Unsupportive Friends!!

Stop expecting it of them.

Seriously.

As great as it would be to have everyone's support, don't waste any time or disappointment on waiting for them. Maybe they will come around. Maybe not. Regardless, your willpower will begin to amaze you.

I will quote my son!! Ignore the haters!!!

Well while Im working out I expect NO ONE to support me at all....actually I haven't told any of my friends or family that Im workingout daily and trying to lose weight...I just let them see the results. Stop expecting them to support you...as long as your doing good you don't need support...support isn't going to help change your body, action does.

I have friends who will say things to me like 'You're not becoming anorexic on me, are you?' (At 280+ lbs I'm pretty sure the answer to that is an obvious no!) It's gotten to the point where I will just say something about a certain goal that I have. 'Nope, just trying to drop a few pounds before my brother's wedding' or 'Nope, just trying to eat better so I don't die before I'm 30' or something along those lines. I've noticed that most times these negative comments come from friends who are insecure about their own weight and/or eating habits, and they just want someone to make them feel less guilty about their own poor choices. Stay strong! You've worked too hard to surrender now.

If I know I'm going out to eat, I try to eat sensibly for the other meals & snacks. Also, I try to go online and check out a menu if I can and get the nutritional info to find a decent meal. It's not always the salads that are healthiest. If none of that works, try eating BEFORE you get together and have water or unsweet tea and enjoy their company. If they can't accept that, it might be time for a heart to heart with your besties.

At the end of the day, YOU are responsible for your health & happiness. It's important to have friends that are supportive & love every aspect about you. If they are truly your friends, they will accept the new you and work to accommodate your request. I just wonder WHY when you're trying to lose weight your friends treat you like the disabled kid at the lunch table?!?!?! I have the same issue & I just hang out with them less & less because I don't need that in my life.

Good luck!

This may sound really bad, like I am degrading my own gender, but... Girls are very catty, jealous, and vindictive. If they think for a minute that you look better than them, they will do everything in their power to look better than you. The first thing a lot of girls do when they go out is size up their competition. You just have to ignore it, and stick to your guns. It will pay off in the long run.

First I'd suggested that you really look at your friends. If they are good friends and dont hold you back in all other aspects in your life, just ignore them in regards to your new lifestyle changes. If they are always dragging you down, you need new friends.

If you are looking for support, you'll have to add to your friends with people going through the same things as you. Otherwise, be prepared to support yourself. You can't expect others to change for you just to help support the changes you have made for yourself. Stay strong!

Probably they are insecure in themselves and you making changes is holding a mirror up to their life and not just in a physical way. In a social dynamic people will be place subconsciously into roles so if you were always the "big one" that could be scary for them to see a change in the social structure of the group.

A friend of mine took me out for chinese yesterday, she asked me is that all your goings to eat. Honey my plate was full. I will not do that again. Felt guilty all day. : ( Todays a new day.

Being devil's advocate here, and not meaning any disrespect, maybe they are trying to get you to have a little fun. You are out with them to be social and have fun, maybe they see how hard you've been working and are giving you an opportunity to have a cheat meal and enjoy it. One cheat meal out with friends will not completely derail your hard work or future hard work. Believe me, I know. You don't always have to be ON your game especially if you don't always get an opportunity to check out a good restaurant, why waste it on a salad?

I have to say, I do completely agree with this point of view - if they are good trustworthy & valuable friends, then the intent of sabotaging your success with your weightloss wont even cross their mind. More likely they just want you to let go and enjoy yourself whilst in their company, nothing more nothing less x

Try to get one or two of them to join you in your journey! if more than one are doing it then the others will most likely not give their two-cents... obviously this doesn't ALWAYS work...but most of the time it does... plus you will have a work out buddy!

Be proud of your own accomplishments and take care of yourself. They will respect you in the end. Do remember to have some fun once in awhile. You can always exercise another 20 min. the next day!

Judging by your pics, you are very beautiful already...

One thing ive noticed is that we are often much harsher judges of ourselves than our friends are.

True friends see their friends as beautiful...and probably more and more beautiful as the friendship closens.

I would not take it personally. My friends always tell me, "You are so skinny, you don't need to lose weight!" I don't think they are trying to sabotage me or are just being polite. I honestly feel they like me how I am, because they don't see me as a potential mate and are not walking in my shoes.