appropriate drinking times...

JulieSD
JulieSD Posts: 567
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
Do you think its appropriate to drink (more than one glass of wine/bottle of beer, etc) while your children are awake or should you wait until they are in bed for the evening before you break out wobbly pop?

My children see me drink, they know that they can't taste it and I feel that its actually good for them to see their parent(s) drink in moderation and not get out of control.

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  • wbgolden
    wbgolden Posts: 2,066 Member
    They know it's daddy's special headache medicine.
  • MayMaydoesntrun
    MayMaydoesntrun Posts: 805 Member
    Never really thought about it like that. If I want a beer, I'm going to have one. My son knows it's yucky.
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    I will not touch a drink until double digits... you know like 09:00 :drinker:
  • NKF92879
    NKF92879 Posts: 601 Member
    I saw my parents an other relatives drink when I was a kid. It was never a big deal. I was allowed sips when I was about 12 or so, and half a glass here and there when I got older. I didn't get "drunk" until I was almost 19, I wasn't one of those kids who went out drinking in high school. I think kids need to see good (and realistic) examples of how to act as an adult.
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member
    I may have a beer with dinner occasionally, but usually wait until they're down for the night before getting tipsy.
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    I saw my parents an other relatives drink when I was a kid. It was never a big deal. I was allowed sips when I was about 12 or so, and half a glass here and there when I got older. I didn't get "drunk" until I was almost 19, I wasn't one of those kids who went out drinking in high school. I think kids need to see good (and realistic) examples of how to act as an adult.

    I agree
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I wouldn't get tipsy or drunk in front of them, but a glass or two, or a beer or two isn't too bad I think.
  • JennW130
    JennW130 Posts: 460 Member
    i dont get totally plastered in front of my kids, but i will get a good buzz. Also, my husband doesnt drink so if I have a couple too many drinks (which is pretty rare, like maybe a couple times a year) daddy is there = ) As long as my kids are in the house and safe i dont see the problem.
  • Samiwhereareyou
    Samiwhereareyou Posts: 277 Member
    my parents had wine/'beer for dinner all the time when I was growing up and I would ask for sips but the smell of it grossed me out as a kid and i didnt understand why they wanted it. They told me it was a sometimes food like ice cream or soda they never got wasted. When I was a teenager with a license they paid me and my sister to Be Drunk Drivers for their parties they had with there friends it was a good experience for me because i saw them cut lose with there friends be real people having a good time not just parents and nobody threw up or started drama and they were responsible and got DDs. I feel it made me a more responsible drinker.
  • kenzietea
    kenzietea Posts: 614 Member
    I grew up around alcohol, and when I became old enough, allowed to taste it. At the age of 16, everyone in my family is given the occasional glass of wine at dinner. Seeing my family drink responsibly and never lose control and being introduced to the substance in a very healthy way, I never, ever felt the need to go through the 'party and get f-ed up' phase of life, and I am 21. I think its good to expose your family to some things, over sheltering never works- ask my crazy party friends what happened when they went off to college and escaped their alcohol-and-drug-free homes.
  • coyoteo
    coyoteo Posts: 532 Member
    I saw my parents an other relatives drink when I was a kid. It was never a big deal. I was allowed sips when I was about 12 or so, and half a glass here and there when I got older. I didn't get "drunk" until I was almost 19, I wasn't one of those kids who went out drinking in high school. I think kids need to see good (and realistic) examples of how to act as an adult.

    I agree

    I agree as well.
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    I won't get intoxicated, in fact I usually wait until they are asleep unless we're in company.

    However, I would rather them know you can have a couple drinks and be a responsible person.
    I don't want them to think it's such a taboo thing it needs to be hidden.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    If one literally makes you wobbly, then you might have a point about limiting yourself.
    If that's not really the case, just relax and they get the message to not get all uptight.
  • farmgirlsuz
    farmgirlsuz Posts: 351 Member
    Children should not be shielded from everything in life. They need to know that it is OK for ADULTS to drink (in moderation). How else are they ever going to learn how to handle it and behave appropriately? If it is something that you have to "wait until the kids go to bed" to do, well then that sheds a little mystery on the actions and make them even more inquisitive. IMO
  • reepobob
    reepobob Posts: 1,172 Member
    I will not touch a drink until double digits... you know like 09:00 :drinker:

