Partner Doesn't Eat The Same

I WISH I HAD A GOOD ANSWER FOR YOU BUT I AM IN THE SAME SITUATION.. I DON'T SO MUCH WANT WHAT HE IS EATING ANYMORE AS I AM JUST TIRED OF MAKING 2 MEALS.
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Oooh, I hear you there. I have to turn down ice cream... cake... sweet stuff pretty much ALL the time.

But in all honesty; perhaps it's not so much WHAT you eat, but how much of that stuff you eat. Have /some/ white rice. Not as much as you'd normally have. Control the amount on your plate. You get the yum factor, but not the bloat factor.

I had a very similar question of my personal trainer once when I asked about cheese omlettes. I said 'I'll cut the cheese out' and he asked 'what would that do?'. I thought about it and said 'I'll get cheese cravings'. So he suggested 'Keep the cheese in the omlette, then you won't binge later'. Which I thought was a fair call on his side.

That said; I often cook two meals. One for the family, and an omlette (which is super quick and easy) for me.

Last time I asked For his support with me getting into shape he made me cry. He basically said its my stupid idea to get into shape so it's my job to do it by myself.

He knows how eating chocolate ect in front of me makes me feel as he'll say stuff like "haha you can't eat this" ect.

sounds like a ****. Tell him to cook his own food & ditch him!

As far as rice goes, why not try finding some enriched white rice....all the healthy parts of brown rice without the same taste!

And yeah...he sounds like a jerk to me. What you described is emotionally abusive behavior and you shouldn't put up with that. Just my opinion...

My boyfriend eats the exact opposite as me. Often times right next to me. He knows it's unhealthy, but he doesn't have a weight problem so diet is low on his priority list. I did join him last winter for a few months, and gained 10lbs. Now I've learned to tune it out because I know I'll gain 10lbs if I give in.

ETA: Although we eat differently, my boyfriend is very encouraging and tells me constantly how proud he is of what I've accomplished and loves my will power. You need that support to succeed..I hope you start getting it.

Last time I asked For his support with me getting into shape he made me cry. He basically said its my stupid idea to get into shape so it's my job to do it by myself.

He knows how eating chocolate ect in front of me makes me feel as he'll say stuff like "haha you can't eat this" ect.

sounds like a ****. Tell him to cook his own food & ditch him!

totally agree.....it sounds like it has nothing to do with food but with the lack of emotional support or giving a crap in the marriage..he may be find with you but you deserve to be who you want to be..

I'm agreeing with this! Your partners job is to support you, you are supposed to be a team! Kick him to the curb and move on up!

You are not a short-order cook. If it's stressing you out and you're the one doing all of the cooking, tell him he can eat what you make, or fix something for himself.

Yes, yes, yes. Point him in the direction of the kitchen if he doesn't like what you're cooking.

Didn't read the other replies before I posted. He sounds like a jerk. Definitely kick him to the curb.

When I went on my diet, I told my boyfriend he was joining me, and that was the end of that. I'll cook sausage for breakfast for him, or add green peppers to his portion of the meal, but other than that we eat the same things. He complains now and again but he's looking a lot better now.

Jerks who sabotage your diet obviously do not love or respect you and should get kicked to the curb.

Sounds like there are multiple levels of things going on here. He might be afraid of your changing and be trying to sabotage it. If this relationship is worth it, find a counselor for you both to go to. If he won't go, don't let that stop you - you'll get the support you need from inside yourself once your counselor helps you find out why you let yourself be treated this way and how to stop it.

When I moved in with my boyfriend, his diet changed completely. No more soda, no more candy, no more junk, and no more meat. Just real food. How? I cook (and do it very well), he doesn't as much. End of conversation.

He eats meat or fast food or whatever sometimes out with the guys or if we eat out, but that's about it, and I could care less.

I don't think that you need to necessarily leave/divorce him, but if I were taunted like that or EVER (even with kids, please believe) was told I "had to" cook two separate meals, that yummy sundae would end up in his face and he would end up on the couch. Aren't I a dollface?

ok so I don't have a partner, but I apply this rule with my kids. If they don't eat what i've cooked, they go hungry. (unless they do it themselves but they are only 3 & 5, and that's not happening anytime soon).
So that being said. He has 2 arms, and 2 legs, what's stopping him from cooking his own meal.

Last time I asked For his support with me getting into shape he made me cry. He basically said its my stupid idea to get into shape so it's my job to do it by myself.

He knows how eating chocolate ect in front of me makes me feel as he'll say stuff like "haha you can't eat this" ect.

awwwwwww you don't have a "partner". you have a "*kitten*". how about you lose all 180 pounds of HIM too?

I take vicarious pleasure from seeing my husband enjoying ice-cream and cake when I can't. I'm afraid I've been encouraging it, and while I have lost weight, he has gained. While I've been dieting, we've been eating the same for dinner (but I've been eating less for breakfast and lunch, avoiding dessert and exercising more). Now he's dieting too, he wants lighter dinners - so I'm going to have to adjust my balance for the rest of the day to make it work.

My partner doesn't need to lose weight, so I have to cook 2 different dinners every night...
I'm just wondering how other people handle watching someone eat what you want to eat ALL THE TIME?!

You have little kids, right? You want them to grow up eating a variety of healthy foods, and you want them to see healthy ways of interacting with family members. You don't want them to think it's OK to be unkind and mock the people around them.

It might feel like you're the one with the problem - you feel like you have to cook twice, you struggle watching him eat junk food in front of you - but actually you're the only adult in your house who is modeling the right behaviors. You're the one who's pulling it together, even despite a loved one going out of his way to put up obstacles. You're the one thinking about the future. You're the one willing to do the hard work. You might feel like you're the weaker one, but I suspect that you're really the brains running this operation....so use those brains and ask yourself, why on earth would he want to see you fail? What's good for you and your kids in the long run?

I don't know you or him, but I worry about a guy who can't be supportive about something as simple as a different way of eating. When the kids are sick, you're exhausted, money's tight, someone you love dies...when you experience all the other problems that eventually happen to everyone, in other words....where's this guy going to be?