal trainer. I'm 25 pounds over where I want to be for my wedding, and I'm struggling with two contradictory feelings. On the one hand, I hate how our culture fetishizes brides and weddings...as I've been planning (hint: A Practical Wedding website is amazing) I've come to really resent the traditionalism, sexism, and overall loonyness of what I call the wedding industrial complex. If I want to lose weight, I'll do it for me--or to look hot for my fiance--but not just because everyone expects me to shrink for the dress, or whatever. Actually, I already have the dress, so if I lose weight I'll have to alter it down. (Not saying that's bad!) On the other hand, here's an absolutely perfect motivation for losing weight. I really struggle with motivation (I lose 10 lbs, then decide I'm doing great and put it all back on again) so the fear/shame of appearing in front of everyone larger than I want to be might just do the trick. I'm just so resentful of it as a motivation, and that makes me a bit skeptical that it will work. So...brides to be, have you had any success with making getting fit for the big day work for you, not everyone else's expectations? If so, what worked? Thanks for bringing this up, Auntdeedee, great topic, and timely for a lot of us!

    Oh hell, I'm not at all concerned with what other people think I should look like.
    My thinking is-- I've waited 25+ years for this day, with this man, and I am going to be insecure and camera-shy all day just because I don't feel as beautiful as he tells me I am every day.
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