Good riddance!

wadair
wadair Posts: 31
edited October 4 in Introduce Yourself
I've had a frantic and busy last ten days that included a weekend out of town ... llogged on and seemed to have lost a couple of friends. Good riddance! If you need constant and daily interaction from me and feel the need to punish me for having a life, you have issues. Issues!
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  • joejccva71
    joejccva71 Posts: 2,985 Member
    Is this a serious post?

    (looks at post count)
  • getitamb
    getitamb Posts: 2,019 Member
    I feel that.
  • Healthyby30
    Healthyby30 Posts: 1,349 Member
    Is this a serious post?

    (looks at post count)

    This...lol
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    yet, it was enough to warrant an entire dedication thread. :flowerforyou:
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    To be fair to those who deleted you, sometimes people join here with the best of intentions and don't follow through. You didn't log in for 10 days very soon after you joined, and obviously hadn't had a great deal of interaction with your "friends".

    Since you have only been here for a short time, attachments haven't been formed.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    don't look at my post count...
  • joejccva71
    joejccva71 Posts: 2,985 Member
    don't look at my post count...

    Lol why not. It's nice. ;-)
  • Gigi_licious
    Gigi_licious Posts: 1,185 Member
    I'm going back to bed!...I mean, work....
  • yummy♥
    yummy♥ Posts: 612 Member
    don't look at my post count...

    i had to look.
  • I agree with you. I log on here daily but I don't always comment on each person. Besides if you have alot of friends, how can you comment on everyone? You would have to be sitting at the computer all the time. I think you did right in making this statement. Chin up child. Enjoy life. :flowerforyou:
  • don't look at my post count...

    LOL!
  • Okay I stand to be corrected, is this a serious thread also, but geez, look at all those posts by others, I feel like a baby.:flowerforyou:
  • CakeFit21
    CakeFit21 Posts: 2,521 Member
    Do you remember their names?
  • wadair
    wadair Posts: 31
    Thank you! Obviously...it annoyed me. : )
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    After 10 days in the red I would have deleted you too. I will celebrate my 365 days here in 9 days. I missed one day when I had surgery, I only keep friends that are commited to this life style.
  • Tegan74
    Tegan74 Posts: 202
    I agree with you. I log on here daily but I don't always comment on each person. Besides if you have alot of friends, how can you comment on everyone? You would have to be sitting at the computer all the time. I think you did right in making this statement. Chin up child. Enjoy life. :flowerforyou:

    That would be why I dont have a ton of people on my list ~ So I can still interact and not sit at the computer all the time :)
  • Amanda_Runs
    Amanda_Runs Posts: 169 Member
    After 10 days in the red I would have deleted you too. I will celebrate my 365 days here in 9 days. I missed one day when I had surgery, I only keep friends that are commited to this life style.

    100% agreed!
  • boston6
    boston6 Posts: 158 Member
    I've had a frantic and busy last ten days that included a weekend out of town ... llogged on and seemed to have lost a couple of friends. Good riddance! If you need constant and daily interaction from me and feel the need to punish me for having a life, you have issues. Issues!

    Bit thin skinned, aren't we?
  • catwrangler
    catwrangler Posts: 918 Member
    Do you remember their names?
    win
  • hatsmom
    hatsmom Posts: 4 Member
    I'm new to this, but does it really matter how many friends you have out here. I don't have any yet and I'm okay with that. :glasses:

    Maybe someone can enlighten me??
  • jetscreaminagain
    jetscreaminagain Posts: 1,130 Member
    I was a little AWOL when I travelled home for a week after my mom died. It looks like I have less freinds, but in reality, one or more of my friends deactivated because of a bunch of BS here. I feel badly that I wasn't able to be supportive to a particular friend, or at least wish her well. It isn't about my issues, but that I wasn't there for her.

    No I don't comment on everyone every day, but most of my friends have something notable every few days. I think my friends were aware of what was going on with me when I was not real involved for a week, because I had said something on my news feed. Some of the folks here were really wonderful, sending me encouraging words while I was out that really made a difference for me.