    Hey, it is 12:00 SOMEWHERE, right?
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I grew up with both. A heavy drinking father and a mother who never drank. Frankly, I'd rather have seen moderation.
  • skierxjes
    skierxjes Posts: 926 Member
    There's picture of me having my first drink at like 3 or 4 years old ha my dad didn't drink much growing up, but my mom did/does like 5-6 nights a week
  • avaloneternal
    avaloneternal Posts: 216
    I agree, I grew up with my parents making wine. I hate the smell of it when it is being made and still cannot stand wine or beer. It was never forbidden so it was never a big deal (my parents let us taste it whenever we wanted to and we always thought it was gross). I didn't even get my first buzz 'til I was 23 (ironically, after I finished Bible college). I now drink occasionally, I like the hard stuff but I drink mainly for the taste. I do not get fall down drunk and do not really like the feeling past a good warm buzz. It is all about teaching them how to responsibly handle it.
  • judith3
    judith3 Posts: 296 Member
    Well i grew up with an alcoholic father who drank constantly and my mom never drinks. i hate hate hate beer its what my dad would drink i cant stand the smell or sight of it. Although i don't drink often i do drink sometimes i have never been drunk or hungover, i only drink when i want to none of that peer pressure stuff and i usually only have a drink or two also i didn't drink until i was out of high school and i dnt drink unless theres a DD or i end up being the DD. i think having an alcoholic father taught me how to drink responsibly and well then there's always that fear inside of me that ill turn into an alcoholic (it runs in my dads family) That being said i would of preferred growing up in a home without alcohol my childhood was hell, but i dont think its wrong to have a drink or two in front of your children as long as your not getting F**ed up in front of them
  • ZombieKillaPrincess
    ZombieKillaPrincess Posts: 404 Member
    i think a drink or 2 is fine... just as long as you don't get sauced in front of them! also if you're the only parent around, i'd keep it at 1 just in case you had to drive.
  • stampede55
    stampede55 Posts: 474
    I like to wait for my kids to go to sleep before I get faced. I will do shrooms when they're awake though, cause that *kitten* is a trip!!! :smokin:
  • KokomoJoe
    KokomoJoe Posts: 435
    If you have to ask about appropriate drinking times then maybe you drink to often.

    I would take my daughter for dinner when she was little and order a beer. The only time she saw me drinking at home was on weekends. Weekdays wouldn't touch the stuff.
  • SarabellPlus3
    SarabellPlus3 Posts: 496 Member
    I won't get intoxicated, in fact I usually wait until they are asleep unless we're in company.

    However, I would rather them know you can have a couple drinks and be a responsible person.
    I don't want them to think it's such a taboo thing it needs to be hidden.
    That's pretty much my philosophy. I think I'd do my kids more of a disservice by making alcohol this HUGE taboo issue. It's not treated like a big deal in my house-- mom (me!) usually has a glass of wine with dinner, dad a beer. No big deal. :) Though I don't get crazy drunk in front of my kids, the only people I've known to have a problem with drinking at all in front of kids are people who don't get the difference between having a drink or two and being slobbering drunk.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Only two that are appropriate.

    Day time and night time. :drinker:
  • bigdawg025
    bigdawg025 Posts: 774 Member
    24/7
  • Just_Dot
    Just_Dot Posts: 2,283 Member
    My kds know that we drink...they're called "grown up drinks" in our house and the kids know that it's not for them. Both of my patents were (are) social drinkers and I really think that is why I didn't have the urge to get wasted in jr high or high school like so many other of my classmates.
  • xtinalovexo
    xtinalovexo Posts: 1,376 Member
    appropriate drinking times... all day erryday.

    the kids know whats up!
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Ill have a glass of wine or a beer with dinner every so often. Anything harder than that I do at night when theyre asleep. Not because Im hiding it but because I can be slightly more irresponsible then :bigsmile:
  • Misiaxcore
    Misiaxcore Posts: 659 Member
    My parents always drank in front of me. My mom not so much though, only when we were out somewhere. My dad always made a rum/whiskey and coke that I always wanted to taste. He would let me have a sip and it tasted awful so I knew not to drink daddy's alcohol =] But when I did get a taste that tasted only like coke... I would drink the whole thing xD.

    I hate coke and any carbonated beverage now.

    Edit: Also they never got drunk, except once in a while but didn't act it.
  • Tiggerrick
    Tiggerrick Posts: 1,078 Member
    This is one of those difficult things. If you keep it from them, they may find it much more appealing and want to do it more. If you do it infront of them, it makes it OK which may make them want to do it more. Catch 22.

    I think that teaching and talking about things; de-mystifying things is the best choice. So if you do it in front of them, do it responsibly. Don't make it out to be a bad thing. They will eventually try it themselves. I just hope my lessons 'took' and he will be an adult about it.
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