Lifeless, bored, and i hate my family.

In the words of a very wise man who is like a father to me:

Suck it up, princess.

At the risk of sounding like a mom of young adults (which I am), I'm going to share some mom thoughts/questions, since these are the things that come to mind to me as a complete stranger when someone your age expresses so little optimism, hope, motivation, etc. You mentioned your family had been affected by financial issues, which certainly affects the whole family. Even when you're better off than some/many, if the prospects are now different for your future than you had grown up expecting, there is an adjustment period. I know many young adults your age or slightly older whose future was changed in a moment due to job loss, foreclosures, etc.--the "dream college" is gone and it's a local technical college, the support parents said they would be able to provide turns into loans, health insurance is gone and they can no longer afford necessary prescriptions, etc. The world won't end but it's not what it was and it can be hard to see a more positive future.

So with all of that, my concern/question would be whether you have seen a physician and discussed your concerns/symptoms? You could be suffering from depression or some other mood disorder, or some other medical condition that also presents with depression. And again being a mom of young adults, if you are using any substances such as marijuana, alcohol, etc., those could be affecting your mood as well or exacerbating psychological issues, esp. if use is more than occasional.

I understand people's "suck it up" response but I also know from firsthand experience with young people in my life that sometimes a kick in the pants isn't going to help solve the problem.

It sounds like you need therapy or rehab. If you can't afford it, try Meetup.com and look for depression help groups. Good luck.

I swear this type of drama only happens with teenage girls. Always with the pity parties. Whoa is me................try doing something constructive like volunteering at a place where under privileged children go. Or helping seniors out who need it. You are choosing to stay at home and are whining about it.

I think everyone's entitled to do a little ranting and raving every now and then. Yes, it's not something you'd want to listen to all the time, but sometimes these things just need to be let out to make the speaker feel better. Give the OP a break. I'm sure we've ALL been there before.

I'm sorry that you're going through such a hard time, but things will get better. What are your hobbies? If you like animals, try volunteering at an animal shelter. Volunteering of any kind is great in itself plus it looks good on resumes and college applications. Go to your local library or park and rec/beacon center and see if they have any classes to take (things like sewing, computer skills, arts, yoga etc...) These things are generally free or very cheap and would also be a handy way to meet new people. Anything with exercise in it will boost your endorphins and make you feel good. If classes or workshops aren't your thing you can go to your library again and browse the isles to find something new that is interesting. Learn a language or try cooking foods from a different culture. Try some hands on projects that you either never thought of or didn't think you would like before. (Origami, knitting, gardening etc...) Once you find something to devote your time and effort to you'll feel much better.

I've also know how it feels like to not be the favorite. My grandmother obviously prefers my cousin because he's smart and a male. And it's not just a little favoritism either but rather a full blown 'his wants are more important than your needs' sort of thing. Uh... I don't know how much help I would be in that department though since my solution was to simply stop interacting with her. It's been working so far.

I hope this helps! Good luck and take care!

I think everyone's entitled to do a little ranting and raving every now and then. Yes, it's not something you'd want to listen to all the time, but sometimes these things just need to be let out to make the speaker feel better. Give the OP a break. I'm sure we've ALL been there before.

I'm sorry that you're going through such a hard time, but things will get better. What are your hobbies? If you like animals, try volunteering at an animal shelter. Volunteering of any kind is great in itself plus it looks good on resumes and college applications. Go to your local library or park and rec/beacon center and see if they have any classes to take (things like sewing, computer skills, arts, yoga etc...) These things are generally free or very cheap and would also be a handy way to meet new people. Anything with exercise in it will boost your endorphins and make you feel good. If classes or workshops aren't your thing you can go to your library again and browse the isles to find something new that is interesting. Learn a language or try cooking foods from a different culture. Try some hands on projects that you either never thought of or didn't think you would like before. (Origami, knitting, gardening etc...) Once you find something to devote your time and effort to you'll feel much better.