    Mostly, the people here are awesome, especially if you aren't expecting people whose real names you don't know to act like your BFF's.
  • Jorra
    Jorra Posts: 3,338 Member
    You've been on MFP for less than a month. You admit you were gone for ten of those days. Why are you so upset at losing a couple "friends" that you clearly barely know from the internet? I think you are the one with issues. Issues!
  • Apryl546
    Apryl546 Posts: 909 Member
    I just deleted 5 people from my friends list because they haven't logged in, and they were people who constantly left for long periods of time.
    I don't delete the people when I know they have left for personal reasons but plan to be back, because they make it KNOWN to their friends list.
  • Healthyby30
    Healthyby30 Posts: 1,349 Member
    You talk about people punishing you for "having a life". THIS is my life, not the website necessarily, but I am devoted to getting healthy! I have always have a tab open for MFP while I'm on a computer and check back frequently. Even when I'm not logging on to the website to interact with others I'm still tracking food, checking posts, etc. I have the app on my phone so I can track my calories when I'm not near a computer. So, when people see that you don't log on at all, especially after just opening your account, they probably see your lack of devotion and don't want people like that on their friend list.

    Also, I was MIA for quite a while earlier in the year. I lost a few friends quite understandably, but I also had a lot of friends that were checking up on me because I had been here so much before! They did so because I interact with them frequently and lend support when needed, and visa versa. You seem upset that people whom you haven't even formed a connection with dropped you because you were gone, that's ridiculous.
  • Sometimes when my friends cut me I go into depression mode and basically lose all the progress that I've made. It's a horrible cycle and sometimes I feel that my MFP friends aren't really my friends at all. I just get the feeling they're just these people on a site that I share some common goals with that I communicate with electronically. I hate when I think like this. God I need some pizza and wings.
  • Apryl546
    Apryl546 Posts: 909 Member
    Sometimes when my friends cut me I go into depression mode and basically lose all the progress that I've made. It's a horrible cycle and sometimes I feel that my MFP friends aren't really my friends at all. I just get the feeling they're just these people on a site that I share some common goals with that I communicate with electronically. I hate when I think like this. God I need some pizza and wings.
    Don't worry.
    I won't cut you.
    ;]
  • AliciaStaton
    AliciaStaton Posts: 328 Member
    :bigsmile: I thought this site was here to help support people. At the end of the day you probably would have never met these friends. This is about you taking that step to become more healthy, isnt that what we are all here for. I have some friends but we dont always comment on everything we do, you just got to get on with it. At the end of the day I need to lose weight and thats what I am doing
  • After 10 days in the red I would have deleted you too. I will celebrate my 365 days here in 9 days. I missed one day when I had surgery, I only keep friends that are commited to this life style.

    I tend to agree with this. Although this is my first day, I want to surround myself with those that are as dedicated as I am to a healthier lifestyle.
  • Bankman1989
    Bankman1989 Posts: 1,116 Member
    I've had a frantic and busy last ten days that included a weekend out of town ... llogged on and seemed to have lost a couple of friends. Good riddance! If you need constant and daily interaction from me and feel the need to punish me for having a life, you have issues. Issues!

    I don't talk to strange trees anyway..lol

    i cut people who aren't logging in and definitely not interacting. The who point of this site IS to log your foods and workouts. If your not being consistent/supportive then what's the point? Might as well be on facebook!
  • TS65
    TS65 Posts: 1,024 Member
    Not that I don't love my MFP friends, I do. BUT... if one or 2 or 20 decide to drop me, it's not the end of the world. Why? They aren't REAL true life friends. Oh sure, they support me on my MFP journey. And, we chat about different things, laugh and generally seem to care about each other - but rarely do we get into the nitty gritty of REAL life.

    This is just a general statement (not specifically to any one poster) - but if someone's feelings get hurt when on-line friends delete them, it's time to re-evaluate why they put so much into an online relationship (e.g., a person you'll never meet in real life). Just sayin'
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