Partially insulting NSV.

I had lost 50 lbs years ago. My father said to my mom in front of me " I think Jennifer is sick like her sister". (my sister is anorexic/bulimic). I weighed 140 lbs. I think when people see you a certain weight and then they see how skinny you have become they do think you look sick.

Unfortunately I can understand the eldery in the nursing home thinking that because that is what their generation thought - considering the times they grew up in....

But, as far as people today - tell them nicely the first time "I chose to get healthy for myself"... and if they keep pushing, this is what I told Jttaylor... tell them to go screw...


We probably had our fair share of negativity being heavy, Ill be DAMNED if I have to put up with people telling me 'youre too thin, too skinny" blah blah blah...

Salt n Pepa put it best: ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

The wealthy used to be fat because they could afford the expensive cuts of meat. The wealthy also suffered from the lazy man's desease called Gout. It is ignorant and/or dated to equate wealth with girth these days. Fitness in the new rich.

UGH SO TRUE - all I hear all the time is excuses, excuses, excuses (all intermixed with complaining about being overweight) - I just want to scream sometimes. We are all working really hard for this!

You got that right...whenever I get those comments, I tell people that every pound..hell, every ounce...has been hard won and I worked my butt off for it! I'm not going to play it down to help them feel better about being lazy or for stuffing their faces all day....

My whole family is southern and deep south southern at that. Seriously they think i am anorexic! (I am far far from it!) hahaha In their minds meat on your bones means you are healthy and eating well.

I've had my share of negative comments too..they r just jealous haters..be proud of your progress you look amazin!

When your clothes aren't swollowing you alive I bet you will get more compliments. Forget those rude inconsiderate people.

I would try and not take it wrong...they are not used to you at this new weight. My in-laws pretty much said the same thing to me after not seeing me for a few months. They said I needed to gain weight; which, of course, I can easily achieve.

I am with you. I have lost a total of 65 pounds and work in an office environment. Clothes aren't cheap and I am not at my goal weight so I have put off buying new clothes. People comment all the time. It always starts with, wow you have lost lots of weight and always ends with a crack about my clothes. Keep up the good work!

It always amazes me the number of people who can't just compliment someone and leave it at that. Wow you're looking great. Done.

I can't believe so many people have been asked if they're pregnant. Personally I wouldn't ask a darn thing unless I was 100% sure they were pregnant, and that'd probably be when they were like 8.5 months pregnant. Otherwise, I'd keeping my mouth shut. Harder to look like a fool if you don't say anything.

It's probably mostly the baggy clothes. Once you can get some that fit better it probably won't look as obvious. I used to go to a uniform place when I had to wear them and they were expensive. Now I see Walmart and places like that carry them as well. (Sure now that I don't wear them.) ha

Craigslist is a good place to look for new scrubs.

I own only 3 shirts and 1 pair of pants that are actually my current size. The rest are way too big or baggy.

I went from a size 40 waist and size XL shirts to a size 32 waist and size L shirts.

I hear it all the time.. look at you skinny boy. I hate the word skinny and thin. I would rather hear toned or built. But these over sized clothes look ridiculous. lol

When your clothes fit properly it creates a more attractive overall picture. This is what I have been told anyways.

Someone in my office told me I was looking "trim." I'll take that. It's definitely better than "skinny"... which just sounds negative. When I hear "skinny" I automatically think of 5'11" high fashion runway models who weigh 95lbs.

Oh and just curious if anyone is a Bill Engvall fan?

"Your clothes are getting big. Are you losing weight?"
"No, I let everything out to give me more room so I can easily gain even more weight!"
"Here's your sign!"

LOL

Take it with a grain of salt... I like to think of it more along the lines that they like "YOU" and it doesn't matter to them if you are 190 or 148!

On the flip side, I think that there is such a thing as losing too much weight (not that I am implying this to you, as I do not know you), but I have said the same thing to my husband. My husband was doing a lot of Long Distance Cycling a couple of years ago, and trained for and completed the Furnace Creek 508 twice as part of a 2 man team (they take turns over 8 legs of a 508.5 mile race from Santa Clarita, CA to Twenty-Nine Palms, CA. While he was training for this, my husband got down to 130-132 lbs. He is only 5'5", and usually weighed anywhere between 140-150 lbs. I can't tell you how many people would ask me if he was ill, on Chemo, had cancer, etc., when he got down to 132. And to be honest, he did not look healthy. His face was very thin and sallow. I know that I have a hard time thinking that this could EVER be a problem for me, but I think that everyone needs to find what works for them, and if our loved ones comment on us losing too much, that we take a step back and really evaluate if they are saying that to be "nice", or if we need to find a balance.

Good luck!