I've also know how it feels like to not be the favorite. My grandmother obviously prefers my cousin because he's smart and a male. And it's not just a little favoritism either but rather a full blown 'his wants are more important than your needs' sort of thing. Uh... I don't know how much help I would be in that department though since my solution was to simply stop interacting with her. It's been working so far.

I hope this helps! Good luck and take care!

Ranting and whining are different. This chick's a whiner.

I have been where you are, recently. I wore myself out trying to find solutions to a problem that was mostly a result of crappy economy. I became irritable, and felt hopeless. Every suggestion made to me I replied with an "I tried", "I can't", "Nope, not working" response. The truth was that I eventually realized that no matter how many times I tried (for nearly three years), nothing would get better if I didn't keep trying. Try the same things, try new things, try to think of things that you haven't thought of before.

Honestly three years later things are still not where I want them, AT ALL. But I am working to be happy with the things I have been able to create for myself.

I also understand not having money, transportation, or friends. Living in an area where it is hard to meet people, and get around. I just had to expand my mind to include things that I thought were impossible. Walk three miles in the rain to volunteer at the library, I would not have considered, now it's something I am proud to have done. No great victory was every come by easily and this is no exception. Just think of this time as a battle, and your story of how you overcame it could be your gold medal, and the one story you get to tell later that makes someone give you an opportunity you would not have otherwise had.

Here are more suggestions: Read books (from the library) about anything and everything I have ever been interested in. Grow a garden, knit a scarf, practice yoga, paint your toenails, collect every scrap piece of cloth in your families house and sew a patch-quilt, learn how to create things from your environment. Fly a kite in a local school yard. Research anything you can online and create and action plan. Read stories about really successful people, and consider the challenges they had to overcome. Clean a room (other than your own) in your house, this may also get you some needed positive attention from your mom? Ask your neighbors if you can walk their dogs. Train for a marathon (even if you just walk it). Learn to meditate. Join an online support group for depression, and try to be supportive rather than dismissive. Find several online communities to check and read regularly. Teach yourself a hobby even if it it nothing more than paper mache.

Make a list of everything you have thought interesting and try each one for a day. Ask your neighbors, family and family friends how you can help them in their lives. Most people need a little help with something, be it organizing family pictures, or cleaning out a garage, but would not think to ask someone. Don't expect to be paid in money, but appreciation, and getting out of the house can be incredibly valuable when you are feeling the way you do.

Your post was requesting advice on how to improve your situation. Many people provided suggestions which you promptly dismissed with a reason why not. Please do not be offended at their suggestions, or at their offense to your response. Put yourself in their shoes for a second.

Although I know you are already hearing this from everyone else, the ability to change your situation right now is most dependent on you changing your point of view, not the situation you are in. Try it for a bit. I wish you the best of luck.

Ranting and whining are different. This chick's a whiner.

A few years back i was in a sinilar position. Through circumstances beyond my control i had to leave college early so didn't get my qualifications then got bullied out of my first full time job. I lived on my own at the time. I found that lack of money was a massive barrier. Unless someoen has been there and had that problem they just don't get it. If you can't drive and only use public transport that is a huge problem for a lot of people. It took a couple of years till i managed to get something. I was really lucky that a new call center was built and they pretty much hired everyone who applied so that was how i managed to get out of my slump.

If you are not going to enroll in uni, you should just keep applying for jobs and i know nowadays 75% don't even reply to you it is disheartening but if you don't apply they you are not going to get anything.

Meanwhile try googling the area where you live and volunteering and you might find something to do. Is there a goodwill shop near you? They always wants extra staff, (at least here they do). It's not a fabulous job but it is something to put on your CV and if you can show up on time for your shifts and do your job well then that is also a good reference for future employer's whatever it is yo actually want to do.

If you are not sure what you want to do, find out where your nearest careers office is and they could help you with thinking about what you want to do with your life.

So keep positive and keep trying and eventually you'll get yourself sorted. Also be patient with your mum, She might not even realise she's showing favoritism, maybe even have a quiet chat to her at some point, not in the middle of an argument and not in front of your sister.

would you like some cheese??