For the younger people on here.

brittanyjeanxo
brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,829 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
Or even those that are a bit older than me. How did people judge you when you were young? i.e., misconceptions people had because of your age. For instance, I got called a "child" today. Apparently people think that because I had a free day yesterday makes me a child and I don't have any worries, stresses, things to do, etc. Some people (in real life sometimes as well as on here) talk down to me like I'm two instead of 19. Do you ever get the same thing because of your age?
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  • Nerdy_Rose
    Nerdy_Rose Posts: 1,277 Member
    Not gonna lie, I was a dumb@ss when I was 19. I know 19 year olds now who are more put together than I am currently (at 26). There's no real gauge for me except how someone acts. If you're 35 and you act 12, I will treat you that way.
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,829 Member
    Not gonna lie, I was a dumb@ss when I was 19. I know 19 year olds now who are more put together than I am currently (at 26). There's no real gauge for me except how someone acts. If you're 35 and you act 12, I will treat you that way.

    I have my moments, but you know me. I don't act like I need people to talk down to me and I certainly don't mislead anyone to think I have no responsibilities :P
  • Moonblood
    Moonblood Posts: 199 Member
    My neighbour who is in her 50's always refers me and my husband as "the kids"... it doesn't really bug me overall, it just makes me feel like she thinks we're children... we're married, own a house, have a business, etc, not really kids. LOL
  • LeighYan91
    LeighYan91 Posts: 129 Member
    I sometimes feel like people talk down to me, Im 20 and feel like I still get treated like a child :/
  • kimber_av
    kimber_av Posts: 98 Member
    yes yes yes.
    I used to deal with it a lot when i was younger (24 now.) Especially in the workplace. I've been working jobs in the medical field since I was 15. However i started a new job 2 years ago and NO ONE took me seriously. Kept talking to me like I was a child and clueless. (still sometimes do). I had to prove my knowledge and my skill at my jobs. Once I did that they took me more seriously. People just hear the age and don't take into consideration everyone is different. Especially 18-22 because we are still young and reckless haha.
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,829 Member
    My neighbour who is in her 50's always refers me and my husband as "the kids"... it doesn't really bug me overall, it just makes me feel like she thinks we're children... we're married, own a house, have a business, etc, not really kids. LOL

    Exactly! But, it's one thing when someone does that, versus if she constantly called you a child. But I feel ya. Maybe she does it out of love? Like how my mom still calls her kids (the youngest being 17) "the kids" :laugh:
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    I'm a student and when I go back home for the summer I work at my mom's company and have been doing since 18.. One of my employees use to be like aww she is so cute.. Your just growing up ( at 18/19) ... I just worked there this passed summer (now at the age of 21) and like she still says it and talks to me like I'm 15 and I've been working their way longer than her... I'm very mature for my age actually... I like independency... But yes I use to get that when I was 19.. But honestly I could see why people may treat you a certain way because your young... At that age, your still learning and still going through immature and mature actions simultaneously. My younger brother is 19 and is going through that.. We tease him sometimes but he is still growing up.. Just continue to be you and people will lay off eventually.
  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    I had a huge issue with that until I was about 23-24 because I looked REALLY young. I still look younger than I am, but at least I don't look like I'm 16-17 like I did as a 22 year old :laugh: Seriously, when I first got out of college I substitute taught, and I dreaded going into the high school because the teachers always thought I was a new student :sad:

    You don't seem to have that problem, but it'll get better with time. People tend to have less respect for younger folk, mainly because they remember how they were at that age. I know I was a bit of a crazy person, so they're probably assuming you're the same as them, whether you are or not.
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,829 Member
    I'm a student and when I go back home for the summer I work at my mom's company and have been doing since 18.. One of my employees use to be like aww she is so cute.. Your just growing up ( at 18/19) ... I just worked their this passed summer (now at the age of 21) and like she still says it and talks to me like I'm 15 and I've been working their way longer than her... I'm very mature for my age actually... I like independency... But yes I use to get that when I was 19.. But honestly I could see why people may treat you a certain way because your young... At the age, your still learning and still going through immature and mature actions simultaneously. My younger brother is 19 and is growing through that.. We tease him sometimes but he is still growing up.. Just continue to be you and people will lay off eventually.

    I appreciate that :) And sometimes, I'm sure I deserve it. But people ask for advice sometimes and don't take mine seriously. Even though I have a 4.0 and go to school for the kind of thing I'm giving advice for. :laugh: It's not a big deal, just wondered if others got treated that way too.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    Or even those that are a bit older than me. How did people judge you when you were young? i.e., misconceptions people had because of your age. For instance, I got called a "child" today. Apparently people think that because I had a free day yesterday makes me a child and I don't have any worries, stresses, things to do, etc. Some people (in real life sometimes as well as on here) talk down to me like I'm two instead of 19. Do you ever get the same thing because of your age?

    YES. when i was 19 people would try to talk down to me, and then i'd verbally rip them a new one for their fallacious thinking. at 19 i was a full-time college student, had 2 jobs, my own apartment, car, bills. and i was smarter than most of the people who would try to talk down to me so i had a real issue with 'respecting my elders'...kinda still have an issue with that actually...
  • anubis609
    anubis609 Posts: 3,966 Member
    Or even those that are a bit older than me. How did people judge you when you were young? i.e., misconceptions people had because of your age. For instance, I got called a "child" today. Apparently people think that because I had a free day yesterday makes me a child and I don't have any worries, stresses, things to do, etc. Some people (in real life sometimes as well as on here) talk down to me like I'm two instead of 19. Do you ever get the same thing because of your age?

    YES. when i was 19 people would try to talk down to me, and then i'd verbally rip them a new one for their fallacious thinking. at 19 i was a full-time college student, had 2 jobs, my own apartment, car, bills. and i was smarter than most of the people who would try to talk down to me so i had a real issue with 'respecting my elders'...kinda still have an issue with that actually...

    I'm an Airbender. It doesn't matter how old I am. I'm wise beyond my years.:tongue:
  • Teliooo
    Teliooo Posts: 725 Member
    I am not even that young but it annoys me. I was once with my kid buying food. I had this plastic number thing that the waiters used to indicate what food belonged to who.. So I dropped it whilst walking and an old man picked it up for and was like, 'that will be your age (it said 1)'. I was like you are like 10 years out mate. I was pretty angry about that.

    My partner and I get weird looks from people as well. We are about a lot in the day because we are self employed and I also am employed but in the evening. People assume we are teens parents or young people on the dole. It annoys me as people think they have the right to tell you what to do. My partner has been told to get off his phone when he was in a lift with our child in the pushchair. He was very curt with the lady as he was texting me about a business deal we were trying to close.
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    Or even those that are a bit older than me. How did people judge you when you were young? i.e., misconceptions people had because of your age. For instance, I got called a "child" today. Apparently people think that because I had a free day yesterday makes me a child and I don't have any worries, stresses, things to do, etc. Some people (in real life sometimes as well as on here) talk down to me like I'm two instead of 19. Do you ever get the same thing because of your age?

    YES. when i was 19 people would try to talk down to me, and then i'd verbally rip them a new one for their fallacious thinking. at 19 i was a full-time college student, had 2 jobs, my own apartment, car, bills. and i was smarter than most of the people who would try to talk down to me so i had a real issue with 'respecting my elders'...kinda still have an issue with that actually...

    I'm an Airbender. It doesn't matter how old I am. I'm wise beyond my years.:tongue:

    indeed you are aang.

    HEY EVERYONE! anubus is the last airbender! just thought you should know... :happy:
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    I really don't think people started treating me as an adult until I hit 30. A lot of it had to do with how I saw myself though. Despite my maturity in earlier years, I guess I'm saying I didn't really feel like a fully-fledged adult. At 30 I guess I must have decided it was ok to be an adult. Before that I would fly off the handle at people, do things for a reaction, etc. It started to taper off as I got closer to 30. I wish I'd carried myself differently before then because I do enjoy the respect I get from other people who view me as an equal instead of a child.

    It doesn't help that I'm only 5'1.5 and perpetually "cute" no matter what I wear (I don't wear t-shirts with prints or words on them, torn jeans or anything that would indicate "youth"). But even in some fitted slacks and a blouse, I'm getting the "how cute" comments as I make my way to 34. Even at 30 I was finishing my degree and still thought to be in my early 20s, but my attitude established that I was older.

    Sometimes it's hard to see it, but your peers have certain behaviors and sometimes you'll embody maybe just 1 of those behaviors, and it causes people to think you're just like everyone else your age. Trick is to learn to stop caring. That took me into my late 20s as well.
  • hikeout470
    hikeout470 Posts: 628 Member
    Oooh boy. The concept isn't respect your elders, just because they are your elders, you should treat others with the very same respect you feel you command. Also, when I was in your situation, first job out of College, I made some changes to my appearance, and how I carried myself. Grew out my hair a bit into a professional style, basic makeup on a professional level, some new clothing. Got rid of the 3rd earring, etc. I recommend you dress and act the part, and you may find people will fall in. One thing I have learned with age, you will care less what others think about you.
  • TheDoctor90
    TheDoctor90 Posts: 461 Member
    I have nothing to add other than. I. LOVE. YOUR. SIGNATURE. (op)
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    I did not see you raise your hand, now sit back down....LOL kidding. People are ALWAYS going to judge you no matter what. Get a thick skin because throughtout life you will meet people you can't stand and others you can tolerate.
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,829 Member
    I have nothing to add other than. I. LOVE. YOUR. SIGNATURE. (op)

    Haha, thanks! Love the name.
  • grrrlface
    grrrlface Posts: 1,204 Member
    My boyfriend's mum always calls us "children"... I'm 22 next month and my boyfriend's 23!! It's kinda irritating now. :/
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I didnt go through this at your age...but i was often mistaken for being much older than my age most of my life.

    I apparently looked 18-25 until I turned 20. Now I am often mistaken for 18-19. Still not treated like I am dumb though...

    Maybe you are just hanging around nasty people. I act very goofy and sweet in real life...so...I think it is the ppl you are surrounding yourself with probably~

    dont take it to heart :)
  • thetrishwarp
    thetrishwarp Posts: 838 Member
    I get jokes about being "the baby" a lot, because I'm the youngest of all my friends.

    However, no one ever puts me dow or treats me differently because of my age - most people tend to forget.
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    Pssh, I'm 30 and my family still treats me like a child. I'm the youngest, and I was a "surprise" baby so my sisters are much older than I am. They like to forget that I'm a grown woman with kids of my own now. :laugh:

    I'm just happy I can finally get into a rated R movie without being carded. My kids have finally aged my face enough that I look older than 18. But now I never get to see rated R movies because I always have the kids with me, so it's kind of a moot point.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,159 Member
    guess what...it doesn't stop when you're older, either...
  • bear_nakey
    bear_nakey Posts: 340 Member
    Everyone at my job is at least 20 years older than me (I'm 28). Despite me being in the business for 11 years, I still get treated like a child. Well, except when they need something and no one else knows how to do it :p. I get discriminated against by customers often too. I work in a predominantly older male job, so I get it two different ways. Totally a bummer, but what can ya do?!
  • Banrion
    Banrion Posts: 157 Member
    My friend love to tease me about being the baby of the group. Since my freshman year in college I have noticed that all my friends were at least 4-5 years older than me, I was over high school sooner than others. I am 21, the baby as they day. My friends are 28, 35, 34, 26 and 37. I recently just realized I have no friends my age, and I take joking about me being a 'baby' in good humor, it is annoying cause they are always saying, well you won't remember what we are talking about you were 3 or 4 at the time.
  • nothingisred
    nothingisred Posts: 292 Member
    I've not really had this problem much. I'm 21 but when I was 17 my parents went through a very messy divorce and because of it I had to grow up very quickly. Because of this people are always telling me I act very mature for my age (people find it very hard to guess how old I am because I'm constantly mistaken for looking a LOT younger than I am, but as soon as they speak to me they think I'm a lot older than I am).

    As far as I'm concerned age is only a number and I never pay attention to how old people are or judge them because of their age. I've met people who are late 20s and act like they're still 18 and vice versa. I only ever judge people on who they are and if people make judgements about me based purely on my age then I can't be bothered to give them the time of day to be honest.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    I'm a student and when I go back home for the summer I work at my mom's company and have been doing since 18.. One of my employees use to be like aww she is so cute.. Your just growing up ( at 18/19) ... I just worked their this passed summer (now at the age of 21) and like she still says it and talks to me like I'm 15 and I've been working their way longer than her... I'm very mature for my age actually... I like independency... But yes I use to get that when I was 19.. But honestly I could see why people may treat you a certain way because your young... At the age, your still learning and still going through immature and mature actions simultaneously. My younger brother is 19 and is growing through that.. We tease him sometimes but he is still growing up.. Just continue to be you and people will lay off eventually.

    I appreciate that :) And sometimes, I'm sure I deserve it. But people ask for advice sometimes and don't take mine seriously. Even though I have a 4.0 and go to school for the kind of thing I'm giving advice for. :laugh: It's not a big deal, just wondered if others got treated that way too.

    I totally understand. I'm going on 22 and still get treated like I'm so young. But it's okay, it will eventually go down as you increasingly mature. I am still maturing! I just learned to ignore it. We all go through it :)
  • driaxx
    driaxx Posts: 314 Member
    My sisters are 10 years older than me and all my cousins etc. are at least 4 years older than me too, so I'm basically the baby of the family. They still refer to me as 'the baby' or 'the kid' when they're talking about me. I have my mum's genes and look really young as well - so that doesn't help, but people always tell me I look young and act mature (Saturday night's not included).

    I don't really hate being the youngest though, it comes with many privileges, so I let them think what they want and embrace it haha it means you always have people looking out for you :)
  • Deathwithab
    Deathwithab Posts: 462 Member
    im only 23 now but for the last 5 years ive been talked down to like im 15 ( hell i still get asked what grade im in or if i go to there highschool... lol) people like to just assume everyone whos a little younger or even looks younger is imature and has no respect . witch isnt true for a lot of people,ive been working since i was 13 ... and left home at 18
  • deeharley
    deeharley Posts: 1,208 Member
    My neighbour who is in her 50's always refers me and my husband as "the kids"... it doesn't really bug me overall, it just makes me feel like she thinks we're children... we're married, own a house, have a business, etc, not really kids. LOL

    Ever since I was a child, my father has called EVERYONE a kid. One time, he said something about that kid driving a car. I said, "Dad, that guy's at least seventy." Dad said, "He ain't dead, he's a kid."
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